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GM's Thread About Everything/GM's Thread About Nothing

bostonfred

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Just saw some of the updates in here.  Gm, roverfish, and anyone I've missed i hope you guys are able to find some comfort knowing you've got lifelong friends here who care about you and are sorry to hear what you're going through.

I'm dealing with my own stuff tonight - not least of which, my brother would have turned 50 tomorrow.  I remembered some kind words from other people who'd helped me before.  

I miss the days that this thread was funny conversation and memes and good stories. Maybe let's try to get back to that.  If we're to become weddings and funerals friends let's not be all funerals.  

Love you guys.  

 
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GroveDiesel

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Not to continue the thread of crappy stuff happening, but I just started a week long awesome guys trip with childhood friends and one of my buddies had to wake us up because his wife had a medical emergency at home, was being rushed to the hospital, and we needed to get him to the airport ASAP to get him home. Things still up in the air as they run more tests.

My brain is totally spinning and heart breaking for him. We had an amazing day yesterday and were all looking forward to a great week together and now he has to fly through multiple airports over more hours than anyone would like at this point to get back to be with his wife and comfort his kids. And the rest of us are here with a full week of fun stuff to do but heavy hearts.

 

Joe Bryant

Guide
Staff member
Not to continue the thread of crappy stuff happening, but I just started a week long awesome guys trip with childhood friends and one of my buddies had to wake us up because his wife had a medical emergency at home, was being rushed to the hospital, and we needed to get him to the airport ASAP to get him home. Things still up in the air as they run more tests.

My brain is totally spinning and heart breaking for him. We had an amazing day yesterday and were all looking forward to a great week together and now he has to fly through multiple airports over more hours than anyone would like at this point to get back to be with his wife and comfort his kids. And the rest of us are here with a full week of fun stuff to do but heavy hearts.


Aw Man. I'm sorry GB. 

 

General Malaise

Poop Lord
Just saw some of the updates in here.  Gm, roverfish, and anyone I've missed i hope you guys are able to find some comfort knowing you've got lifelong friends here who care about you and are sorry to hear what you're going through.

I'm dealing with my own stuff tonight - not least of which, my brother would have turned 50 tomorrow.  I remembered some kind words from other people who'd helped me before.  

I miss the days that this thread was funny conversation and memes and good stories. Maybe let's try to get back to that.  If we're to become weddings and funerals friends let's not be all funerals.  

Love you guys.  
Thanks GB.  I always value your words.  Much wisdom resides inside of you.

I made the commitment to my wife last night that I'd go seek professional help to deal with grief, depression and the negative ways I cope with death.  As she said early on, my coping skills need work.  And she's right.  

But my god, has anybody tried to make an appointment with a therapist lately?  Full case loads, no new patients, voicemails that are too full to take a new message, emails that go unanswered....it's frustrating to say the least.  I'm going to keep trying to find somebody because I'm still pretty broken up.  And the next time I lose somebody I love, it would help to have some tools in the bag to cope a little bit better than I have with the loss of my buddy Fred and my mother a few years ago.  

 

-fish-

Well-known member
Thanks GB.  I always value your words.  Much wisdom resides inside of you.

I made the commitment to my wife last night that I'd go seek professional help to deal with grief, depression and the negative ways I cope with death.  As she said early on, my coping skills need work.  And she's right.  

But my god, has anybody tried to make an appointment with a therapist lately?  Full case loads, no new patients, voicemails that are too full to take a new message, emails that go unanswered....it's frustrating to say the least.  I'm going to keep trying to find somebody because I'm still pretty broken up.  And the next time I lose somebody I love, it would help to have some tools in the bag to cope a little bit better than I have with the loss of my buddy Fred and my mother a few years ago.  
It took me nearly a year to get roverkid into a psychiatrist, even with a referral from her primary care physician.   

Have you tried online grief counseling?   Since covid, there are a lot more options for zoom-type sessions, which can be more flexible.   

 

Hawks64

Member
Thanks GB.  I always value your words.  Much wisdom resides inside of you.

I made the commitment to my wife last night that I'd go seek professional help to deal with grief, depression and the negative ways I cope with death.  As she said early on, my coping skills need work.  And she's right.  

But my god, has anybody tried to make an appointment with a therapist lately?  Full case loads, no new patients, voicemails that are too full to take a new message, emails that go unanswered....it's frustrating to say the least.  I'm going to keep trying to find somebody because I'm still pretty broken up.  And the next time I lose somebody I love, it would help to have some tools in the bag to cope a little bit better than I have with the loss of my buddy Fred and my mother a few years ago.  
What about support groups? That might be a helpful bridge to when you can find a therapist.

 

General Malaise

Poop Lord
It took me nearly a year to get roverkid into a psychiatrist, even with a referral from her primary care physician.   

Have you tried online grief counseling?   Since covid, there are a lot more options for zoom-type sessions, which can be more flexible.   
I was hoping to get a Zoom set up for precisely that but I've not had much luck.  I'm not giving up though because I'm tired of feeling like this.

 

BeTheMatch

Let it burn!
General Malaise said:
Thanks GB.  I always value your words.  Much wisdom resides inside of you.

I made the commitment to my wife last night that I'd go seek professional help to deal with grief, depression and the negative ways I cope with death.  As she said early on, my coping skills need work.  And she's right.  

But my god, has anybody tried to make an appointment with a therapist lately?  Full case loads, no new patients, voicemails that are too full to take a new message, emails that go unanswered....it's frustrating to say the least.  I'm going to keep trying to find somebody because I'm still pretty broken up.  And the next time I lose somebody I love, it would help to have some tools in the bag to cope a little bit better than I have with the loss of my buddy Fred and my mother a few years ago.  
Took almost nine months sitting on waiting lists at four different places until my son finally got in. Nice state of yours I moved to!

 
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General Malaise

Poop Lord
Our GB BFred gave me a call yesterday and left me a very heartfelt and encouraging VM.  Very kind.

Got an appointment with a therapist who will take my insurance for mid-July.  Took a lot of searching, but I'm on the schedule.  

Thanks to all of you for the kind words, positive support and for being my good iBuddies.  

Now, let's return to lighthearted silliness the way it used to be. 

 

BroncoFreak_2K3

sucker for Orange
General Malaise said:
I was hoping to get a Zoom set up for precisely that but I've not had much luck.  I'm not giving up though because I'm tired of feeling like this.
do you have 211 service in your area?  They provide counseling for free.

 

GroveDiesel

Well-known member
Finished my guys’ week in Vegas. I’m not really a Vegas type guy. Was down at the casinos but not really a lot as I don’t gamble a lot. Was frustrated though as I never even got up at all at any point. 

While walking back to the hotel we saw a casino ticket on the ground and I picked it up. Was pretty much the exact amount I had lost for the hotel we were staying in even. 💰

Also cracked myself up when one of the photo girls dressed like a cop out on the Strip felt up my arms and said “I’m going to need to see a license for these guns” and I shot back “If you charge me, it will be dropped for lack of evidence.”

Another girl followed my buddy for like 5 blocks after he made the mistake of actually engaging with her. He was super uncomfortable and the rest of us were laughing.

Good times.

 

UOFI_316

Well-known member
Stupid family drama is....stupid.     Wife and her sisters had a rough childhood, which has caused issues between them and her mom.    30 some years ago her dad (general contractor and carpenter) bought what at the time was a greenhouse, and turned it into a 4 bedroom family lake house.  Over the years everyone has been free to use it when they wanted and all the grandkids have had a blast swimming in the lake.   Earlier this year the oldest sister ended up buying the house from my in-laws.  My FIL was grateful as he is past 80 and didn't want to be the one keeping up with the house, MIL didn't take it so good.  Thought it was "stolen" or something and everything was going to change.  SIL  told them everyone is still welcome, and they can still use their bedroom when they go up there, and they wouldn't make any drastic changes.  From what I can tell all she has done is a thorough cleaning and organizing of the kitchen, and finally got cable and wifi.

Anyway, last weekend we had my daughter's 8th grade graduation up at the lake.  We drove up early Friday to get everything ready.  In the afternoon my MIL pulled in, dropped off some balloons and some gifts and left.   In the card she said that she was too sick to drive up for the party on Saturday and wished my daughter good luck.  We all thought it was odd that she claimed she was too sick to drive up an hour and half on Saturday, but was fine to drive up and then head back home on Friday.   I talked to my middle daughter who had helped MIL bring in stuff, and it turns out she mentioned she went past our house before heading up to the lake (we live 30 minutes the other way from her house).  So she ended up driving at least 4 hours on Friday, yet was "too sick" to drive 90 minutes on Saturday and then spend the night and driving home on Sunday.

Today there was a college graduation party for the oldest SIL's daughter, and sure enough MIL was not there even though they live 15 minutes from each other.

It sucks that MIL can't put these things aside and celebrate her grandkids accomplishments, but everything does seem to go smoother and there is less tension in the air when she is not around. 

 

Joe Bryant

Guide
Staff member
Stupid family drama is....stupid.     Wife and her sisters had a rough childhood, which has caused issues between them and her mom.    30 some years ago her dad (general contractor and carpenter) bought what at the time was a greenhouse, and turned it into a 4 bedroom family lake house.  Over the years everyone has been free to use it when they wanted and all the grandkids have had a blast swimming in the lake.   Earlier this year the oldest sister ended up buying the house from my in-laws.  My FIL was grateful as he is past 80 and didn't want to be the one keeping up with the house, MIL didn't take it so good.  Thought it was "stolen" or something and everything was going to change.  SIL  told them everyone is still welcome, and they can still use their bedroom when they go up there, and they wouldn't make any drastic changes.  From what I can tell all she has done is a thorough cleaning and organizing of the kitchen, and finally got cable and wifi.

Anyway, last weekend we had my daughter's 8th grade graduation up at the lake.  We drove up early Friday to get everything ready.  In the afternoon my MIL pulled in, dropped off some balloons and some gifts and left.   In the card she said that she was too sick to drive up for the party on Saturday and wished my daughter good luck.  We all thought it was odd that she claimed she was too sick to drive up an hour and half on Saturday, but was fine to drive up and then head back home on Friday.   I talked to my middle daughter who had helped MIL bring in stuff, and it turns out she mentioned she went past our house before heading up to the lake (we live 30 minutes the other way from her house).  So she ended up driving at least 4 hours on Friday, yet was "too sick" to drive 90 minutes on Saturday and then spend the night and driving home on Sunday.

Today there was a college graduation party for the oldest SIL's daughter, and sure enough MIL was not there even though they live 15 minutes from each other.

It sucks that MIL can't put these things aside and celebrate her grandkids accomplishments, but everything does seem to go smoother and there is less tension in the air when she is not around. 


I'm sorry GB. That kind of thing seems way too common and I'm sorry you have to go through that. Hang in there and keep doing the right thing. Hopefully they'll change. 

 

Dan Lambskin

Well-known member
Went to Cedar Point with the wife and kids yesterday, was borderline too fat for most of the coasters and could not get the seatbelt to buckle on the Magnum so had to give up on that one.  
 

at least all of the newer ones have a test chair out in front of the ride so I could check before I got on.  Also found out that they have certain seats that are slightly larger (you’ll want to ask for row 4 outside seat) the Raptor guy told me

going back in a month, will probably mostly do the waterpark but will try to squeeze on a few that I didn’t have time to ride 

 

mr. furley

Footballguy
Stupid family drama is....stupid.     Wife and her sisters had a rough childhood, which has caused issues between them and her mom.    30 some years ago her dad (general contractor and carpenter) bought what at the time was a greenhouse, and turned it into a 4 bedroom family lake house.  Over the years everyone has been free to use it when they wanted and all the grandkids have had a blast swimming in the lake.   Earlier this year the oldest sister ended up buying the house from my in-laws.  My FIL was grateful as he is past 80 and didn't want to be the one keeping up with the house, MIL didn't take it so good.  Thought it was "stolen" or something and everything was going to change.  SIL  told them everyone is still welcome, and they can still use their bedroom when they go up there, and they wouldn't make any drastic changes.  From what I can tell all she has done is a thorough cleaning and organizing of the kitchen, and finally got cable and wifi.

Anyway, last weekend we had my daughter's 8th grade graduation up at the lake.  We drove up early Friday to get everything ready.  In the afternoon my MIL pulled in, dropped off some balloons and some gifts and left.   In the card she said that she was too sick to drive up for the party on Saturday and wished my daughter good luck.  We all thought it was odd that she claimed she was too sick to drive up an hour and half on Saturday, but was fine to drive up and then head back home on Friday.   I talked to my middle daughter who had helped MIL bring in stuff, and it turns out she mentioned she went past our house before heading up to the lake (we live 30 minutes the other way from her house).  So she ended up driving at least 4 hours on Friday, yet was "too sick" to drive 90 minutes on Saturday and then spend the night and driving home on Sunday.

Today there was a college graduation party for the oldest SIL's daughter, and sure enough MIL was not there even though they live 15 minutes from each other.

It sucks that MIL can't put these things aside and celebrate her grandkids accomplishments, but everything does seem to go smoother and there is less tension in the air when she is not around. 
my FIL bought a ramshackle hunting shack from his uncle years ago. just a shack in the woods. 

he converted it in to a really nice home, cleared the land and handed out keys to his cousins, kids, etc. and let people come and go. everyone was very respectful with it and pitched in to do their part in the maintenance. guys in the family would come together and hunt, shoot off fireworks, fish, etc.  we had family events there... holiday get togethers, etc.

FIL passed away 11 years ago. his oldest son (my BIL) convinced his mom that she should "sell" him the place. and he instantly banned everyone from using it.

haven't been back there once in 11 years.

 

UOFI_316

Well-known member
I'm sorry GB. That kind of thing seems way too common and I'm sorry you have to go through that. Hang in there and keep doing the right thing. Hopefully they'll change. 
Years ago my wife and her sisters all came the conclusion that their mom was bipolar and needed real help.  The problem is MIL needs to admit she needs help, otherwise there is nothing we can do unless she actually physically hurts someone, and no one wants that to happen.  MIL thinks it is all FIL's fault, and won't do anything about it.  So, while all the adults understand what is going on, my 14/11/8 year olds just think one of their grandmas is missing events because she is "sick".  The older grandkids now understand the situation, but my kids are too young to try and explain that their grammy needs help and was physical with my wife and their Aunts growing up.  We don't want to turn our kids against MIL, but it gets hard to explain it away.  Years ago we hosted Christmas and it ended with my wife and MIL yelling at each other, with my wife threatening to call the cops if MIL did not leave our house.  Luckily I don't think my kids remember that as I was trying to get them to go to sleep before I went downstairs to get in MIL's face and get her to leave.

 

UOFI_316

Well-known member
Went to Cedar Point with the wife and kids yesterday, was borderline too fat for most of the coasters and could not get the seatbelt to buckle on the Magnum so had to give up on that one.  
 

at least all of the newer ones have a test chair out in front of the ride so I could check before I got on.  Also found out that they have certain seats that are slightly larger (you’ll want to ask for row 4 outside seat) the Raptor guy told me

going back in a month, will probably mostly do the waterpark but will try to squeeze on a few that I didn’t have time to ride 
A few years ago took the family to 6 Flags Great America, convinced my oldest to ride an actual roller coaster, got up to the front, and between my height and width I could barely fit in the seat. Had to really force my legs to go sideways.   I have always been in the tall side, and don't consider myself fat.  6'-4" and weigh 250ish, didn't think I would need to worry about the width of the seats as I have always seen people wider than me in line. 

 

belljr

Well-known member
So I like new things but I'm also one to hold onto stuff for a long time, sometimes too long.

So my phone is ~ 3 maybe 4 years old, not really sure. So my battery was slowly going bad and charging started to get flaky. So I find a deal on a phone I like. I always say meh, how much better can they get and then I'm all giddy with how nice the new one is :bag:

 

BeTheMatch

Let it burn!
So shortly after the news broke about our own Wikkidpissah, I got word that my 80-year-old dad wiped out in the driveway (his bad knee locked up and I'm sure he was hammered) and landed face first on the pavement. Got a gash in his forehead and was apparently knocked unconscious for some amount of time. Neighbor apparently saw it happen and called the ambulance, etc.

Goes to the hospital, stays in ICU with a brain bleed for a few days and was released yesterday. Got a severe concussion to boot. I'm now five states away from him, so I coordinated over the phone with his long-time live-in girlfriend and the hospital (I'm his POA) to get him transferred out of his podunk town hospital and up to a decent place in Minneapolis.

Sounds like he likely has quite a bit of physical and occupational therapy ahead of him. At that age, who knows if he'll ever be the same. He's deteriorating pretty fast. He's scheduled to have both knees replaced in a few weeks, but no idea if this incident will push that back or what.

We only saw each other a handful of times per year when I lived an hour away. Now that the use of an airplane is required, that's down to once or maybe twice per year. I'm honestly shocked he's still alive. He had a massive heart attack at around the age of 50 (my current age) and had to be airlifted to the Mayo Clinic, where they saved his life. The doctors told me and my brother that will be us one day, no escaping the genetics. The only reason he survived is because he had a bottle of baby aspirin with him wherever he went and guzzled the whole bottle when it hit. Drove himself to the local hospital (crashed into the ER entrance), where he caught the chopper to Mayo. His dad died of a heart attack about the same age.

He's definitely an alcoholic. Has been for a long time. Gets hammered down at the Elk's probably 4-5 times a week, minimum. I know not to ever take a phone call from him if it's after 2 p.m. Just an incoherent babbling mess.

My parents got divorced about 15 years ago, and that was about 30 years overdue. They just hated each other. He's much happier now and has a really nice lady for a number of years now. They said they're not interested in ever getting married, which is fine by me.

My mom had pretty serious mental health issues, bipolar disorder, depression and probably more. Haven't spoken to her in 15 years. When we brought my son home, I ended the relationship with her. Just wasn't going to subject him to her craziness. I'm sure that makes me awful. That's fine. I've never regretted it and doubt I ever will.

My dad and I basically had no relationship until they got divorced. Then we built a decent enough one over a shared hatred of her starting around the time of her divorce. It is what it is. I guess she's living somewhere in the southwest now. 

Anyway, don't know where I'm going with any of this except to say I was more upset about Wikkid than my dad. I guess that's pretty sad. I don't know. I'm curious what my reaction will be when he dies. Also sad is that my biggest concern revolving around his death is if my mom is still alive, she'll definitely show up. Police will have to be involved. That should be fun.

I guess my point - maybe - is that if you're close to your family, enjoy your time with them. Don't take it for granted, because not everyone has that.

 

mr. furley

Footballguy
So I like new things but I'm also one to hold onto stuff for a long time, sometimes too long.

So my phone is ~ 3 maybe 4 years old, not really sure. So my battery was slowly going bad and charging started to get flaky. So I find a deal on a phone I like. I always say meh, how much better can they get and then I'm all giddy with how nice the new one is :bag:
mine is around 7 years old at this point and while i'm sure it would be nice to have a snappy new phone, i choke at the thought of paying for a new one.

 

belljr

Well-known member
mine is around 7 years old at this point and while i'm sure it would be nice to have a snappy new phone, i choke at the thought of paying for a new one.
Meh 600 for me isn't horrible if I get 3 -4 years out of it. It's basically my computer now but yeah I wouldn't pay full price 

 
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Joe Bryant

Guide
Staff member
BeTheMatch said:
So shortly after the news broke about our own Wikkidpissah, I got word that my 80-year-old dad wiped out in the driveway (his bad knee locked up and I'm sure he was hammered) and landed face first on the pavement. Got a gash in his forehead and was apparently knocked unconscious for some amount of time. Neighbor apparently saw it happen and called the ambulance, etc.

Goes to the hospital, stays in ICU with a brain bleed for a few days and was released yesterday. Got a severe concussion to boot. I'm now five states away from him, so I coordinated over the phone with his long-time live-in girlfriend and the hospital (I'm his POA) to get him transferred out of his podunk town hospital and up to a decent place in Minneapolis.

Sounds like he likely has quite a bit of physical and occupational therapy ahead of him. At that age, who knows if he'll ever be the same. He's deteriorating pretty fast. He's scheduled to have both knees replaced in a few weeks, but no idea if this incident will push that back or what.

We only saw each other a handful of times per year when I lived an hour away. Now that the use of an airplane is required, that's down to once or maybe twice per year. I'm honestly shocked he's still alive. He had a massive heart attack at around the age of 50 (my current age) and had to be airlifted to the Mayo Clinic, where they saved his life. The doctors told me and my brother that will be us one day, no escaping the genetics. The only reason he survived is because he had a bottle of baby aspirin with him wherever he went and guzzled the whole bottle when it hit. Drove himself to the local hospital (crashed into the ER entrance), where he caught the chopper to Mayo. His dad died of a heart attack about the same age.

He's definitely an alcoholic. Has been for a long time. Gets hammered down at the Elk's probably 4-5 times a week, minimum. I know not to ever take a phone call from him if it's after 2 p.m. Just an incoherent babbling mess.

My parents got divorced about 15 years ago, and that was about 30 years overdue. They just hated each other. He's much happier now and has a really nice lady for a number of years now. They said they're not interested in ever getting married, which is fine by me.

My mom had pretty serious mental health issues, bipolar disorder, depression and probably more. Haven't spoken to her in 15 years. When we brought my son home, I ended the relationship with her. Just wasn't going to subject him to her craziness. I'm sure that makes me awful. That's fine. I've never regretted it and doubt I ever will.

My dad and I basically had no relationship until they got divorced. Then we built a decent enough one over a shared hatred of her starting around the time of her divorce. It is what it is. I guess she's living somewhere in the southwest now. 

Anyway, don't know where I'm going with any of this except to say I was more upset about Wikkid than my dad. I guess that's pretty sad. I don't know. I'm curious what my reaction will be when he dies. Also sad is that my biggest concern revolving around his death is if my mom is still alive, she'll definitely show up. Police will have to be involved. That should be fun.

I guess my point - maybe - is that if you're close to your family, enjoy your time with them. Don't take it for granted, because not everyone has that.


I'm sorry you've had to deal with all that @BeTheMatch And agree for sure on family and realizing not everyone has that. 

 

RC94

Well-known member
I must have been sleepwalking again last night.  When I woke up I found a bunch of unused paper towels in the sink in my bathroom and my PS4 controller in the refrigerator.  

 

facook

Member
Worst week of sports on TV ever. 
 

I’m watching Venezuela v Argentina women’s soccer.  Oof.   :help:


I think we all know by now I am a complete degenerate bettor.  Took the last few days off, started listening to some different podcasts, more time with the fam.  Not been a bad thing at all.

Zero bets on baseball tonight even.  Coming close to the date where I realize I can't bet on MLB again till the playoffs, where I'll lose my shorts.

 

-fish-

Well-known member
Roverkid going to Cabo for senior trip in 3 days.

She let her passport expire.   Had to get an appointment for an expedited passport.  Went to the appointment in Seattle, paid for expedited processing and overnight delivery.  They said it would be here by today.

Checked the website for US Passport application status.  It gives you a locator number and says this:

"If you are traveling within two weeks and have not received your passport, please contact the National Passport Information Center at 1-877-487-2778 (or TDD/TTY 1-888-874-7793) with your application locator number."

When you call that number, they inform you that they do not have access to application status, but they can make you an appointment to get an expedited passport.   They also cannot look up your "application locator number."  When asked why the website directs me to call them with the  locator number, they just kept repeating that they cannot access status information, and it is only available online (which is the website that tells you to call them).

:wall:

 

facook

Member
Passport arrived today.   She had a whole day to spare.   


How much do you think those civil servants were each earning in yearly salary to give you zero peace of mind?  The machine did it's job, and yet....clueless.  Glad it worked out for your girl.

 

the rover

has you on ignore
can someone that lives in a normal state send me a can of 134a refrigerant?  I'll venmo you and can send a couple local craft beers and maybe a box o crap in return.

Cant buy it here.

 
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