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So, it's not good. She'll probably make it through the night

Brain bleed. That has shown up on two CAT scans - one at he Podunk hospital in my hometown, and another at Blodgett here in Grand Rapids. Er...Spectrum Health...oh shuddup, it's always been Blodgett you faceless soulless conglomerate. Anyway, doing another CAT scan at 4 a.m.

So this is a kick in the nuts. My brother has an adopted ten year old boy. Bro is like 55, and for some reason he and his second wife (same age) decided to take in a teenager's kid as their own back when he was an infant. They were out riding quads today (I'm sure you guys are thinking whiskey tango foxtrot, but it's rural Michigan - I got my first mini-bike in kindergarten). Bad accident. Don't know the details yet. Little guy has a ruptured spleen. Needed emergency surgery tonight.

They can't do any procedures for 48 hours because mom is on blood thinners for her heart condition. So it's a damned if you do damned if you don't deal. They've taken her off that because they may need to operate on Thursday to relieve the pressure. If she makes it that far.

Mom has a Living Will. Sister brought it with her. She discussed with three of the four kids. Naturally, my brother - who never wanted to have that tough conversation - wants to be a hero and argue with us. Too ####### bad, dude. You wanted a say, you had several years to get your opinion in. Now we have to do what she explicitly said we should do. If it comes to that.

FUUUUUUUUUUUUUCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

Well it may not come to that. Her blood pressure is dropping. Might lose her. I've never cried so hard in my life. GD it.
This completely breaks my heart Bobby. I'm struggling a little to hold it together here at my desk. If there's anything at all I can do, let me know. I have no idea what that would be, but if there's something I'll do it. Hang in there.
Same thing here. I just went through this with my mother but she miraculously pulled through. Reading all this, brought all that emotion back. Had to take a break......I'm so sorry man.

 
On a slightly lighter note, proud dad moment here...I got a call yesterday from my daughter's gymnastics teacher. I guess they've been keeping an eye on her and they were calling to see if she would be interested in joining the invite-only elite group. Woo hoo!!For those that haven't been following along with the Big Papi/Guster story, My ex and I separated in early 2008 - actually got the call at a local FBG fantasy league cornhole/end of the year party. :awkward:Well, since that time I have my daughter half the time now and one of the things we bond over is her gymnastics lessons. I never push her and always ask her if it's fun and she wants to keep doing it and she always says yes. In the ~3 years I've had her in gymnastics lessons, I think I've missed a max of 3 sessions. When she's out there, she always looks to me for approval and to see if I'm proud. After the journey to get where I am today, I'm happy to say hell yes Anna, I'm very proud!!
Awesome! :thumbup:
 
On a slightly lighter note, proud dad moment here...I got a call yesterday from my daughter's gymnastics teacher. I guess they've been keeping an eye on her and they were calling to see if she would be interested in joining the invite-only elite group. Woo hoo!!For those that haven't been following along with the Big Papi/Guster story, My ex and I separated in early 2008 - actually got the call at a local FBG fantasy league cornhole/end of the year party. :awkward:Well, since that time I have my daughter half the time now and one of the things we bond over is her gymnastics lessons. I never push her and always ask her if it's fun and she wants to keep doing it and she always says yes. In the ~3 years I've had her in gymnastics lessons, I think I've missed a max of 3 sessions. When she's out there, she always looks to me for approval and to see if I'm proud. After the journey to get where I am today, I'm happy to say hell yes Anna, I'm very proud!!
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On a slightly lighter note, proud dad moment here...I got a call yesterday from my daughter's gymnastics teacher. I guess they've been keeping an eye on her and they were calling to see if she would be interested in joining the invite-only elite group. Woo hoo!!For those that haven't been following along with the Big Papi/Guster story, My ex and I separated in early 2008 - actually got the call at a local FBG fantasy league cornhole/end of the year party. :awkward:Well, since that time I have my daughter half the time now and one of the things we bond over is her gymnastics lessons. I never push her and always ask her if it's fun and she wants to keep doing it and she always says yes. In the ~3 years I've had her in gymnastics lessons, I think I've missed a max of 3 sessions. When she's out there, she always looks to me for approval and to see if I'm proud. After the journey to get where I am today, I'm happy to say hell yes Anna, I'm very proud!!
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There is no way I can have any idea what you're going through BL, but I imagine every part of you feels numbingly devastated, and for that I'm truly sorry. Best to you and your family in the coming days and weeks (and months and years).
I was going to use the good posting thing here, but then remembered he was smiling. :(
 
This has been a pretty ####ty week in and out of the GMTAN for stuff like this. SLB's friend, BobbyLayne's Mom, a local friend of ours and firefighter died this past weekend 500 yards from the finish line of the Chicago marathon. There must be some way to shift the universal karma to the positive and honor those recently lost. Until I find the best way, I'll be raising a glass to each of them tonight.
And I got engaged.Sorry for your loss BL. I know there are no words that will truly make you feel better, but it sounds like you had a great relationship with your mother and that you appreciated her very much . . . and she knew it. What more could a mother ask for? Appreciate every day people and stop looking for the next thing instead of the thing next to you.
 
On a slightly lighter note, proud dad moment here...I got a call yesterday from my daughter's gymnastics teacher. I guess they've been keeping an eye on her and they were calling to see if she would be interested in joining the invite-only elite group. Woo hoo!!For those that haven't been following along with the Big Papi/Guster story, My ex and I separated in early 2008 - actually got the call at a local FBG fantasy league cornhole/end of the year party. :awkward:Well, since that time I have my daughter half the time now and one of the things we bond over is her gymnastics lessons. I never push her and always ask her if it's fun and she wants to keep doing it and she always says yes. In the ~3 years I've had her in gymnastics lessons, I think I've missed a max of 3 sessions. When she's out there, she always looks to me for approval and to see if I'm proud. After the journey to get where I am today, I'm happy to say hell yes Anna, I'm very proud!!
Awesome! :thumbup:
Nicely done.
 
Very sorry about your mother, BL. Having lost a parent myself (as it appears several others in here have) all I can say is that as bad is it is right now, it will get better. Time really does heal. And in the end, the good memories of your time together, not these last few hours, will be foremost in your mind.

All the best to you and your family.

 
sorry BL. That's heartbreaking.

apologies to the rest of you for mucking around in here drunk last night. even MoP. I was plastered.

 
sorry BL. That's heartbreaking.apologies to the rest of you for mucking around in here drunk last night. even MoP. I was plastered.
I totally understand Fish. I'll even apologize to the normal group that congregates in here. I had no idea what happened to BL. I remember my own mother when I had to visit her in hospice hooked up to a life support machine, I do understand. I'm sorry for your pain Bobby, truly this is horrible. And I'm sorry if anyone was offended, I wasn't trying to hurt anyone.
 
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sorry BL. That's heartbreaking.apologies to the rest of you for mucking around in here drunk last night. even MoP. I was plastered.
I totally understand Fish. I'll even apologize to the normal group that congregates in here. I had no idea what happened to BL. I remember my own mother when she died of cancer and I had to visit her in hospice hooked up to a life support machine, I do understand. I'm sorry for your pain Bobby, truly this is horrible. And I'm sorry if anyone was offended, I wasn't trying to hurt anyone.
This is the only time I'll ever say this, since I have issues with MoP everywhere else, but there was some deletion/comments from last night that was entirely my fault.I am now officially being stalked--no joke. Not hard to predict, but it's happening. MoP was the only one on the boards last night when I posted hammered, and I don't blame him for being curious about what someone was posting at 4 in the morning and making a comment. I went off on him for no particular reason.Sorry to all.
 
on the plus side, I think Tanner has made a new friend, although he doesn't have the bank account to keep her around. there is a special talent to making someone you have never met laugh.

 
Just got a strawberry margarita shaved ice. It's about 65 degrees out. Plus three beers in...I'm doin' this picnic right.

 
On a slightly lighter note, proud dad moment here...I got a call yesterday from my daughter's gymnastics teacher. I guess they've been keeping an eye on her and they were calling to see if she would be interested in joining the invite-only elite group. Woo hoo!!For those that haven't been following along with the Big Papi/Guster story, My ex and I separated in early 2008 - actually got the call at a local FBG fantasy league cornhole/end of the year party. :awkward:Well, since that time I have my daughter half the time now and one of the things we bond over is her gymnastics lessons. I never push her and always ask her if it's fun and she wants to keep doing it and she always says yes. In the ~3 years I've had her in gymnastics lessons, I think I've missed a max of 3 sessions. When she's out there, she always looks to me for approval and to see if I'm proud. After the journey to get where I am today, I'm happy to say hell yes Anna, I'm very proud!!
Awesome! :thumbup:
Nicely done.
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Well, that's it.Did a 4 a.m. CAT scan.Still bleeding on the brain, no pupil response. She's brain dead.Waiting on a family member and then we pull the ventilator.Worst day of my life.
All my thoughts and condolences.Try and look at it as positively as you can. You stayed in contact and had a positive, healthy relationship with her through the end. You have no idea how much suffering and lack of closure many folks go through at a parent;s death. Try and be grateful that you don't have that do deal with those thoughts. Plus there's the Matt Stafford thing that helped her pass away in a positive, happy state.Also, it was quick and she died. I know it sounds brutal, but hanging on after a massive hemorrhage like that is a very bad thing. I have an in-law that had a similar brain bleed. Heroic efforts saved her and she is still alive, yet brain dead, going on eight years now. It is a very sad that she has survived, but she physically recuperated enough that she will probably remain in her current state in a nursing home, never again to communicate or interact with the world. That ongoing pain is a burden I would wish on no family.
 

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