and sometimes people are just human and overlook, forget, make a mistake - except that can result in tremendous pain (or worse) in some situations. 2-3 days after I came back to consciousness after my first and most significant surgery, we had very clear instructions from the Surgeon about my pain meds. I was to stay on the drip as opposed to go to oral meds, because I hadn't eaten, it would likely make me nauseaus and other reasons.
Well, the nurse came in to disconnect my drip and give me the oral meds... my team (mom and wife) pleaded with them to not do it... they did it anyway, and somehow screwed up more because while they stopped the drip, did NOT give me the pills. 90 minutes later and im in excruciating pain, only to finally have them give me the pills, only to have me throw them up, which is exactly what the Surgical team wanted to prevent (mind you, I hadn't eating in probably 4-5 days at this point). It literally sent me backwards in an already delicate recovering, only days removed from going sepsis from divirticulitis and then c-diff, the combo almost killing me.
There was one point where my wife was pushing for something, and she could be pushy, but you have to be. The surgeon who was standing in for mine (she was on vacation) had the gaul to ####### yell at ME, while I was in recovery (this was after the second major surgery) and call me and my wife out. I was in so much pain, had been dealing with hospitalizations for 18 months, was confused, depressed... just all over the place mentally, and a ####### doctor had the nerve to make me feel even worse, to the point I just started to cry. Needless to say, when my family found out about that, a deserved new round of hell was raised, and I swore to never again to to that hospital - which is a shame, because it's nationally ranked, and the nursing staff was generally great compared to others.
I have found that the level of attention and care is MUCH better here in Texas than back on Long Island, fwiw (had my third surgery here, though it was nothing compared to the others, and was only in the hospital for about 5 days to a week for that one).