Thorn
Footballguy
So things have been going pretty well with the gf. We are coming up on one year of dating. Lately our fights have centered around being together when she has her son. Her son is 7 and a good kid, she and the father were married for just over a year; they divorced when the kid was an infant. As far as I can tell father is a good dad and is very involved in son's life, and she and the ex get along as well as can be expected. I don't have any kids; never been married.
Until recently, I viewed the time when she had her son as our alone time. We weren't really ready for me to be "part of his life," as it were. As we have gotten more serious it has made sense for us to spend time together as the three of us. I get along very well with her son, though we don't have tons in common. His dad is a guy that likes to work on cars and watch movies, the son's interests mirror that. He has no interest in playing catch or going to sporting events or anything sporty.
It had made sense to me to schedule solo things for times when she has her son. Round of golf, beers with the guys. She is saying that I avoid her when she has him and she feels like a single mom. I'm not sure what to do here. I don't enjoy going to McDonalds with them while he plays on the playground, or even to the park just to watch him run around. I don't mind doing things with them or even doing nothing with them from time to time, but I don't think I should be hanging out every time she has her son. Am I being selfish here?
Until recently, I viewed the time when she had her son as our alone time. We weren't really ready for me to be "part of his life," as it were. As we have gotten more serious it has made sense for us to spend time together as the three of us. I get along very well with her son, though we don't have tons in common. His dad is a guy that likes to work on cars and watch movies, the son's interests mirror that. He has no interest in playing catch or going to sporting events or anything sporty.
It had made sense to me to schedule solo things for times when she has her son. Round of golf, beers with the guys. She is saying that I avoid her when she has him and she feels like a single mom. I'm not sure what to do here. I don't enjoy going to McDonalds with them while he plays on the playground, or even to the park just to watch him run around. I don't mind doing things with them or even doing nothing with them from time to time, but I don't think I should be hanging out every time she has her son. Am I being selfish here?