Boomer1
Footballguy
This cant be real...You are again dodging my point. If the 8 year old is to take it seriously and have it affect his behavior it has got to hurt. Period. If you are hurting your child, you are a bad parent.You are confusing my childhood where spanking occured which involved pain, and IMO were warrented as a means to end a destructive situation, with my kids spanking, which amounted to a swat or two on the ###, very little pain, more shock, but due to their personality, just as effective.
Also - Not sure why you find it hard to believe that an 8 year old associates the spanking they received with the action that caused it, especially when it was explained before and after.
Simple question, 6 y/o daughter has burnt herself before reaching for the stove. You've tried repeatedly tried to get her to stop, explaining the danger, watch her constantly but you turn around and she reaching for the stove. Am I a bad parent if I smack her hand or a bad parent because she can't understand?