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Sorry GB. Thorn has been tearing it up too. I suck so bad at picking futball that I'm only barely beating Cos and he just lets the computer randomly pick games every week.
Wow.To answer the question, I only have one friend that gets bossed around by his wife. I BEGGED him not to marry her but he seems happy so wtf so I know.
You did when I met you.
I agree on the no mocking part. He needs support more than mocking. Just don't go out for beers with him.Pretty sure I told the story here before, but it was a pretty nasty deal. She was out of town on business and he surfed some porn on his laptop. Before she got home, he wiped his internet history clean. She saw that, grew suspicious and took the laptop into her IT guys to scan it. There they not only found traces of porn, but evidence of Adult Friend Finder, which, as any of you pro surfers can attest, often pops up automatically as an advert when you cruise around the free pron sites.She wasn't familiar with Adult Friend Finder, so the IT guys told her what it was. She made the automatic leap that he was using it to cheat on her. She left their house, told him it was over and he had to beg her to get her back. It's every bit as awful as you think it is and despite my warnings that this sort of mistrust would only get worse over time, it's been a year and they are still together.I don't like her. My wife doesn't like her. But he's my friend and I don't think mocking him or his relationship would be very productive to our friendship. He'd choose her over me and then I'd just be out a friend.
GM> you're a better man than i. i have a friend with a wife similar to this.. maybe not as severe.. he gripes but not in a "i need to leave my wife" way but more in the "oh, hey guys i'll be 20 minutes late to the course.. wife wants me to take a piss test before i go. gotta down this quart of water and i'll be there. don't tee off without me, #####!"he doesn't really seem to mind it but mostly because he's used to being told what to do. we crack on him as a manner of greeting when he walks in the room late.. "must have been shaving his wife's legs tonight", etc.
He is a very head strong person who has rationalized all this behavior and won't listen to any counter arguments. We drink beers together quite often, but when we do, we both try to remove the option to drive anywhere before we meet up. In a way, that's a good thing. Considering what my ex is going through now, there is no way in hell I can afford a DUI in my life right now or anytime in the future, so maybe the crack down by his prison warden is having a positive affect? That said, I just masturbated at work to an old playboy with Carol Alt in it. :winning:I agree on the no mocking part. He needs support more than mocking. Just don't go out for beers with him.Pretty sure I told the story here before, but it was a pretty nasty deal. She was out of town on business and he surfed some porn on his laptop. Before she got home, he wiped his internet history clean. She saw that, grew suspicious and took the laptop into her IT guys to scan it. There they not only found traces of porn, but evidence of Adult Friend Finder, which, as any of you pro surfers can attest, often pops up automatically as an advert when you cruise around the free pron sites.She wasn't familiar with Adult Friend Finder, so the IT guys told her what it was. She made the automatic leap that he was using it to cheat on her. She left their house, told him it was over and he had to beg her to get her back. It's every bit as awful as you think it is and despite my warnings that this sort of mistrust would only get worse over time, it's been a year and they are still together.I don't like her. My wife doesn't like her. But he's my friend and I don't think mocking him or his relationship would be very productive to our friendship. He'd choose her over me and then I'd just be out a friend.
"He's only been arrested 9 times."Huh. My GB just called and told me he was looking for jobs for his son and he was putting me down as a referral. His son that has been arrested and spent time (like weeks at a time) in jail at least 10 times the last couple years. He told me to feel free to lie.
Good God. Awful situation to be in x2 (you and him).Pretty sure I told the story here before, but it was a pretty nasty deal. She was out of town on business and he surfed some porn on his laptop. Before she got home, he wiped his internet history clean. She saw that, grew suspicious and took the laptop into her IT guys to scan it. There they not only found traces of porn, but evidence of Adult Friend Finder, which, as any of you pro surfers can attest, often pops up automatically as an advert when you cruise around the free pron sites.She wasn't familiar with Adult Friend Finder, so the IT guys told her what it was. She made the automatic leap that he was using it to cheat on her. She left their house, told him it was over and he had to beg her to get her back. It's every bit as awful as you think it is and despite my warnings that this sort of mistrust would only get worse over time, it's been a year and they are still together.I don't like her. My wife doesn't like her. But he's my friend and I don't think mocking him or his relationship would be very productive to our friendship. He'd choose her over me and then I'd just be out a friend.
Ahh yes..thank you for the correction. It has been a long time.Used to be one in Milwaukee near the airport. The gentlemen club variety that is.maybe it's some type of chain that only has locations in cities named Portland so both Thorn and GM have access to it despite living on opposite coasts.It's a strip club hereThat's Airport LoungeOn the Border is down at the end of 27th street before it runs into 94
Wow, i'd say both are really bad. I'm okay with her harsh stance on drinking and driving. There's really no way in this day and age to try and counter her attacks without looking like an idiot. I think she is insane and can't believe she makes him blow into a machine if she suspects he's driven drunk, but she's serious as a heart attack about it. The pron thing is just indefensible, IMO. I don't get that one at all. She's got some f'd up issues. I could bust his balls about it, but again, it would come at a risk of our friendship.GM> you're a better man than i. i have a friend with a wife similar to this.. maybe not as severe.. he gripes but not in a "i need to leave my wife" way but more in the "oh, hey guys i'll be 20 minutes late to the course.. wife wants me to take a piss test before i go. gotta down this quart of water and i'll be there. don't tee off without me, #####!"
he doesn't really seem to mind it but mostly because he's used to being told what to do. we crack on him as a manner of greeting when he walks in the room late.. "must have been shaving his wife's legs tonight", etc.
Some guys just want to be led, Mommy'd if you will. My girl's ex is like that. She hates it and it's a PIA to deal with now because his new girlfriend (who he's already gotten pregnant
) is an insecure head case and completely obstructs anything he might do to co-parent with her if it remotely even appears like he's showing any affection towards her. He really needs to grow a pair and tell his woman to F off, but some cats just don't have it in them. 
Nah. I've shifted away from friends that had over-domineering wives. It's tough to watch the guy you were friends with become someone different against their will.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
Nah. I've shifted away from friends that had over-domineering wives. It's tough to watch the guy you were friends with become someone different against their will.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
don't talk to two of my (former) friends almost at all anymore just b/c their wives are horrible
I don't think that's the case at all. Just from my perspective, if I began busting my buddy's balls for his SO's behavior, he's choose her over me and I'd be out a friend. I'm actually shocked he puts up with it from her, but he's okay with it.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
"He's only been arrested 9 times."Huh. My GB just called and told me he was looking for jobs for his son and he was putting me down as a referral. His son that has been arrested and spent time (like weeks at a time) in jail at least 10 times the last couple years. He told me to feel free to lie.
You met her.
I admit I kind of get off on purposely acting the alpha male around her. On that trip, (for the rest of the GMTAN my GB wasn't with us)and I didn't even bring it up, she blurted out "I don't know if I should go to a strip club with you". God I love booze.
Sounds made up.
holy ####### hell- I literally had no idea what or who Zack/h Morris was... Saved by the Bell. wow. oh- so one random night out here in NYC, I ended up at the same table as the following 3 people: chick from Saved by the Bell who was in that stripper movie, nerdy lead guy from Porky's and Val Kilmer. Nobody would talk to me. :(
I had to do this with one of my old college roommates (or at least we were roommates when we should have been in college). He met a girl that just took over his life. On the positive side she got him to quit drinking. 90% of the time when he was drinking he was fine. But there were times he'd reach a point where he was just a total jerk and did really stupid stuff like dinning-and-dashing. But the capper was when I found out she MADE him quit playing guitar. The guy was a total stud. I'd never met anyone that could play like he did. The story was that she was afraid his guitar playing would lead to him being in a band and that would occupy too much of his time.I still keep in touch with him via email but we haven't hung out in about 18 years.Nah. I've shifted away from friends that had over-domineering wives. It's tough to watch the guy you were friends with become someone different against their will.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
whoa... wait a sec. I thought there was just a little hiccup in the relationship with moves to SC put on hold and stuff. Dee-vorce?
i'm hearing that this is not possible and if you believe otherwise then you are a misogynistto be fair, the same applies in the other direction. women can allegedly have complete trainwreck ###hole husbands and it's apparently not okay to say anything to them either.Nah. I've shifted away from friends that had over-domineering wives. It's tough to watch the guy you were friends with become someone different against their will.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.
never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
Furley just playing fortune teller
Pee Wee? You met Pee Wee? Nice!How does Perkins look up close? I probably would have jerked some chicken right then and there since nobody was paying attention.
nice long-term play here. how does your life insurance look?
Berkley?
Yeah, that's what I meant. Isn't there an Elizabeth Perkins too?
I definitely find myself pushing back, establishing boundaries. The most fun part is giving such a woman shiite in front of the guy, in an outwardly good natured way with a big smile on my face of course. It's kind of like, "I can get away with this and you (guy) can't, and you (woman) really don't know WTF to do with me to respond right now." Of course, I know that he'll end up paying for it, but if done in moderation it's not too bad.You met her.
Are you the guy?As to your question, I don't really use that sort of rhetoric with my friends because I don't think it's appropriate to comment on the relationships my friends have with their spouses/SO. That doesn't mean I won't talk about their ball-breaking ladies behind their backs; especially to my wife whom I think is one of the more laid back, lenient wives on the planet. I'm hoping that by pointing out some of the ball-busting my buddies have to endure, I'll be able to escape it, but we don't have kids of our own yet, so I might just be fooling myself.
I do have one friends whose wife makes him blow in a breathalyzer when he comes home if he's been drinking. She also took his laptop into her office to have the IT guys scan it for porn. That's over the top and I have serious concerns about him marrying this woman (they are both 'anti marraige', but do live together and he has a 5 year old son) but I don't mock his situation openly in front of him. What good will that do? It'll just ruin our friendship. And he truly loves her and rationalizes her behavior to a point he can deal with. It's not my life.
Furley> all of the time, but I'm an #######.
Some guys genuinely do need this to save themselves from their own self-destructive behavior. I played baseball growing up with some guys whose father had been a football player for a Big 8 (back then) football program but who'd ruined his first marriage through booze and not getting any direction in his life. His second wife, who he had the kids with, got him cleaned up, got him to go to dental school and he became a successful dentist. I didn't know her well, but per my parents she was kind of harsh with him (he was a great, personable guy) and not all that fun to socialize with, but their relationship worked and he obviously adored her for the structure she'd provided in his life. He was in no position to "lead" the household. Everybody's situation is different, and it's difficult to read something as complex as a marital relationship. It's hard enough to figure out what is going on in your own marriage sometimes. You can only tell so much from outward appearances.I had to do this with one of my old college roommates (or at least we were roommates when we should have been in college). He met a girl that just took over his life. On the positive side she got him to quit drinking. 90% of the time when he was drinking he was fine. But there were times he'd reach a point where he was just a total jerk and did really stupid stuff like dinning-and-dashing. But the capper was when I found out she MADE him quit playing guitar. The guy was a total stud. I'd never met anyone that could play like he did. The story was that she was afraid his guitar playing would lead to him being in a band and that would occupy too much of his time.I still keep in touch with him via email but we haven't hung out in about 18 years.Nah. I've shifted away from friends that had over-domineering wives. It's tough to watch the guy you were friends with become someone different against their will.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
We mid-westerners are made of tougher stuff.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
Man, I love happy endings.And also how this story turned out.A GB of mine married a controlling B of a woman. Have been together for 7 years now and he completely changed. He became a servant in many ways. It got so bad that at one point recently that she asked him "When the hell are you going to start making some real money so I don't have to work?" He probably pulls in ~$75K or so. She makes $12/hr working part time.
He recently snapped and went looking for some strange. They are now in the beginning stages of divorce.
I WEAR SHORTS ALL YEAR ROUNDWe mid-westerners are made of tougher stuff.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
I WEAR SHORTS ALL YEAR ROUNDWe mid-westerners are made of tougher stuff.what i'm learning here is that i'm a bad person.never been good with saying the right thing.. or making people feel better when they want me to tell them everything will be ok.
I am staying the weekend in Portland, then flying out to Yuma. Can't cancel Yuma - they're both business trips.The coast is the idea for the weekend, obviously, unless I shouldn't bother in November.
Good to hear GBJust got a call from her. She went to the doctor today and everything checked up ok. Although, since she has historically been on the low end of good blood pressure, her doctor ordered her for an echocardiogram later this week just to make sure that it isn't a sign of something more.Otherwise, he didn't feel that her symptoms immediately before or after were of any major concern right now.A good friend of mine went through a spurt of fainting unexpectedly and they connected it to high blood pressure. Be careful with it.Scary moment for the wife and I today. We spent Friday night in Madison at some friends house because we were heading to the Badger game exhibition today. She got up around 8am to go to the bathroom. I was still half asleep at this point but then heard a loud moan/sigh type noise (can't really explain it) and then a loud BOOM like someone dropped a bowling ball off a balcony onto a picnic table. Turns out she got off the toilet and started seeing white spots. She thought to herself "I better go back to the room and lay down" but it was too late. She fainted as she was reaching for the door and went head first into the corner of the bathroom between the door and the cabinet.
I jumped out of bed and didn't get the sheet completely off my left foot, lost my own balance and went head first into the bedroom door.
I didn't lose consciousness, but it hurt like a Mo Fo
I ran out to see what happened. Couldn't find her but then saw the bathroom door was still closed. I couldn't open it so I started knocking. I heard her sort of shuffling around and I'm freaking out. "Are you ok? Can you open the door? What's going on? Talk to me hon!"
She was babbling a bit and we finally got the door open after what seemed like an hour but was really like 5 seconds. She's laying on the ground and said she fainted. I"m no EMT so if I did the wrong thing here, I'll take the heat. But I felt her head, took her pulse and then went to get a cold washcloth and a glass of water. The bathroom floor was cool so she said she just wanted to lay there. I sat with her for a few minutes until she felt ok to sit up. Once she sat up, I went to get her a banana. In a totally non sexual way she hammered that thing down like Kobayashi. That seemed to help and I got her upon her feet after a few more minutes. I walked her back to the bedroom to lay down. Meanwhile the residents of the house were just kinda walking by saying "So, how's it going?" expecting that she was drunk from the night before or something. Kinda upset about that, but I digress.....
We laid in bed for a bit more as I got her more water and tried to make sure she was ok. Then out of nowhere, she says "Is it 9 yet? We gotta get moving! Game is at 11 and there's a bloody and a beer with my name on it!" She was up and at it :snap:
PS She's ok. She's going to the doctor next week to make sure nothing is wrong. Her face is ok, in fact apparently her knee took the brunt of her body weight and that is what hurts right now. She didn't actually drink before the game aside from 1 beer after some more water and some food. She's sleeping now but seemed fine/in good spirits throughout the day.
Pretty sure my wife would end up with a pair of Irish sunglasses for that.
