Are you successful? (1 Viewer)

[Ditkaless Wonders]

I never said 'cunning'.  Not once.

Maybe you committed a typo there, though "N" and "T" are fairly far apart on the keyboard.

 

[Doctor Detroit]

80,000 posts isn't real, right?  That's like one of those things where Jason Wood inflated it as shtick?

80,000 posts isn't real, right?  That's like one of those things where Jason Wood inflated it as shtick?

Probably half of my posts are baseball and college football related, so that leaves you with a 10k post lead talking mostly about broken dishwashers and hiring people to cure your lawn. 

 

[Da Guru]

The term success is relative.  Is money success?  Fame success? A family that adores you success? Friends  that like and trust you success?  I grew up in a lower middle class family as my wife did.  We made it out and live in an area and house I could only dream about when I when younger.  That alone does not make me feel successful.       When my wife and daughters write me cards and letters saying what a great dad or husband I am is when it really hits home.   Being so close to my wife and kids and my friends makes me feel successful. 

 

[fantasycurse42]

Can I get an a link or reply about the iDating/marriage ruining/motel meetups? Maybe a picture of the chick via PM?

I've searched and couldn't locate

 

[General Malaise]

Probably half of my posts are baseball and college football related, so that leaves you with a 10k post lead talking mostly about broken dishwashers and hiring people to cure your lawn. 

I've never once even considered looking at the number of posts I have or anybody has.  Who cares?  DD is a good guy and a good poster.  Seems like he's successful enough to have a job and post as much as he wants.  What's wrong with that?  

 

[Card Trader]

Acting as if post count = social life is hilarious.  Some people don't dig ditches all day preventing them from posting.

 

[eoMMan]

 

[Otis]

Oh there's an awkward glance alright. 

 

[chauncey]

Are you really rambling on and on about some petty #### that happened a decade ago? Involving a mediocre looking single mom who was on a fantasy football forum? I normally enjoy your random insightful essays that pop up every few months but your posts in this thread (other than the first one) have left me scratching my head. 

 

[Tiger Fan]

Acting as if post count = social life is hilarious.  Some people don't dig ditches all day preventing them from posting.

like we care what you and your 2 digit reputation thinks

 

[Ditkaless Wonders]

Oh there's an awkward glance alright. 

He's quite passionate about making exactly clear that we know that he does not care about what happened 10 years past, nor about those persons to whom he pays no mind, except when he does.  

I'm looking forward to the 20th anniversary post by him about him not being effected at all by not fitting in well with people he regards not at all. 

 

[bentley]

How many posts do I have?

Which FBGal flashed the camera at a Florida Panthers game a few years back? That's the one I miss.

 

[Cliff Clavin]

Someone desperately wants to be part of an iClique. 

 

[IC FBGCav]

More hilarious than Nipsey pretending to be me. Then demanding someone else stop talking to me after claiming to be me. Then continuing for years to claim to be me. Then having his butt buddies on this board, the same ones who have a message board to talk about a message board, mob up to defend him as a creep stalker. Then everything I say now, since most you in this IClique are too arrogant and narrowminded to think otherwise, will blame one of your own for everything I say.

Again, the unintentional comedy factor here is off the charts.

You guys just don't like being called out. But how is that inconsistent with what I do and say after a decade here. I call people out all the time.  I have even called out the Staff here for all kind of things. Have done it  over and over again since I started posting here, but apparently no one can and is allowed to do that but one of you in your little IClique.

If you guys want to form your own little sub community within the larger one, and share your phone numbers and hang out and have your little inside jokes and make this board the fulcrum of your social life, then have at it. Except you guys can't seem to do it without being giant douchebags who feel entitled to everything that gets said and done relating to this board. That's how out of touch some of you are, you are actually defending some creeper who scared off one of the like 4 women on this site and then spent years pretending to be me because he can't get a date.

So for Nipsey out there, or General Malaise, or whomever the flying #### you are, here's me calling you out and laying it out straight - I'm not in your little IClique and IFriends social circle. I don't have my number or chat handle or email passed around, I don't hang out with the people on this board, I don't have that investment here. And every time those people in your IClique look at you now, whether you want it or not, they will always have that hesitation, that awkward glance, that lingering thought, that you could be and are very likely the degree of mind ####ed creeper that I say you are. As for me, it costs me nothing. What do I have to lose? Board popularity? The same 20-30 of you have been tossing mud at me for a decade now, its not like I cared about being board popular and its not like you are all doing anything different than what I get all the time here for years now.

Nipsey, you kept tempting the bull and now you get the horns. And while your 20-30 butt buddies will crowd around you, there are thousands of people who pass through this site every day who will simply follow the path of least resistance and let me frame the narrative for them. You are a creepy stalker type and nothing you do now will change how people here are now going to silently look and think about you.

In the end, nothing has changed about me since I called FBGirl79 a low end 5 all those years ago, I call people out and usually, much to their irritation, I'm right.

Who are the same 20-30 people, the least you can do since you hijacked my thread.   But I must admit, you made it more interesting.

 

[General Malaise]

More hilarious than Nipsey pretending to be me. Then demanding someone else stop talking to me after claiming to be me. Then continuing for years to claim to be me. Then having his butt buddies on this board, the same ones who have a message board to talk about a message board, mob up to defend him as a creep stalker. Then everything I say now, since most you in this IClique are too arrogant and narrowminded to think otherwise, will blame one of your own for everything I say.

Again, the unintentional comedy factor here is off the charts.

You guys just don't like being called out. But how is that inconsistent with what I do and say after a decade here. I call people out all the time.  I have even called out the Staff here for all kind of things. Have done it  over and over again since I started posting here, but apparently no one can and is allowed to do that but one of you in your little IClique.

If you guys want to form your own little sub community within the larger one, and share your phone numbers and hang out and have your little inside jokes and make this board the fulcrum of your social life, then have at it. Except you guys can't seem to do it without being giant douchebags who feel entitled to everything that gets said and done relating to this board. That's how out of touch some of you are, you are actually defending some creeper who scared off one of the like 4 women on this site and then spent years pretending to be me because he can't get a date.

So for Nipsey out there, or General Malaise, or whomever the flying #### you are, here's me calling you out and laying it out straight - I'm not in your little IClique and IFriends social circle. I don't have my number or chat handle or email passed around, I don't hang out with the people on this board, I don't have that investment here. And every time those people in your IClique look at you now, whether you want it or not, they will always have that hesitation, that awkward glance, that lingering thought, that you could be and are very likely the degree of mind ####ed creeper that I say you are. As for me, it costs me nothing. What do I have to lose? Board popularity? The same 20-30 of you have been tossing mud at me for a decade now, its not like I cared about being board popular and its not like you are all doing anything different than what I get all the time here for years now.

Nipsey, you kept tempting the bull and now you get the horns. And while your 20-30 butt buddies will crowd around you, there are thousands of people who pass through this site every day who will simply follow the path of least resistance and let me frame the narrative for them. You are a creepy stalker type and nothing you do now will change how people here are now going to silently look and think about you.

In the end, nothing has changed about me since I called FBGirl79 a low end 5 all those years ago, I call people out and usually, much to their irritation, I'm right.

You used the word "little" here four times.  Old GG poster wouldn't have been so redundant and certainly wouldn't have let something like side boards bother him so much.  You're slipping, man.

 

[Peyton Marino]

too bad the board doesn't track word count too amirite

 

[Chadstroma]

Success for me will be that my kids grow up to their full potential- are healthy, happy, safe and put relationships first above all else. If that happens and they can look back to their Daddy as someone to be proud of, someone they respect and someone they love deeply: then I will consider myself successful and have made it. Time will tell.

 

[Nipsey]

  On 2/13/2016 at 8:28 PM, GordonGekko said:

Because I am not a group alias.

I started posting in about 2006-2007 or so. At that time, Girl A reached out to me in PM, gave me her phone number, and we started talking on the phone. Apparently she told someone named Nipsey, who she told me got enraged by it all. Like literally could not handle that she was dividing her attention away from him to anyone else. So he decides the best thing to do is post up and keep posting up that I am a composite account and that he has/had control of it.

I do not know who Nipsey is, I've seen a few of his posts and honestly have no idea why anyone would listen to him. Probably another mouth breathing jackoff whose entire social life revolves around the Interweb.

So that's it, that's what it came down to, some stranger on the Internet thought it was reprehensible that I was c0ck blocking him, when all I was doing was occasionally talking to some woman on the phone.

I'm very sorry this Nipsey guy has no game and has to rely on hybrid I-Relationships in his mind over women he stalks on the Internet. From what I remember, back then, she told me he DEMANDED to know what she and I talked about. That he STRONGLY ENCOURAGED HER to stop talking to me.

And frankly, over the years, when he openly claimed he was I, I just laughed. And laughed. I still laugh. He was pining for some woman he met over the Internet that he had no chance with and decided it was my fault.

Nipsey - The guy who has recrafted his EHarmony profile for the 50th time because his Kung Fu is so weak

Gordon Gekko - Taking #####es to Pound Town without breaking a sweat all the way back to the days of disco.

#IRawDoggedNipseysMother

#NipseysMomTookItLikeAChamp

#MyKungFuIsTheBest

WHAT???

 

[Tiger Fan]

WHAT???

There. He. Is. 

 

[Otis]

I'd like to hear more about Nipsey vs. Gekko

 

[AAABatteries]

#IRawDoggedNipseysMother

trending now on Twitter 

 

[-OZ-]

Opened the thread expecting some reasonably decent dialogue. This was so much better. Thanks for the laugh.

 

[Otis]

Speaking of “women” from this board, is anyone still in touch with Invisigirl?

Asking for a friend (Mr. Pickles). 

 

[Nipsey]

I'd like to hear more about Nipsey vs. Gekko

Nothing to hear. Funny stuff but no idea what he's talking about. I think he had me conflated/confused with someone else. If my memory is correct Capella actually spoke to Gekko on the phone who offered him career advice, which is hilarious shtick. Wish there was a recording of that call

 

[AAABatteries]

4 healthy kids, wonderful wife, good job. I may not be Chet but I'm better off than 95-98% of the people on the planet and I consider myself lucky and blessed.

 

A wise man once told me to start with the end in mind.  Picture how you want your life to look at 80 and then do the things now to make that happen.  

When I picture myself at 80 I don’t think about a large house or nice cars or a boat but I think about people and memories.  I think about my wife, who I want by my side and I want to be healthy - I think about my kids and grandkids.  That becomes my first set of priorities - a good marriage, my health and healthy, well-adjusted kids.

I then work backwards - what does 70 look like?  60?  At 60 I do think more about material things and toys/trips and retirement.  But I have to weigh those things against the things I want at the end of my life.  

What dows that look like right now at 43?

- I have my family located where there a support system (family) and a good community and schools - means I have an hour commute.

- I don’t job hop looking for a little more money - I have a job that allows me a lot of flexibility with my time and fits my skills

- I don’t incur any debt as it keeps my options open and lowers my stress

- I stay involved with my kids and their lives

- I work on my marriage and I stay faithful

- I take time off and trips - I don’t drive new cars but I use that money for my kids and their activities and spending time and making memories with them 

- I cut some people out of my life that didn’t align with my long term goals and that added stress

It’s a great exercise IMO - to look at your life with the end in mind - it really helps set priorities.  If I could just spend less time in the FFA I’ll be set. 

 

[NutterButter]

If I live past 60 I'll be dead broke and I'll need a liver transplant. So, no complaints really. 

I'll check back in at 65

 

[bentley]

Yes. Yes I am.

 

[bradyfan]

Yes.  I think I felt failure only a few times in my life, mostly because I controlled the outcome.  Once was when I did badly at a music audition due to poor preparation.  I knew deep down that I signed up for the wrong reasons.

 

[Politician Spock]

Healthy at 80 means being able to wipe your own ### without help. 

I'm 46, and have already lost hearing in one ear. Starting to get aches and pains from normal daily tasks. My ability to enjoy life is in decline, so I'm enjoying it as much as I can while I can. I quit my job 18 months ago. I now spend about 10 to 15 hours a week making sure business I own is doing well enough for me and my family to live off of. I consider myself semi-retired as I do absolutely nothing in the industry I had an over 20 year career working in. The stress of that career is why I ended up losing my hearing, according to my doctor. What I did 18 months ago is the best decision I ever made. I'm happy. And to me, that makes me successful. I can't imagine ever going back to corporate America. To be honest, I would kill myself if I ever felt like I had to. 

 

[Nipsey]

Here is my expert analysis on the Gekko alias:

The Gekko who posted in this thread and the original Gekko are the same guy. If anyone remembers the beginnings of the Gekko alias it was stellar shtick. Very well written. It was long-winded but the long-windedness was a vital element to the shtick. The posts were made with care and they got a ton of response. People took notice. You were never 100% sure it wasn't a real guy. Time passed and eventually the alias got just a bit stale. Still, each post was made with deep care and respect to the original idea. Eventually the posts didn't get the same response as they used to and the artist semi-abandoned the alias. Many years go by. One random night the man behind GG has a few and decides to dust off an old classic. He posts as GG in this very thread. He finds it's very difficult to replicate the past and almost impossible when you're half a bottle of Glenfiddich into the evening. So instead of the interesting and enlightening posts we came to know from GG, we got a sloppy and combative GG.  Sad. It shows you it can happen to the best of them. Gordon, if you're reading this, here's to the genius of the past and a sober attempt at a triumphant return. Also, #### you.

 

[djmich]

Healthy at 80 means being able to wipe your own ### without help. 

I'm 46, and have already lost hearing in one ear. Starting to get aches and pains from normal daily tasks. My ability to enjoy life is in decline, so I'm enjoying it as much as I can while I can. I quit my job 18 months ago. I now spend about 10 to 15 hours a week making sure business I own is doing well enough for me and my family to live off of. I consider myself semi-retired as I do absolutely nothing in the industry I had an over 20 year career working in. The stress of that career is why I ended up losing my hearing, according to my doctor. What I did 18 months ago is the best decision I ever made. I'm happy. And to me, that makes me successful. I can't imagine ever going back to corporate America. To be honest, I would kill myself if I ever felt like I had to. 

Always good to hear about people making decisions regarding their jobs and being much happier for it.

Interested in what you did, what was the killer stress point(s), and what business you have now.

 

[Politician Spock]

Always good to hear about people making decisions regarding their jobs and being much happier for it.

Interested in what you did, what was the killer stress point(s), and what business you have now.

I was an IT consultant. Virtualization specialist. 

The stress came from coworkers expectations. Have you ever heard the claim that 20% of the employees do 80% of the work? There's a lot of truth to that. And it's not because the 20% love doing 80% of the work. It's because the other 80% in one way or another get their work dumped on to the 20%. And when you complain to management and they respond "but you're such a rock star" and "everyone wants to use you because you're so good" you know they're not going to fix the problem. They have targets they have to meet, and of course they want their all star on the mound as much as possible. I left for a new company twice during my career, and in the end all three did the same thing to me. While my peers would work with 2 to 3 other coworkers to cover a 3 or 4 city territory, I was working with 15 to 20 coworkers covering two to three dozen cities, usually because the teams my other peers were assigned to wanted me on their most important deals instead of my peers. My peers were in hotels 30 to 40 nights a year while I was in hotels 150 nights a year working on their accounts. When I first started I enjoyed the work. But the constant dumping of responsibility on me got it to the point where the only reason I continued doing it was because it paid so well. I grew to hate it, but how could I walk away from such high compensation. People would think I'm an idiot to walk away from that.  I then developed Meniere's disease. That's what took my hearing from my left ear. When I asked my doctor how I got it, he said it either comes from an injury or from stress.... and I didn't have an injury. It was then that I concluded that no amount of money is worth a job that is killing me. I no longer cared that people would think I was an idiot for walking away from that job. My health and happiness were now what mattered most. 

Now, I am a semi-absentee 100% owner of a restaurant. I do all the marketing, book keeping, inventory management, and little things I haven't delegated to the manager. I make about two thirds of what I was making when I left my IT career, but instead of 50 o 60 hour weeks and 150 nights in hotels, I work about 10 to 15 hours a week and am home every night. 

 

[DallasDMac]

Now, I am a semi-absentee 100% owner of a restaurant. I do all the marketing, book keeping, inventory management, and little things I haven't delegated to the manager. I make about two thirds of what I was making when I left my IT career, but instead of 50 o 60 hour weeks and 150 nights in hotels, I work about 10 to 15 hours a week and am home every night. 

That trade-off seems.... logical.

 

[xulf]

This is a subject I have struggled with and has given me a lot of anxiety/depression.  On paper, I'm killing it...work, family, pay.  Its all I could have wanted and more.  But then you look around and its like...am I truly happy, why are others doing better, what's the point, what's the purpose.

 

[Homer J Simpson]

If you consider fat, depressed and just waiting for the sweet release of death to be "successful" then hell yeah I am!

 

[bradyfan]

This is a subject I have struggled with and has given me a lot of anxiety/depression.  On paper, I'm killing it...work, family, pay.  Its all I could have wanted and more.  But then you look around and its like...am I truly happy, why are others doing better, what's the point, what's the purpose.

Einstein once said, “A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness.”

 

[Da Guru]

This is a subject I have struggled with and has given me a lot of anxiety/depression.  On paper, I'm killing it...work, family, pay.  Its all I could have wanted and more.  But then you look around and its like...am I truly happy, why are others doing better, what's the point, what's the purpose.

I came from nothing but live in a community where it seems everybody has everything. Owners and Presidents of companies, Detroit Redwings and Tiger players, Living a life I never thought possible but no matter what I have there are so many bigger fish here.

My wife tells me every days she loves me, my one daughter is med school at Michigan and the other is a HS teacher and they both call or text me every day and say they love me.

So yes for the people in my life to say that...I feel very successful.

 

[djmich]

Einstein once said, “A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness.”

Timely

Einstein  

 

[djmich]

I was an IT consultant. Virtualization specialist. 

The stress came from coworkers expectations. Have you ever heard the claim that 20% of the employees do 80% of the work? There's a lot of truth to that. And it's not because the 20% love doing 80% of the work. It's because the other 80% in one way or another get their work dumped on to the 20%. And when you complain to management and they respond "but you're such a rock star" and "everyone wants to use you because you're so good" you know they're not going to fix the problem. They have targets they have to meet, and of course they want their all star on the mound as much as possible. I left for a new company twice during my career, and in the end all three did the same thing to me. While my peers would work with 2 to 3 other coworkers to cover a 3 or 4 city territory, I was working with 15 to 20 coworkers covering two to three dozen cities, usually because the teams my other peers were assigned to wanted me on their most important deals instead of my peers. My peers were in hotels 30 to 40 nights a year while I was in hotels 150 nights a year working on their accounts. When I first started I enjoyed the work. But the constant dumping of responsibility on me got it to the point where the only reason I continued doing it was because it paid so well. I grew to hate it, but how could I walk away from such high compensation. People would think I'm an idiot to walk away from that.  I then developed Meniere's disease. That's what took my hearing from my left ear. When I asked my doctor how I got it, he said it either comes from an injury or from stress.... and I didn't have an injury. It was then that I concluded that no amount of money is worth a job that is killing me. I no longer cared that people would think I was an idiot for walking away from that job. My health and happiness were now what mattered most. 

Now, I am a semi-absentee 100% owner of a restaurant. I do all the marketing, book keeping, inventory management, and little things I haven't delegated to the manager. I make about two thirds of what I was making when I left my IT career, but instead of 50 o 60 hour weeks and 150 nights in hotels, I work about 10 to 15 hours a week and am home every night. 

Awesome change for you, congrats

 

[ditka...mike ditka]

I was an IT consultant. Virtualization specialist. 

The stress came from coworkers expectations. Have you ever heard the claim that 20% of the employees do 80% of the work? There's a lot of truth to that. And it's not because the 20% love doing 80% of the work. It's because the other 80% in one way or another get their work dumped on to the 20%. And when you complain to management and they respond "but you're such a rock star" and "everyone wants to use you because you're so good" you know they're not going to fix the problem. They have targets they have to meet, and of course they want their all star on the mound as much as possible. I left for a new company twice during my career, and in the end all three did the same thing to me. While my peers would work with 2 to 3 other coworkers to cover a 3 or 4 city territory, I was working with 15 to 20 coworkers covering two to three dozen cities, usually because the teams my other peers were assigned to wanted me on their most important deals instead of my peers. My peers were in hotels 30 to 40 nights a year while I was in hotels 150 nights a year working on their accounts. When I first started I enjoyed the work. But the constant dumping of responsibility on me got it to the point where the only reason I continued doing it was because it paid so well. I grew to hate it, but how could I walk away from such high compensation. People would think I'm an idiot to walk away from that.  I then developed Meniere's disease. That's what took my hearing from my left ear. When I asked my doctor how I got it, he said it either comes from an injury or from stress.... and I didn't have an injury. It was then that I concluded that no amount of money is worth a job that is killing me. I no longer cared that people would think I was an idiot for walking away from that job. My health and happiness were now what mattered most. 

Now, I am a semi-absentee 100% owner of a restaurant. I do all the marketing, book keeping, inventory management, and little things I haven't delegated to the manager. I make about two thirds of what I was making when I left my IT career, but instead of 50 o 60 hour weeks and 150 nights in hotels, I work about 10 to 15 hours a week and am home every night. 

Your answer is “Yes, I am successful”.  Congrats man, hope to be in your shoes one day!

 

[General Malaise]

Never did get that video.... 

 

[tommyboy]

This is a subject I have struggled with and has given me a lot of anxiety/depression.  On paper, I'm killing it...work, family, pay.  Its all I could have wanted and more.  But then you look around and its like...am I truly happy, why are others doing better, what's the point, what's the purpose.

First rule of being happy, don't compare yourself to others. By all measures Harvey Weinstein was successful.

You never know what bad things are happening in other people's lives, even if they seem to be killing it. 

But you know what's good and bad in your own life and if you promote the good and minimize the bad id say that's successful.

Money doesn't equal success.

 

[RokNRole]

How are we measuring success?

Serious question

 

[Homer J Simpson]

How are we measuring success?

Serious question

By height.

 

[RokNRole]

By height.

Then I’m doing ok

 

[AAABatteries]

If you consider fat, depressed and just waiting for the sweet release of death to be "successful" then hell yeah I am!

Congrats GB - always warms the heart to hear a success story.

 

[Bossman]

Successful?

Love my life, family, good job, so yes.

Made it?

I've worked my #### off to pay for my house and I'm able to pay for college for both my kids, & retirement saved for ... so I voted yes.

I see huge houses on the ocean and so many huge beautiful boats in the harbor. So many people are more well off than me but I also realize that so many have so much less than me. 

I watch people on TV shows "buying yachts" and "buying jets" and realize that I've not and likely will never "made it" to the point of living large like these folks but I'm content anyway. 

 

[eoMMan]

I want the money, (money)
Money and the cars, (cars)
Cars and the clothes, (clothes)
The hoes, (hoes)
I suppose,
I just wanna be,
I just wanna be,
Successful.
I just wanna be,
I just wanna be,
Successful.
I just wanna be,
I just wanna be,
Successful.

 

[SWC]

is this the thread where we lie about stuff or what brohans take that to the bank 

 

[Dentist]

How are we measuring success?

Serious question

numbers of instagram models you bang on your yacht while in port in Ibiza.

Success is so relative...   you know a couple things always come to mind when I gauge success...

1) i remember Shaq was once quoted as saying: "Rich?  Naw, i'm doing ok, but the guy who signs my checks?  He's RICH!"   And good gosh Shaq has to have top 0.2% type of money.

The problem being that the higher you go.. the more and more elite people you meet to compare yourself to.. to the point where it becomes impossible to "win" unless you are Buffet or Gates.. and those guys don't even live like they have the type of money they have.

2) Mikey in "Swingers"   by all accounts he's doing pretty poorly in LA.. but there's the whole classic montage of "you're so money and you don't even know it"    Even on the low end success is relative.   Mikey was a success to a bunch of his running mates...  but he never saw it... and in that way you might never consider yourself a success.

I'm a success..  wife I love, 2 healthy kids I love,  enough money to do most of what I want to do.

But I'm one of the least successful monetarily of my dental buddies I hang out with on the reg so I don't feel particularly successful.  When I hang out with my neighborhood friends I feel like the most successful dude by a long shot.