Trouble getting pregnant? (1 Viewer)

[Flying Spaghetti Monster]

I remember when we were trying my wife read something about her body rejecting my sperm, so we needed to have sex very often to get her body used to it.

I think I lost like 20 pounds that month.

 

[3 out of 5]

Three IUI's down, no luck. We will hear on our last try at our own efforts this week... but then we are headed for a round of IVF next month. Scared ####less. Still raining babies with our friends & family around us.

Since we don't have insurance, we are using one of the IVF package deals offered by the office... anyone have any experience with those?

Is it worth shopping around different fertility docs, or should we just go with the office we have been using this last year?

 

[bentley]

We get a baby count on Monday. Hoping the doctor only finds one.

update? :crossesfingers:

One on the way. First ultrasound this afternoon.

 

[One]

We get a baby count on Monday. Hoping the doctor only finds one.

update? :crossesfingers:

One on the way. First ultrasound this afternoon.

 

[One]

Three IUI's down, no luck. We will hear on our last try at our own efforts this week... but then we are headed for a round of IVF next month. Scared ####less. Still raining babies with our friends & family around us.Since we don't have insurance, we are using one of the IVF package deals offered by the office... anyone have any experience with those?Is it worth shopping around different fertility docs, or should we just go with the office we have been using this last year?

Hang in there. Mrs. One and I were 3 and out on the IUI, then hit a two run homer first inning of IVF.

 

[mr. furley]

We get a baby count on Monday. Hoping the doctor only finds one.

update? :crossesfingers:

One on the way. First ultrasound this afternoon.

 

[TobiasFunke]

Three IUI's down, no luck. We will hear on our last try at our own efforts this week... but then we are headed for a round of IVF next month. Scared ####less. Still raining babies with our friends & family around us.

Since we don't have insurance, we are using one of the IVF package deals offered by the office... anyone have any experience with those?

Is it worth shopping around different fertility docs, or should we just go with the office we have been using this last year?

Boy does this sound familiar. Hang in there, man, and good luck going forward. This thread is a good reminder that there's lots of folks in the same boat. We're about to start Round II of IVF.

 

[Steed]

Three IUI's down, no luck. We will hear on our last try at our own efforts this week... but then we are headed for a round of IVF next month. Scared ####less. Still raining babies with our friends & family around us.Since we don't have insurance, we are using one of the IVF package deals offered by the office... anyone have any experience with those?Is it worth shopping around different fertility docs, or should we just go with the office we have been using this last year?

I'd definitely look to price a couple Drs, even see if you can get them in a bidding war by quoting one's price to another. Also geography has a lot to do with it. For instance in NYC it can cost like 15k for an IVF and if you cross the bridge to Jersey it'll go to around 10-12k. Of course there's the stigma that you are getting the best medical care in NY but a lot of these guys train in the same places and this type of procedure is fairly common so it's not as cutting edge as it used to be. I know Cornell does a procedure called a co-culture where they take a sample of uterus, clone it, and then grow it with the embryo virtually insuring that it takes when it gets put back in, but that's boukou bucks.

 

[3 out of 5]

Hang in there. Mrs. One and I were 3 and out on the IUI, then hit a two run homer first inning of IVF.

That would be a dream. The Mrs. has said a few times that it would be great to get twins and be done. We keep hearing warnings of "risks of multiples," but don't worry about that. Congrats!

Boy does this sound familiar. Hang in there, man, and good luck going forward. This thread is a good reminder that there's lots of folks in the same boat. We're about to start Round II of IVF.

Thanks. This thread has been good to come to for me throughout this as well... even though I don't post a ton, it's nice to have the encouragement of people going through it -- and from the guy's POV. I know there are a lot of ladies' boards out there for support, questions, etc... but this is the most comfortable place for me to realize that we aren't weird or different for what is going on with us -- it's more common than it feels.Best of luck with Round II.

I'd definitely look to price a couple Drs, even see if you can get them in a bidding war by quoting one's price to another. Also geography has a lot to do with it. For instance in NYC it can cost like 15k for an IVF and if you cross the bridge to Jersey it'll go to around 10-12k. Of course there's the stigma that you are getting the best medical care in NY but a lot of these guys train in the same places and this type of procedure is fairly common so it's not as cutting edge as it used to be. I know Cornell does a procedure called a co-culture where they take a sample of uterus, clone it, and then grow it with the embryo virtually insuring that it takes when it gets put back in, but that's boukou bucks.

That is crazy. This whole area of science is pretty insane -- seeing videos where they are removing single cells or putting a single sperm into the egg... it's crazy that man is capable of these kinds of things.We generally like the docs we have seen, and the procedure (before meds) has been quoted to us around $12k which seems pretty good. The package deal we are looking at is 2 rounds of IVF and 2 frozen implantations for $19k. If you take a baby home from the hospital, even after the first round of IVF, the contract is complete. So one scenario is that we pay $19k for a baby, the other scenario is that we paid $19k for ~$32k of services (2 IVF at $12k and 2 Frozen at $4k). Is it bad when you are making excel sheets mapping out odds and pricing percentages? Feels a bit like trying to game the house at a casino.

 

[KiddLattimer]

Three IUI's down, no luck. We will hear on our last try at our own efforts this week... but then we are headed for a round of IVF next month. Scared ####less. Still raining babies with our friends & family around us.Since we don't have insurance, we are using one of the IVF package deals offered by the office... anyone have any experience with those?Is it worth shopping around different fertility docs, or should we just go with the office we have been using this last year?

Hang in there. Mrs. One and I were 3 and out on the IUI, then hit a two run homer first inning of IVF.

Exact same thing happened with us, 3 unsuccessful attempts at IUI but IVF worked the first time. We bought one of those package deals so some could say it was a "waste" but my son was born on the 18th and if I had to do it again I would pay every penny I have and not think twice.

 

[TobiasFunke]

Mrs. Funke is going in for our second retrieval this weekend. Preliminary bloodwork and ultrasound and stuff looks slightly more encouraging than last time.

Here's hoping nine months from know we'll be sending out something like this.

 

[pecorino]

we just talked today about our final try before adoption. we're waffling between embryo donation, one more round of IVF, or one more round of IVF with an egg donor. i'm leaning towards IVF again even though the first round failed. egg donation and/or embyro donation are a bit unsettling to me but in the end, it is a team decision.

 

[The Z Machine]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

 

[The Z Machine]

Also, good luck to everyone else out there.

 

[The Commish]

We just received our paperwork to go through IVF. Our problems are a combo of her and me. I have low counts and she has misaligned tubes (most likely from her C-Section with our first). We think she is perfectly fine other than the tube problem. We are going with a "program" and I am looking at loan options now. It's going to be around 25K for two fresh, two frozen plus meds. I am simply lacking in quantity. Quality is fine. There's a part of me that says it will only take one shot. It's a real gamble though...literally. Best case scenario is after the first retrieval we get some to freeze and the fresh works. I've read that only about 30% ever get enough to freeze though. That's why we are going with the plan.

 

[snitwitch]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

You're in the bay area, correct? Where are you going for these treatments? The place we went to was in the city (http://www.pacificfertilitycenter.com/) and they are apparently one of best (if not the very best) in the area.

 

[The Z Machine]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

You're in the bay area, correct? Where are you going for these treatments? The place we went to was in the city (http://www.pacificfertilitycenter.com/) and they are apparently one of best (if not the very best) in the area.

My insurance is through Kaiser. I have a United Health Care option available, but would have to wait until the next open enrollment cycle. I didn't look into the change last November because we weren't so stressed out about it then. Although I don't even know if United is any better.Since Kaiser doesn't cover IVF at all, I'd be paying o.o.p. for that, and I'd definitely shop around. Gotta think there's a lot of great places here in the Bay that do this type of work.

 

[belljr]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

Our final IUI try worked. We were getting ready to sign up for IVF and the last time was a success.I really feel for people that are paying oop. We were lucky enough to only have a co-pay for all of that.

 

[TobiasFunke]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

If you have any flexibility on your insurance coverage, it might be worthwhile to wait on any IVF (if that becomes necessary) until your next opportunity to change it. That's what my wife and I did, and our savings are already easily into the five digits on our second go-round. Obviously the calculations change a little if your wife is a little older, but it's a ton of money.

 

[TobiasFunke]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

You're in the bay area, correct? Where are you going for these treatments? The place we went to was in the city (http://www.pacificfertilitycenter.com/) and they are apparently one of best (if not the very best) in the area.

My insurance is through Kaiser. I have a United Health Care option available, but would have to wait until the next open enrollment cycle. I didn't look into the change last November because we weren't so stressed out about it then. Although I don't even know if United is any better.Since Kaiser doesn't cover IVF at all, I'd be paying o.o.p. for that, and I'd definitely shop around. Gotta think there's a lot of great places here in the Bay that do this type of work.

We're actually on Kaiser specifically for IVF coverage. I'd have to wade through some emails to figure out which of their plans it is- certainly one of the more expensive ones- but we get 50% coverage, which is obviously well worth it, even though we hate Kaiser otherwise. It's a good 20-30% higher than any of the dozens of other plans we reviewed.

 

[Worm]

we just talked today about our final try before adoption. we're waffling between embryo donation, one more round of IVF, or one more round of IVF with an egg donor. i'm leaning towards IVF again even though the first round failed. egg donation and/or embyro donation are a bit unsettling to me but in the end, it is a team decision.

We are on the recipient side of embryo donation/adoption (24 weeks pregnant), PM me if you have any questions about it.

 

[snitwitch]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

You're in the bay area, correct? Where are you going for these treatments? The place we went to was in the city (http://www.pacificfertilitycenter.com/) and they are apparently one of best (if not the very best) in the area.

My insurance is through Kaiser. I have a United Health Care option available, but would have to wait until the next open enrollment cycle. I didn't look into the change last November because we weren't so stressed out about it then. Although I don't even know if United is any better.Since Kaiser doesn't cover IVF at all, I'd be paying o.o.p. for that, and I'd definitely shop around. Gotta think there's a lot of great places here in the Bay that do this type of work.

Disposable income + people that love to wait until 40 to have kids = I'm sure you're right.

 

[Wooderson]

Its been over 2.5 years since we started trying. 3 rounds of IUI with no luck. Insurance covers nothing for IVF so as of now that's a no go for us. We have been doing acupuncture for the past few months.

Its tough on us even more so on my wife it breaks my heart to see her wake up evrey morning and first thing have to record her temp. Its like a reminder every morning of the strugles we are dealing with.

I stay positive for her but that's starting to get difficult for me as well.

Well like I always tell her we will get em next month.

 

[El Floppo]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

Z, gb- we had good luck x2 with IUI. First time was straight out of the chute (so to speak) while this second one took on the 4th or 5th try. Our insurance covered a certain amount of IUIs (pretty sure we were at the end with #2) and zilch for IVF. Hooray, insurance.

Hang in there- it might take a bit, or might be another way- but something will work for you guys if you really want kids. Speaking of- I might be willing to offload our older one on the cheap if anybody's interested.

 

[El Floppo]

Good luck TF, Pecorino, Wooderson and The Commish!

:fingerscrossed: for all of you.

Very, very strange that I should care and think about you guys going through this- but I do. Surly, curmudgeonly, NYCer good as possible vibes going out to all of you- best of luck!

 

[Dickies]

Z, I am also in the bay area, and we have been going through fertility treatment. We did IUI's for almost 2 years with Kaiser (wife's plan covers 100% of non-IVF fertility treatment). Long story short, we gave up on them and ended up doing IVF and she is now pregnant. We shopped around a number of places in the bay area. Let me know if you need any advice.

 

[The Z Machine]

Z, I am also in the bay area, and we have been going through fertility treatment. We did IUI's for almost 2 years with Kaiser (wife's plan covers 100% of non-IVF fertility treatment). Long story short, we gave up on them and ended up doing IVF and she is now pregnant. We shopped around a number of places in the bay area. Let me know if you need any advice.

Thanks Dickies. Will do.

 

[mr. furley]

glllllllllllllllllllll everybody

 

[bentley]

Just to add to the IUI and IVF numbers, we went 0 for 6 on IUIs and 2 for 2 (we're at the end of the first trimester on the second) for fresh IVFs. We have no IVF coverage on the insurance, so they were way expensive, but you do get some of it back in the medical expense tax deduction.

 

[Worm]

IUI's never seem to work. I almost wish docs would stop recommending people go through them, especially 2, 3, 4+ times. Seems like a false hope to me.

 

[The Commish]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

You're in the bay area, correct? Where are you going for these treatments? The place we went to was in the city (http://www.pacificfertilitycenter.com/) and they are apparently one of best (if not the very best) in the area.

My insurance is through Kaiser. I have a United Health Care option available, but would have to wait until the next open enrollment cycle. I didn't look into the change last November because we weren't so stressed out about it then. Although I don't even know if United is any better.Since Kaiser doesn't cover IVF at all, I'd be paying o.o.p. for that, and I'd definitely shop around. Gotta think there's a lot of great places here in the Bay that do this type of work.

We had United...doesn't cover it. At least the plan our company negotiated.

 

[The Commish]

Good luck TF, Pecorino, Wooderson and The Commish!:fingerscrossed: for all of you.Very, very strange that I should care and think about you guys going through this- but I do. Surly, curmudgeonly, NYCer good as possible vibes going out to all of you- best of luck!

My wife has mocked me mercilessly for the last few years for spending so much time on this board. I showed her this thread and things of changed. I oddly think about you guys too. Sorta comforting to know that others are going through the same things I am.

 

[El Floppo]

IUI's never seem to work. I almost wish docs would stop recommending people go through them, especially 2, 3, 4+ times. Seems like a false hope to me.

You should pitch that to the AMA.

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

Z, gb- we had good luck x2 with IUI. First time was straight out of the chute (so to speak) while this second one took on the 4th or 5th try. Our insurance covered a certain amount of IUIs (pretty sure we were at the end with #2) and zilch for IVF. Hooray, insurance.

Hang in there- it might take a bit, or might be another way- but something will work for you guys if you really want kids. Speaking of- I might be willing to offload our older one on the cheap if anybody's interested.

 

[Steed]

IUIs (2 of them) were the only thing that worked for us, no luck with the 1 IVF. Though the end result was the same for all of them.

We're currently at 28 weeks with a colt. Keeping our fingers crossed this one gets there.

I stumbled across a fertility forum on my wife's laptop, you know they list their kids in their sigs like we do our line-ups?

 

[bentley]

IUIs (2 of them) were the only thing that worked for us, no luck with the 1 IVF. Though the end result was the same for all of them.We're currently at 28 weeks with a colt. Keeping our fingers crossed this one gets there.I stumbled across a fertility forum on my wife's laptop, you know they list their kids in their sigs like we do our line-ups?

Well, first of all, only uberdorks include lineups in their sig. But yeah, I've seen those forums. The sigs are superobnoxious. Many are 10-15 lines long with smilies on every line and flashing gifs.

 

[Worm]

IUI's never seem to work. I almost wish docs would stop recommending people go through them, especially 2, 3, 4+ times. Seems like a false hope to me.

You should pitch that to the AMA.

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

Z, gb- we had good luck x2 with IUI. First time was straight out of the chute (so to speak) while this second one took on the 4th or 5th try. Our insurance covered a certain amount of IUIs (pretty sure we were at the end with #2) and zilch for IVF. Hooray, insurance.

Hang in there- it might take a bit, or might be another way- but something will work for you guys if you really want kids. Speaking of- I might be willing to offload our older one on the cheap if anybody's interested.

Glad it works at least some of the time. It's just frustrating to watch good friends go through it and fail time after time.

 

[stubby]

IUI's never seem to work. I almost wish docs would stop recommending people go through them, especially 2, 3, 4+ times. Seems like a false hope to me.

You should pitch that to the AMA.

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF.

Z, gb- we had good luck x2 with IUI. First time was straight out of the chute (so to speak) while this second one took on the 4th or 5th try. Our insurance covered a certain amount of IUIs (pretty sure we were at the end with #2) and zilch for IVF. Hooray, insurance.

Hang in there- it might take a bit, or might be another way- but something will work for you guys if you really want kids. Speaking of- I might be willing to offload our older one on the cheap if anybody's interested.

Glad it works at least some of the time. It's just frustrating to watch good friends go through it and fail time after time.

Wife got pregnant on our 2nd round of IUI...so yes, like the others pointed out, it does happen. But also like you, I know plenty of people that IUI doesn't work, and then they have to go IVF. Good luck to everyone still trying. We've decided that we're one and DONE, partly b/c of all the stress you go through trying.

 

[TobiasFunke]

Thanks, folks. So far so good for us: Mrs. Funke laid 14 eggs, and we had 7 embryo as of yesterday. Today's the day we figure out if we're doing the 3 day transfer or if a few of them look good enough for the 5-6 day transfer.

 

[Tiny Dancer]

Thanks, folks. So far so good for us: Mrs. Funke laid 14 eggs, and we had 7 embryo as of yesterday. Today's the day we figure out if we're doing the 3 day transfer or if a few of them look good enough for the 5-6 day transfer.

Sounds good. Best of luck to you and Mrs. Tobias getting through the next couple weeks.

 

[Raiderfan32904]

Thanks, folks. So far so good for us: Mrs. Funke laid 14 eggs, and we had 7 embryo as of yesterday. Today's the day we figure out if we're doing the 3 day transfer or if a few of them look good enough for the 5-6 day transfer.

Good luck to you and Mrs. Funke! Childen are a blessing, hope you get your wish.

 

[Raiderfan32904]

Just found out we are expecting our 4th child. Not planned, and while she's still a young 31, I am feeling all of my 44 years. I am going to make some lifestyle changes. Get up off my ###, and get ready for a new baby. It's all good. Kids keep you young. Whether you want to or not.

 

[The Commish]

Thanks, folks. So far so good for us: Mrs. Funke laid 14 eggs, and we had 7 embryo as of yesterday. Today's the day we figure out if we're doing the 3 day transfer or if a few of them look good enough for the 5-6 day transfer.

I'm going to be in this very spot in about 4 weeks...holy poop!

 

[Tiger Fan]

We're on the IUI road now it seems. Wifey goes in for the HSG thing on Tuesday. It seems like no one I know has had any luck with the IUI.

Also my insurance only covers 50% of fertility treatments and covers 0% for IVF. <img src="http://static.footballguys.com/forums/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/kicksrock4.gif" style="vertical-align:middle" emoid=" " border="0" alt="kicksrock4.gif" />

Same deal for us. We did 5 IUIs (2 separate doctors) until we tried IVF

 

[bentley]

Thanks, folks. So far so good for us: Mrs. Funke laid 14 eggs, and we had 7 embryo as of yesterday. Today's the day we figure out if we're doing the 3 day transfer or if a few of them look good enough for the 5-6 day transfer.

Best of luck! Let us know how it goes. Our first one was a 5 day and the second was a 3 day.

 

[Tiger Fan]

Its been over 2.5 years since we started trying. 3 rounds of IUI with no luck. Insurance covers nothing for IVF so as of now that's a no go for us. We have been doing acupuncture for the past few months.Its tough on us even more so on my wife it breaks my heart to see her wake up evrey morning and first thing have to record her temp. Its like a reminder every morning of the strugles we are dealing with.I stay positive for her but that's starting to get difficult for me as well.Well like I always tell her we will get em next month.

We were basically in the exact same boat as you guys. Just a thought here...have you been tested by a urologist? We went through 3 IUIs before our first doctor recommended that I get tested. Turned out I had a vericocile (basically an enlarged vein in a testicle that was killing sperm) that I had to get operated on. So in essence we wasted about 6k on the first 3 IUIs....the surgery helped the #s, but we didn't get pregnant with the next 2 IUIs, so we opted for the IVF.Insurance didn't cover it either, but we had saved up the money over the years. I don't wish what we all went through in this thread on anyone...basically every time she got her period, it was days of sadness...every one of our friends' kids birthday invitations, or new pregnancies...same thing.Long story short, the IVF worked and she's due with twins in 5 weeks. Obviously, I wish we would have jumped right into the IVF; but I ran all the #s given our %s, age, etc. and the IUIs was the right move at the time.

 

[Tiger Fan]

GL Funke and Commish

 

[El Floppo]

GL Funke and Commish

 

[The Z Machine]

Wifey had the uterus / fallopian tube dye test yesterday. Everything looks clear. Most notable thing was my wife's behavior after taking a Valium.

 

[The Commish]

GL Funke and Commish

Thanks guys....wife will be starting her BC pills in the next day or two (barring a miracle of course). I think it's 2-3 weeks after that all the "stuff" starts.

 

[El Floppo]

Wifey had the uterus / fallopian tube dye test yesterday. Everything looks clear. Most notable thing was my wife's behavior after taking a Valium.

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