I do recall those interactions, and through these and elsewhere, I always appreciate your perspective and demeanor. I wasn't sure whether you were raised Catholic, which is what I meant to ask. But it sounds like maybe you misunderstand me - so let me state unequivocally what I am NOT saying.
I didn't mean to imply that the laity is mystically equal to the corporeal body of Christ (in, for example, the same way that the Catholic Church views the Eucharist). Catholics are not a sort of "chosen people", placing the Catholic faithful en masse on a higher spiritual footing than Christians generally. I don't think that most Catholics believe that. I certainly don't. Catholics who leave the Church but not the faith, and convert to other Christian traditions, are not condemned to eternal hellfire, and there is not special place in Heaven for Catholics that others can't ever reach. Every person will be judged as an individual, not by what group they belong to, and the judgment will be based on their individual and personal relationship with God (put another way, the state of their soul upon death).
I also don't believe that the laity can't influence the hierarchy. It certainly can, and should. In some ways, that's precisely what Vatican II was all about.
What I was trying to say, and obviously didn't do a very good job of it, is that for a true believer, boycotting the Church isn't a realistic option. I'm not Catholic because I was born Catholic or because it's the tradition I'm most comfortable with. I'm Catholic because I believe it to be the truth, that the sacramental life is the most effective way to get to know God and for Him to mold me into the person he wants me to be, and as Peter said, to whom would I go? I believe in the Real Presence (the Eucharist) and in real grace that can be found uniquely in the Catholic Church. That's why I'm Catholic, and those things don't change even though priests and bishops sin.
If I were protestant, my outlook on this would be different. There are many denominations that are all different expressions of the faith. But none of them claim sacramental truth in the way that the apostolic churches do. Therefore even for protestants I think that this is probably not an easy concept to understand. A boycott is simply not an option. Withholding funds certainly is, but to leave the Church is not. Even if certain members of the hierarchy are corrupt (it's not the first time). Even if the hierarchy itself is rotting from the inside out (wouldn't be the first time). I firmly believe that the Spirit holds the Church together, not the other way around.
Hopefully that makes some sense.