DartTeamGoalie
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So I am mostly a lurker on here, and I know you don't know me, but I really am looking for advice. I discovered in March that my wife had been unfaithful to me. Long story short, she has been involved with four guys over the past 11 - 12 years. Three were physical, and the fourth mostly emotional over email, although they did meet twice and kiss. The letter I found to the most recent guy said that he was her true love and if they had met under different circumstances, she would have chose him over me. She is now very remorseful and wants to reconcile.
I know what you are thinking.... drop her like a hot rock. I mostly agree, but there is a complication. We have two sons, aged 10 & 7, and they are both adopted. As I am sure most any parent in my situation would, I have strong hesitations about ripping their lives apart. But the fact that they are adopted makes it feel worse. I feel like in essence we made a pledge to their birth mothers to provide them with a stable loving home as they grow up. The fact that she had already been unfaithful once before we adopted infuriates me beyond words.
So what say you? I am prepared to stay for the benefit of the kids, but I don't think I want to. We are going to counseling but quite honestly I can't ever see me truly wanting to be married to her again. God help me.
I await your comments. I don't mind schtick and smart ### comments, but I am not really in the mood for them.
Thanks.
I know what you are thinking.... drop her like a hot rock. I mostly agree, but there is a complication. We have two sons, aged 10 & 7, and they are both adopted. As I am sure most any parent in my situation would, I have strong hesitations about ripping their lives apart. But the fact that they are adopted makes it feel worse. I feel like in essence we made a pledge to their birth mothers to provide them with a stable loving home as they grow up. The fact that she had already been unfaithful once before we adopted infuriates me beyond words.
So what say you? I am prepared to stay for the benefit of the kids, but I don't think I want to. We are going to counseling but quite honestly I can't ever see me truly wanting to be married to her again. God help me.
I await your comments. I don't mind schtick and smart ### comments, but I am not really in the mood for them.
Thanks.