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OK. My update.

I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.

That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.

We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.

At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

Congrats and good luck, MITYH!

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OK. My update.

I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.

That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.

We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.

At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

I hope your baby is fine, and is your baby.

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

Does the dude who's schvantz she was supposedly playing firefighter with in the bathroom have a cleft lip?Best of luck, bro. I'm sure it's yours... but there are DNA tests they can do to give you piece of mind.

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someone smarter than me is gonna have to bump this in a few months

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

Congrats and I hope everything works out for the best with the health of your child.

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This could very well be the most elaborate fishing trip this board has ever seen.

In case it is not -- I've had the pleasure of having that awful ultrasound where the doctor finds something missing with my baby. From the PMs I received after discussing it, a few of us here have had the same experience.

When I first left the ultrasound, for one afternoon, I fealt a dispair that was crushing, even though it was a relatively minor thing, all things considered (her right hand was missing, but they feared a genetic problem like Downs). Thankfully, my daughter did not have Downs. And, physical disability or no, my daughter is one of the most joyful people I have ever met, and she gives me immeasurable happyness.

Hopefully the doctors will find everything is fine. Even if you get some bad news, sure, allow yourself some time of self pity. Feel it, savor it, and then put it past you and move on, so you can experience the joy your baby will bring you.

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Jesus. Give the guy a break.

:rolleyes: People go way too far around here sometimes. Dude's worried about the health of his unborn baby. Thoughts & prayers.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.

I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.

You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

We had a single umbilical artery, and everything turned out fine. They'll make her get an ultrasound about every other week, and they got my wife into a fit by suggesting that there's the ever so slightest increase of risk of downs in such cases, but it's really nothing to worry about too much. Congrats.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.Tough situation, tough call.

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Jesus. Give the guy a break.

Whos bothering him?
Seriously? Nobody, I guess. Nevermind.
He himself said sometimes he wonders. And the due date is 9 months after this camping trip so its fair to wonder. Of course everybody hopes that the baby is healthy and that it is his.

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best wishes

I would have a paternaty test. Sucks to have to, but it is your wife's fault.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.Tough situation, tough call.
Wait until its born and run the test without her knowledge. Thats what I'd do.

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Jesus. Give the guy a break.

Whos bothering him?
Seriously? Nobody, I guess. Nevermind.
He himself said sometimes he wonders.
You're right. I missed that sentence. Apologies. Carry on.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

Even if he is wondering, getting ambiotic samples for something that isn't threatening the life of the child is just stupid. There is a risk involved with those procedures. Furthermore, let's presume that this is his child. It's probably the most likely assumption, unless MITY was not getting any for the entire month of June or something. How is that going to be good for his marriage when there's concern for the child's welfare right now, and he's more worried about the camping trip and getting paternity tests at this point? This has serious potential to backfire here.Worry about the kid at this point, and if you are having doubts when it is born figure something out then.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.Tough situation, tough call.
It's not a tough call at all - when we had the single umbilical artery they gave us the option of getting ambiotic samples to test for downs. They explained that there is some risk with the procedures, very small, but there is some. The child having downs wasn't something that would have changed our decision at all, so we opted not to risk the health of the child for something silly.Unless there is some reason that involves the health of the child, it's ridiculous to get those sorts of tests done at this point. It's not in the best interests of that child in any way.

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.Tough situation, tough call.
if she has nothing to hide, why would she care....i'd hope she'd want to do it to clear things up

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:sadbanana: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:sadbanana:Other things may have happened, but not this.Congrats on the baby and hopefully everything will turn out all right.

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

We had a single umbilical artery, and everything turned out fine. They'll make her get an ultrasound about every other week, and they got my wife into a fit by suggesting that there's the ever so slightest increase of risk of downs in such cases, but it's really nothing to worry about too much. Congrats.
:sadbanana:Congrats to both of you.

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:sadbanana: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:sadbanana:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :sadbanana:

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:lmao: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:thumbdown:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :shrug:
Congratulations.

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:lmao: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:thumbdown:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :shrug:
itasca state park, family bathroom here (the one that locks), good times. Edited by mozzy84

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.

I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.

You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.

Tough situation, tough call.

It's not a tough call at all - when we had the single umbilical artery they gave us the option of getting ambiotic samples to test for downs. They explained that there is some risk with the procedures, very small, but there is some. The child having downs wasn't something that would have changed our decision at all, so we opted not to risk the health of the child for something silly.

Unless there is some reason that involves the health of the child, it's ridiculous to get those sorts of tests done at this point. It's not in the best interests of that child in any way.

I guess I should have said "paternity test" instead of "DNA test".

I assume that you would actually have to request such a test to be done, thus bringing it out into the open and digging up past issues that MIYH and wife are "over".

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i hope that shortly after the due date we get an update about the kid looking like steve, and then after 15 more years of stories when the 16 year old steve-alike is getting bailed out of prison for campground arson that the OP finally admits this was the mother of all fishing trips

but if no, good luck!

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Do yourself a solid and run a paternity test. Sooner rather than later.I'm not a lawyer, but I'm pretty sure that if act as the father to a child for X ammount of time, you become legally and finacially responsible for that child until they're 18.You trust your wife, and thats good. Even so, better safe than sorry. Do you really want to raise this child as your own and then find out later its not? Bottom line, you'll always wonder, you've expressed enough doubt here for that to be as plain as day. Everytime you look at it, you'll wonder. Don't do that to yourself. Find out the truth, whatever it may be. GL.

I agree, but I doubt his wife will go for it (see behavior after incident). Especially if MIYH is "over" it. Dragging a DNA test up will mean he is definitely not "over" it, nor show that he trusts his wife.Tough situation, tough call.
if she has nothing to hide, why would she care....i'd hope she'd want to do it to clear things up
I don't think she could be accurately described as wanting to clear things up when this thread first broke... but that could have changed, who knows...But yeah, you'd hope that would be the case. But people are emotional, especially pregnant ones... Edited by Black Box

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:lmao: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:goodposting:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :shrug:
are you still gettin in the girls pants

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I honestly dont know why I open this thread, especially at lunch time.

Makes me sick to my stomach every time I read it.

MITYH ... best of luck with everything. You are a better man than I, seriously.

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:lmao: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:goodposting:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :shrug:
Humpty?

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Helpful thought: human beings, typically, suck at keeping secrets. If something big had happened, it just wouldn't have stayed under wraps this long.

Edited by Doug B

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OK. My update. I've come to grips with this all and moved on. I believe my wife, and have no reason to doubt her.That being said. She is pregnant and due in March. There is a small part of me that does wonder at times. However, I'm pretty confident that the worst case scenario will not play out here. To me, there are bigger fish to fry right now.We have a 3D ultrasound scheduled today. Turns out there are supposed to be three vessels in the umbilical cord that show up on ultrasounds. They only saw two on the first pictures. Didn't sound too serious, but they're being cautious. On top of that, the doc who read the first ultrasound didn't like the picture of the babies face. He was concerned that not enough top lip was showing. Cleft lip is what he's worried about.At this point, my main concern is finding out that everything is OK with the kid.

GL man. Hope the kid is healthy and happy!: )

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Just testing the new sig.

:thumbdown:Back on topic, I have no idea what to really say about this. This doubt will probably nag you forever. You might as well and get the paternity test so you know. Then if it's yours, your guilt about not trusting your wife will nag you forever.gllllllllllllll

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:lmao: There is no way they had sex in a campground bathroom. You people are nuts asking for him to get a paternity test.

:lmao:Other things may have happened, but not this.
I once got busy in a Burger King bathroom. :shrug:
Are you spunky?Do you like your oatmeal lumpy?

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