Wife uses sex as a weapon (1 Viewer)

[Walton Goggins]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Thanks but I think we have this covered. LOTS of vets in here with chock full of knowledge.

 

[Bogart]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Email sent thanking him for posting. Athol replys within 10 minutes asking for specifics of my situation. This is why Internet was invented.Thank you Al Gore.

 

[shadyridr]

Is his name really Athol?

 

[Bogart]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Email sent thanking him for posting. Athol replys within 10 minutes asking for specifics of my situation. This is why Internet was invented.Thank you Al Gore.

Just a quick thanks to Athol. Exchanged a half dozen or more emails tonight. Questions and answers, answers and more questions. He asked things I hadn't thought about and gave really solid responses to my answers. Sifted through more crap in one evening of email exchanges that I would probably do in the first 4 weeks of counseling. Gave really good ideas to take into the counselor. I appreciate his time and effort.

 

[Mrs. BSR]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Email sent thanking him for posting. Athol replys within 10 minutes asking for specifics of my situation. This is why Internet was invented.Thank you Al Gore.

Just a quick thanks to Athol. Exchanged a half dozen or more emails tonight. Questions and answers, answers and more questions. He asked things I hadn't thought about and gave really solid responses to my answers. Sifted through more crap in one evening of email exchanges that I would probably do in the first 4 weeks of counseling. Gave really good ideas to take into the counselor. I appreciate his time and effort.

 

[KGB]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Email sent thanking him for posting. Athol replys within 10 minutes asking for specifics of my situation. This is why Internet was invented.Thank you Al Gore.

Just a quick thanks to Athol. Exchanged a half dozen or more emails tonight. Questions and answers, answers and more questions. He asked things I hadn't thought about and gave really solid responses to my answers. Sifted through more crap in one evening of email exchanges that I would probably do in the first 4 weeks of counseling. Gave really good ideas to take into the counselor. I appreciate his time and effort.

Wow, pretty cool.

 

[Dr. Awesome]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Thanks but I think we have this covered. LOTS of vets in here with chock full of knowledge.

So why turn away another man with experience? Especially when he's clearly going out of his way to help/offer advice? Do we have a limit on those posters the ffa allows?Welcome aboard Athol. I'm a long ways from marriage but your book has piqued my interest. There should be an athol in every marriage.

 

[Zegras11]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Thanks but I think we have this covered. LOTS of vets in here with chock full of knowledge.

So why turn away another man with experience? Especially when he's clearly going out of his way to help/offer advice? Do we have a limit on those posters the ffa allows?Welcome aboard Athol. I'm a long ways from marriage but your book has piqued my interest. There should be an athol in every marriage.

I kindled the book when this thread started 18 days ago, almost done with it and the results so far have been

 

[JFT Ben]

I kindled the book when this thread started 18 days ago, almost done with it and the results so far have been

Agreed, past week has been awesome once I stumbled upon Athol's website (and, no, I'm not a paid sponsor, just someone who read his stuff and it made sense)! Basically, for me, a month of fun times in a week... though the wife is a little sideways/off kilter both mentally and physically after incorporating some of the methods Athol describes. She says I've been acting "weird", but what I've done has skewed things back in the right direction for my marriage. Though it's a little more involved than this, I think I can break it down as 1) don't put the P on a pedestal 2) STOP being a P, man up and rule the roost and 3) Goof on your wife like she is a little sister (kid around with her, throw some sarcasm and win the sh-t tests as they seem to be called, but still show your love - a push/pull in this regard is key).

 

[urbanhack]

Is his name really Athol?

 

[The Gator]

Is his name really Athol?

Hold your tongue and say #######?

 

[Walton Goggins]

Hi there,just happened to see my name and linkage to my blog and book in this thread. Very much appreciated.I don't want to turn this into anymore of a sales pitch than it is, but the book costs about 3-4 minutes of a divorce lawyers hourly fee and is far more enjoyable. It's practical, hard hitting advice about how women really work. No frills, no fancypants cover, nothing but book. Easy reading.http://www.marriedmansexlife.com is the blog, and you can read some of the first parts of the book there in the tabs across the top of the blog.

Thanks but I think we have this covered. LOTS of vets in here with chock full of knowledge.

So why turn away another man with experience? Especially when he's clearly going out of his way to help/offer advice? Do we have a limit on those posters the ffa allows?Welcome aboard Athol. I'm a long ways from marriage but your book has piqued my interest. There should be an athol in every marriage.

Cause I was kidding Unless passed by Joe though I don't think this is a great place for people to peddle their websites. Pretty much what you can learn from free here is > having to pay for it on a site.ETA: If purchasing this book is better for you then

 

[Maelstrom]

If your religion basically tells you do not ever get divorced then that's completely different animal.

I know plenty of LDS friends and family who are divorced. You are not disciplined for getting a divorce in and of itself. The LDS church does not basically say "never get divorced". It is certainly an option but should be one of last resort. I'd think that idea is similar to most any marriage religious or not (not sure on Catholics).

We're probably straying pretty far from the original topic, but I know Jehovah's Witnesses strongly counsel against divorce, and will actually shun someone who gets divorced and then remarried "without cause." The only "cause" that allows for remarriage is adultery by the other party. Obviously cases of abuse and other edge cases are considered acceptable reasons for a divorce, although that person would still be instructed not to get remarried unless their former partner commits fornication first. They also strongly believe in waiting until you are married to live together or to have any kind of sexual relations (anything beyond kissing.)I've been reading this thread because even though sex isn't/wasn't used as a weapon in my house, we went through a fairly extended period where sex was painful to the point where it was impossible for my wife. It definitely puts a large strain on the relationship and is a hard thing to recover from. Sometime maybe I'll post the whole story, but lets just say I can emphasize with the OP.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

Is his name really Athol?

Pretty sure it's a Dutch/South African name.

 

[gollum]

Is his name really Athol?

Pretty sure it's a Dutch/South African name.

Petty sure If i had requested that name it would have been rejectednot that I ever use an alias...

 

[The_Man]

Is his name really Athol?

Pretty sure it's a Dutch/South African name.

Petty sure If i had requested that name it would have been rejectednot that I ever use an alias...

Would have had to have been Athlol Fan

 

[aicfan1]

So my wife who is in her first trimester, pregnant with our 3rd, just said to me in tears "Please don't ask or talk about sex anymore". I think I've mentioned or joked about sex maybe 3 times in last 4 weeks. She suffers from depression and thus went off her medicine when she discovered she was pregnant.

YEAAAAH ME!!!

 

[rascal]

I just bought The Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 for my Kindle.

 

[rascal]

So my wife who is in her first trimester, pregnant with our 3rd, just said to me in tears "Please don't ask or talk about sex anymore". I think I've mentioned or joked about sex maybe 3 times in last 4 weeks. She suffers from depression and thus went off her medicine when she discovered she was pregnant. YEAAAAH ME!!!

If she is pregnant her mind is screwed up anyway, especially so since she is off her anti-depresents.Your next 6 months are going to be hell...might as well prepare yourself.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:

1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.

2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.

3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.

4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

 

[aicfan1]

So my wife who is in her first trimester, pregnant with our 3rd, just said to me in tears "Please don't ask or talk about sex anymore". I think I've mentioned or joked about sex maybe 3 times in last 4 weeks. She suffers from depression and thus went off her medicine when she discovered she was pregnant. YEAAAAH ME!!!

If she is pregnant her mind is screwed up anyway, especially so since she is off her anti-depresents.Your next 6 months are going to be hell...might as well prepare yourself.

Yep. I resisted, resisted, and resisted some more on having another kid, but she eventually wore me down (that and rolling the dice on a girl). All rationality on why it wouldn't be prudent to have a third went out the door with her when discussing it. I think more than anything all I want to do is scream "SEE, I TOLD YOU SO!!" I'm thinking that wouldn't go over so well in our quality of life.Anyone know how to fake your own death?

 

[aicfan1]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

I need some reference here.....how ugly?

 

[Buddy Ball 2K3]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

I need some reference here.....how ugly?

We need pics of at least 3 possible ugly chicks

 

[Tiny Dancer]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

I need some reference here.....how ugly?

Someone that you would consider a "2" on a scale from 1-10.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

We need pics of at least 3 possible ugly chicks

I'm not going to do this, but if anyone else wants to take the hypo and run with it, feel free.

 

[rascal]

Does the fat ugly chick at least have a good pair of #### or a good ###?

 

[Nate]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

Easy. Marry the hot one and figure out what makes her want to have sex more.

 

[Socrates11]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

Can the wife bring a friend home(female) once in awhile, or does that fall into the cheating/swinging category? Important question here.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Does the fat ugly chick at least have a good pair of #### or a good ###?

No.

Easy. Marry the hot one and figure out what makes her want to have sex more.

She does not like sex.

Can the wife bring a friend home(female) once in awhile, or does that fall into the cheating/swinging category? Important question here.

That would count as swinging.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

 

[urbanhack]

If you had to choose between being married to an attractive woman who hates sex or an ugly woman who loves sex, which would you prefer? This question is not directed to anyone in particular. And a few rules to make this official:1) You can't cheat on your wife or be a swinger in either circumstance.2) You can't buy a bunch of plastic surgery to make the ugly one hot.3) The attractive one will give you sex occasionally, but very infrequently and begrudgingly.4) You cannot choose to be single or gay and you can't say that you would marry some other woman. It's gotta be one of these two.

Easy. Marry the hot one and figure out what makes her want to have sex more.

Or find out if she minds if I masturbate in front of her.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

You can self-help no matter who you're married to.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

You can self-help no matter who you're married to.

Yes. So having the every-once-in-a-while secks with the 10 and self-helping >>> than giving it to a 2 for eternity. Frankly, I think I'd have some difficulty getting it ready for the 2.

 

[Bogart]

So my wife who is in her first trimester, pregnant with our 3rd, just said to me in tears "Please don't ask or talk about sex anymore". I think I've mentioned or joked about sex maybe 3 times in last 4 weeks. She suffers from depression and thus went off her medicine when she discovered she was pregnant. YEAAAAH ME!!!

Best of luck sir.

 

[aicfan1]

We need pics of at least 3 possible ugly chicks

I'm not going to do this, but if anyone else wants to take the hypo and run with it, feel free.

Wow, this is in excellent hypo...its got me thinking in my 'starving-in-the-desert' state. Obviously, the 2 out of 10 can't be COMPLETELY revolting or else there is no point. If completely revolting then obviously I would take the begrudging hottie. If the ugly wife is at least semi-attractive on some level (good personality?...I would say she would have to or again, it would be pointless), I might have to double bag it up and go with 2 out of tenny. :shudders:

 

[rascal]

Does the fat ugly chick at least have a good pair of #### or a good ###?

No.

Easy. Marry the hot one and figure out what makes her want to have sex more.

She does not like sex.

Can the wife bring a friend home(female) once in awhile, or does that fall into the cheating/swinging category? Important question here.

That would count as swinging.

Then I wouldn't get married.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

You can self-help no matter who you're married to.

Yes. So having the every-once-in-a-while secks with the 10 and self-helping >>> than giving it to a 2 for eternity. Frankly, I think I'd have some difficulty getting it ready for the 2.

Millions of people around the world have sex with 2s all the time.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Then I wouldn't get married.

Sorry, the hypo says you have to.

 

[Bonzai]

Then I wouldn't get married.

Sorry, the hypo says you have to.

Does either one of them have a really neat personality?

 

[rascal]

Then I wouldn't get married.

Sorry, the hypo says you have to.

In that case I drug the hot one whenever I want sex.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Then I wouldn't get married.

Sorry, the hypo says you have to.

Does either one of them have a really neat personality?

Their personalities are equally attractive to you. Same with other unstated factors (e.g., income, views on children, in-laws, whatever).

 

[Bull Dozier]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

You can self-help no matter who you're married to.

Yes. So having the every-once-in-a-while secks with the 10 and self-helping >>> than giving it to a 2 for eternity. Frankly, I think I'd have some difficulty getting it ready for the 2.

Agree here. Eventually, unless you are married to a complete minx, it gets to be a little routine with the same woman every time. If there isn't even the bonus of an attractive body, the regular sessions would slow down, and you wouldn't really be motivated to have sex with the 2 more often than occasionally when you were really in the mood. So, eventually you'd be in the same situation either way. Occasional sex with the 2, or occasional sex with the 10. Obviously that's an easy choice.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

Self-help >>>>> having sex with a 2 for eternity.

You can self-help no matter who you're married to.

Yes. So having the every-once-in-a-while secks with the 10 and self-helping >>> than giving it to a 2 for eternity. Frankly, I think I'd have some difficulty getting it ready for the 2.

Millions of people around the world have sex with 2s all the time.

Yes. 1s, 2s, 3s and drunk frat. boys.

 

[rascal]

Then I wouldn't get married.

Sorry, the hypo says you have to.

Does either one of them have a really neat personality?

Their personalities are equally attractive to you. Same with other unstated factors (e.g., income, views on children, in-laws, whatever).

Impossible. Liking sex is part of a persons personality.

 

[Third]

...Tiny Dancer's hypo is quickly turning into the 5 sandwiches or 5 women thread.

 

[Exit 1]

Does the #2 have skills?

 

[rascal]

Just for the record, what will the ugly one let me do to her?

 

[Yankee23Fan]

I'll take the sex with a 2 over killing myself for a 10. On some level, looks are overrated anyway, and 2's usually try a lot harder because they know they are 2's. I've never been a believer in the trophy spouse aspect of relationships so I really don't care what other people think or say.

 

[Idiot Boxer]

I'll take the sex with a 2 over killing myself for a 10. On some level, looks are overrated anyway, and 2's usually try a lot harder because they know they are 2's. I've never been a believer in the trophy spouse aspect of relationships so I really don't care what other people think or say.

I'll take "Things a chubby chaser would say" for $500.

 

[Yankee23Fan]

I'll take the sex with a 2 over killing myself for a 10. On some level, looks are overrated anyway, and 2's usually try a lot harder because they know they are 2's. I've never been a believer in the trophy spouse aspect of relationships so I really don't care what other people think or say.

I'll take "Things a chubby chaser would say" for $500.

I really wasn't even thinking of weight. IS that in the hype-o? Anything over like 200 pounds is a problem.I hate these things. The question never has enough information and the mental gymnastics get frustrating.