Trouble getting pregnant? (2 Viewers)

[snitwitch]

I'm not exactly having trouble getting pregnant, but my wife is.

We've been trying for almost a year, and nothing yet. We've had our first round of tests, which they make you get before you are able to get an appointment at the fertility clinic. Luckily my "little boys" are in fine shape, large in number, and are great swimmers -- likewise her hormone levels are "normal"

Beyond this though, we don't know what's going on.

Anyone have any thoughts they'd like to share? This is really tearing up my wife, and while it's not effecting me in the same way (really not that much at all), I am starting to get worried about her state of mind about the whole thing.

 

[Flying Spaghetti Monster]

How old is your wife?

 

[snitwitch]

Want me to come over and show you how it's done?

No, thanks for the offer though. Perhaps I can tape some footage and send it over to you to make sure I'm doing it right??

 

[snitwitch]

How old is your wife?

29 years old.

 

[The Shizzle]

Can I try?

 

[Flying Spaghetti Monster]

How old is your wife?

29 years old.

Will this be her first child?

 

[snitwitch]

How old is your wife?

29 years old.

Will this be her first child?

Yes. Her mom had similar troubles at around the same age, ended up having 3 through the use of Clomid, and one more after that by "accident" or "special suprise" depending on who you ask.

 

[russinfortworth]

 

[avoiding injuries]

Want me to come over and show you how it's done?

No, thanks for the offer though. Perhaps I can tape some footage and send it over to you to make sure I'm doing it right??

If you'd like.Seriously, I do not have any experience with pregnancies. Good luck to you and your wife.

 

[rolyaTy]

Trouble getting pregnant?

I haven't even had my first period yet

 

[BoltzNBrew]

We just went through the same thing. We had been trying for about 6 months but I finally got one past the gaolie. Good thing cuz the next step was making a deposit and I was not looking forward to that. My wife was charting her temperature on a daily basis and had some guide to go by to determine the right days to do "it". Finally one night she convinced me to do THIS and she claims that was the day it happened. Baby BoltzFan #2 is due sometime in March.

Now she is going through that "I'm tired" phase. We go for the first doctors visit next week. Good times ahead.

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat2]

There are a bunch of us on the board who have gone through infertility. It does suck. My wife and I ended up having two kids through IVF. Some other folks on the board have similar success stories. Hopefully things will work out for you and your wife.

 

[BoltzNBrew]

Want me to come over and show you how it's done?

No, thanks for the offer though. Perhaps I can tape some footage and send it over to you to make sure I'm doing it right??

He'd probably just hurt himself.

 

[snitwitch]

There are a bunch of us on the board who have gone through infertility. It does suck. My wife and I ended up having two kids through IVF. Some other folks on the board have similar success stories. Hopefully things will work out for you and your wife.

What can I expect in terms of next steps?

 

[Gordon44]

I'm not exactly having trouble getting pregnant, but my wife is.We've been trying for almost a year, and nothing yet. We've had our first round of tests, which they make you get before you are able to get an appointment at the fertility clinic. Luckily my "little boys" are in fine shape, large in number, and are great swimmers -- likewise her hormone levels are "normal"Beyond this though, we don't know what's going on.Anyone have any thoughts they'd like to share? This is really tearing up my wife, and while it's not effecting me in the same way (really not that much at all), I am starting to get worried about her state of mind about the whole thing.

I hear where you're coming from. Exact same boat for me and my wife only we already have one and she's 35. She basically loses her mind when her period comes around these days. I play the emotionally supportive husband card, but secretly I'm loving all the action I get every month. The only advice that's been given to me is "flip her over and #### her again". So that's what I do.

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat2]

There are a bunch of us on the board who have gone through infertility. It does suck. My wife and I ended up having two kids through IVF. Some other folks on the board have similar success stories. Hopefully things will work out for you and your wife.

What can I expect in terms of next steps?

Really depends on you and your doctor. There are a series of incrementally more invasive and more expensive ways to get pregnant.

 

[redman]

There are a bunch of us on the board who have gone through infertility. It does suck. My wife and I ended up having two kids through IVF. Some other folks on the board have similar success stories. Hopefully things will work out for you and your wife.

What can I expect in terms of next steps?

I'm one who's gone through IVF. (Porn is never so unfun as when you're in a medical clinic and you're picturing a room full of medical staff waiting on your, uh, delivery. )We're adopting now, but then my wife's 44 years old tomorrow. (I went old before old was cool.) It's all good though. Try all the timing, measuring, etc, stuff, and if that doesn't work talk to your doctor about getting a motility study done to make sure that your aquatic team is performing right. Your wife should also talk to her GYN about any physiological abnormalities that her uterus, etc. might have. From there, you go to a fertility doctor with your check book poised. Don't worry about it. Take one step at a time and be there to support your wife as these trials tend to be taken a bit personally by the women. Roll with the punches big guy.

 

[Headbutts]

Three unsuccessful IVF cycles later we're looking at donor eggs. Wife's 39 so we've waited a bit long.

 

[Flying V]

This is really tearing up my wife...

I think I might understand the problem here. Try doing it with the light on.

 

[One]

Snitwitch,

I went back and read your post on trying to get the wifey pregnant. It sounds verbatim like what my wife and I have been going through for the last year. Any updates? good news? advice?

I had some testing done as well.. the troops were solid as a rock, she's 29 and her hormones check out all good.

Let me know how things ended up.

One

Also.. anyone else with advise, please feel free to comment.

 

[The Commish]

Snitwitch, I went back and read your post on trying to get the wifey pregnant. It sounds verbatim like what my wife and I have been going through for the last year. Any updates? good news? advice? I had some testing done as well.. the troops were solid as a rock, she's 29 and her hormones check out all good. Let me know how things ended up. One Also.. anyone else with advise, please feel free to comment.

We had a similar issue and part of the problem was the doctor. Fortunately, my wife is a scientist and caught it. Most doctors will assume that a woman's cycle is 28 days....and that assumption is typically correct, but a cycle can be between 28-35 days. My wife started reading an internet site that suggested her charting her body temperature for an entire month. Those temps then could be a very good indication of what her cycle was. It turned out hers was 35 days, so we were very busy a week too early. After figuring this out, we adjusted and now we have a little boy that is due into this world in about 4 weeks.Not sure what kind of research she's done etc, but I'd recommend educating myself as much as possible. Our doctor still doesn't believe that her cycle was 35 days, but the data shows otherwise. GL to you and your wife!! It will happen when it's suppose to.

 

[tipsy mcstagger]

Nope...i've had unprotected sex with the wife twice in our 11 years together.....2nd kid on the way. :catholic:

 

[glock]

You want to get pregnant? Stop trying, sell your house and buy a smaller one.

 

[ooofffaaa]

You're not doing it right.

 

[parasaurolophus]

rent this it should help you

 

[snitwitch]

Snitwitch, I went back and read your post on trying to get the wifey pregnant. It sounds verbatim like what my wife and I have been going through for the last year. Any updates? good news? advice? I had some testing done as well.. the troops were solid as a rock, she's 29 and her hormones check out all good. Let me know how things ended up. One Also.. anyone else with advise, please feel free to comment.

Crazy to see this revived!We had our first kid, a boy, on June 1 It must have been soon after I posted this that we conceived.I think she was on clomid for a month or two, and conception happened during our first artificial insemination treatment thingamabob. Basically, I went into a room, wanked one into a cup, then they used some sort of tool to inject it close to where it needed to go. We think that some of the testing they did on her ovaries may have flushed out a blockage that was preventing my guys from reaching their goal, according to our doc, this is the case sometimes and people often conceive right after they get this type of testing.We were luckily able to avoid IVF and the more expensive treatments, though the clomid and the one treatment we did get, plus consultations, cost a few grand total.I'm not sure how your wife is taking this whole thing, mine was pretty upset at times throughout the process. My only advice is to be as understanding as possible, and be patient. At 29, she's still very young. The temptation might be there to go straight to IVF (especially if you can afford it), but I would advise trying the drugs and the artificial insemination route for as long as a year or more if need be.The hardest times really came once a month when we found out she wasn't pregnant. This would induce a couple days of misery, but as long as you are there for her emotionally, I'm sure you guys can pull through.good luck!!

 

[Buckychudd]

We didn't do any of the timing or temperature stuff.....just had sex every other day. Pregnant within a month both times so far.

 

[Reaper]

We just went through the same thing. We had been trying for about 6 months but I finally got one past the gaolie. Good thing cuz the next step was making a deposit and I was not looking forward to that. My wife was charting her temperature on a daily basis and had some guide to go by to determine the right days to do "it". Finally one night she convinced me to do THIS and she claims that was the day it happened. Baby BoltzFan #2 is due sometime in March.

Now she is going through that "I'm tired" phase. We go for the first doctors visit next week. Good times ahead.

Boltz I'm on your schedule - March 9

We were the opposite - We ditched the pills and tested the waters and BAM......

She's feeling pretty miserable right now though claiming this MUST be worse than what anyone else went through......

DOH!!!! Never mimd just checked the date.....

 

[RoarinSonoran]

You're having ######l intercourse, right?

 

[One]

You're having ######l intercourse, right?

Unfortunately, yes.

 

[Wyldfox]

You're having ######l intercourse, right?

 

[TheFanatic]

I'm not exactly having trouble getting pregnant, but my wife is.We've been trying for almost a year, and nothing yet. We've had our first round of tests, which they make you get before you are able to get an appointment at the fertility clinic. Luckily my "little boys" are in fine shape, large in number, and are great swimmers -- likewise her hormone levels are "normal"Beyond this though, we don't know what's going on.Anyone have any thoughts they'd like to share? This is really tearing up my wife, and while it's not effecting me in the same way (really not that much at all), I am starting to get worried about her state of mind about the whole thing.

I hear where you're coming from. Exact same boat for me and my wife only we already have one and she's 35. She basically loses her mind when her period comes around these days. I play the emotionally supportive husband card, but secretly I'm loving all the action I get every month. The only advice that's been given to me is "flip her over and #### her again". So that's what I do.

I'm in the exact same boat as well. We've been trying for about 6 months. Maybe only 5. That's when she stopped taking the pill. I hear it's a really long time for that to get out of her system. She's 28, I'm 34. I keep telling her to be patient, but that week or so when she is really fertile, she is kind of a nut job and gets all upset if her period starts....I'm kinda on the fence. If after a year we got nothing, then we will seek some medical help. But until then, I'm just riding the wave (and my wife!!!).....

 

[One]

Crazy to see this revived!

We had our first kid, a boy, on June 1 It must have been soon after I posted this that we conceived.

This is awesome news. Congratulations! :(

I think she was on clomid for a month or two, and conception happened during our first artificial insemination treatment thingamabob. Basically, I went into a room, wanked one into a cup, then they used some sort of tool to inject it close to where it needed to go. We think that some of the testing they did on her ovaries may have flushed out a blockage that was preventing my guys from reaching their goal, according to our doc, this is the case sometimes and people often conceive right after they get this type of testing.

We were luckily able to avoid IVF and the more expensive treatments, though the clomid and the one treatment we did get, plus consultations, cost a few grand total.

K, we haven't tried any of this yet, I'm sure it's right around the corner. She did have some procedure done where they inject and follow some kind of dye in order to see if things are moving where they should. She checked out okay in that department. Do you think that's the same test? Also, there another surgical test the doctor is recommending to check for Endometriosis. (sp?) I think that's next up.

I'm not sure how your wife is taking this whole thing, mine was pretty upset at times throughout the process. My only advice is to be as understanding as possible, and be patient. At 29, she's still very young. The temptation might be there to go straight to IVF (especially if you can afford it), but I would advise trying the drugs and the artificial insemination route for as long as a year or more if need be.

The hardest times really came once a month when we found out she wasn't pregnant. This would induce a couple days of misery, but as long as you are there for her emotionally, I'm sure you guys can pull through.

good luck!!

Oh, not good.. She's a saint, but as soon as Aunt Flo comes she loses it for a few days. I'm telling you.. I could have/would have written the EXACT same thing you did a year ago.I think Clomin, AI and the small surgical procedure are our next step.

Thanks -a -million for the update.

 

[One]

Snitwitch, I went back and read your post on trying to get the wifey pregnant. It sounds verbatim like what my wife and I have been going through for the last year. Any updates? good news? advice? I had some testing done as well.. the troops were solid as a rock, she's 29 and her hormones check out all good. Let me know how things ended up. One Also.. anyone else with advise, please feel free to comment.

We had a similar issue and part of the problem was the doctor. Fortunately, my wife is a scientist and caught it. Most doctors will assume that a woman's cycle is 28 days....and that assumption is typically correct, but a cycle can be between 28-35 days. My wife started reading an internet site that suggested her charting her body temperature for an entire month. Those temps then could be a very good indication of what her cycle was. It turned out hers was 35 days, so we were very busy a week too early. After figuring this out, we adjusted and now we have a little boy that is due into this world in about 4 weeks.Not sure what kind of research she's done etc, but I'd recommend educating myself as much as possible. Our doctor still doesn't believe that her cycle was 35 days, but the data shows otherwise. GL to you and your wife!! It will happen when it's suppose to.

:notetoself:thanks Commish :(

 

[Bouncing Beatnik]

My wife and I went through this same thing a number of years ago. My boys were generally sluggish and lazy (a lot like me), but what they lacked in vigor (far below the norm) they made up for in numbers (way above the usual concentration).

Mrs. Beatnik had problems with endometriosis - cists & junk inside her keeping the fallopian tubes and other mechanisms in her from working properly. She had surgery to get rid of that. Afterwards, we had several cycles of iui (they take a sample, try to skim off the better swimmers, and - er - insert them) . Got pregnant, but at the first ultrasound, the baby had no fetal heartbeat. Very sad day.

Did a few more iui cycles with clomid, no luck. Finally, did a couple of iui's with more powerful drugs (can't remember the name), and got pregnant with Beatnik, jr. Perfect, wonderful little boy. His sister came along 2 year later, w/o any assistance.

 

[snitwitch]

Crazy to see this revived!

We had our first kid, a boy, on June 1 It must have been soon after I posted this that we conceived.

This is awesome news. Congratulations!

Thanks bro!

I think she was on clomid for a month or two, and conception happened during our first artificial insemination treatment thingamabob. Basically, I went into a room, wanked one into a cup, then they used some sort of tool to inject it close to where it needed to go. We think that some of the testing they did on her ovaries may have flushed out a blockage that was preventing my guys from reaching their goal, according to our doc, this is the case sometimes and people often conceive right after they get this type of testing.

We were luckily able to avoid IVF and the more expensive treatments, though the clomid and the one treatment we did get, plus consultations, cost a few grand total.

K, we haven't tried any of this yet, I'm sure it's right around the corner. She did have some procedure done where they inject and follow some kind of dye in order to see if things are moving where they should. She checked out okay in that department. Do you think that's the same test? Also, there another surgical test the doctor is recommending to check for Endometriosis. (sp?) I think that's next up.

Yeah, it sounds like it was the dye test that we think may have cleared the plumbing. My wife also came back clear for endometriosis IIRC. If this is something your wife has, I believe they ramp up the treatment schedule to go straight to IVF, though I'm not certain.

I'm not sure how your wife is taking this whole thing, mine was pretty upset at times throughout the process. My only advice is to be as understanding as possible, and be patient. At 29, she's still very young. The temptation might be there to go straight to IVF (especially if you can afford it), but I would advise trying the drugs and the artificial insemination route for as long as a year or more if need be.

The hardest times really came once a month when we found out she wasn't pregnant. This would induce a couple days of misery, but as long as you are there for her emotionally, I'm sure you guys can pull through.

good luck!!

Oh, not good.. She's a saint, but as soon as Aunt Flo comes she loses it for a few days. I'm telling you.. I could have/would have written the EXACT same thing you did a year ago.I think Clomin, AI and the small surgical procedure are our next step.

Thanks -a -million for the update.

Yeah, it's not good times :( But they are also times I remind my wife of everytime she gets a little frustrated with our fussy newborn, being stuck inside most of the day, breastfeeding, sleepless nights, etc...

Not in a "don't complain" way, but more like "Babe, I know it's hard, but remember how much we wanted this? This is the miracle of life in action!" etc...

 

[TheAristocrat]

Is your name Otis? Are you finishing?

 

[Nigel Tufnel]

Sorry, buddy. Don't give up.

 

[belljr]

Took us about 1.5 years.

The first 6-8 months we just went at it

The next 4 we timed everything.

Then we went to the doctors - got tested, etc etc (wife ovulated early or something) - For the next 4 months we did (forget what it called- same as snitchwtch) but it's right before you try invetro.

The month we scheduled the invitro we finally got pregnant using the "other method"

It can be a very trying time and I can honestly say you get to a point where it becomes "work". But you have to keep pressing on.

 

[Otis]

Yes.

 

[Scooby]

Do it every night for a while, 1 is bound to get through. At least tell your wife that.!!!!

 

[jafo]

How many times are you having sex a day?

 

[cartel]

Snitwitch, I went back and read your post on trying to get the wifey pregnant. It sounds verbatim like what my wife and I have been going through for the last year. Any updates? good news? advice? I had some testing done as well.. the troops were solid as a rock, she's 29 and her hormones check out all good. Let me know how things ended up. One Also.. anyone else with advise, please feel free to comment.

Crazy to see this revived!We had our first kid, a boy, on June 1 It must have been soon after I posted this that we conceived.I think she was on clomid for a month or two, and conception happened during our first artificial insemination treatment thingamabob. Basically, I went into a room, wanked one into a cup, then they used some sort of tool to inject it close to where it needed to go. We think that some of the testing they did on her ovaries may have flushed out a blockage that was preventing my guys from reaching their goal, according to our doc, this is the case sometimes and people often conceive right after they get this type of testing.We were luckily able to avoid IVF and the more expensive treatments, though the clomid and the one treatment we did get, plus consultations, cost a few grand total.I'm not sure how your wife is taking this whole thing, mine was pretty upset at times throughout the process. My only advice is to be as understanding as possible, and be patient. At 29, she's still very young. The temptation might be there to go straight to IVF (especially if you can afford it), but I would advise trying the drugs and the artificial insemination route for as long as a year or more if need be.The hardest times really came once a month when we found out she wasn't pregnant. This would induce a couple days of misery, but as long as you are there for her emotionally, I'm sure you guys can pull through.good luck!!

Congrats on your child!For the other guy whose wife is 29 if she is still not pregnant I would actually suggest being very aggressive, if you have not concieved after a year you need to be seen by a fertility specialist. If you still have not conceived after a year of treatment I would be looking toward IVF. There is a chance your wife could have premature ovarian failure and that means your wife's clock is ticking differently then other woman and there may be a finite time she can get pregnant even with IVF. If you feel like your fertility doc is screwing around and not taking your problem serious move on to someone else. Just like any where else in medicine there are good docs/clinic and bad docs/clinics. Make sure you ask fertlity clinics what there IVF success rate is and then measure it against other clinics and the national average. Definantly educate yourself on infertility and the treatments before you walk into a fertility clinic.

 

[Bouncing Beatnik]

How many times are you having sex a day?

Ought to be every other day, clustered around day 14 of her cycle. Lots of websites about fertility cycle charting, if you want to get the exact day down better.

 

[Marvelous]

We were looking at infertility. Did all the tests and got the diagnosis: unexplained infertiliy.

He adopted twins from China in 1999. Two months later, my wife is pregant. We went from 0-3 kids in less than a year.

Good luck.

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat]

Make sure you ask fertlity clinics what there IVF success rate is and then measure it against other clinics and the national average.

Actually, these statistics are highly misleading and don't really say anything about the quality of the facility. The rates are heavily influenced by whether the doctors are willing to do IVF in less-than-ideal situations. Some places will refuse to treat women who are too old or have certain specified problems.

 

[parasaurolophus]

How many times are you having sex a day?

Ought to be every other day, clustered around day 14 of her cycle. Lots of websites about fertility cycle charting, if you want to get the exact day down better.

DO NOT ruin this with facts

 

[cartel]

Make sure you ask fertlity clinics what there IVF success rate is and then measure it against other clinics and the national average.

Actually, these statistics are highly misleading and don't really say anything about the quality of the facility. The rates are heavily influenced by whether the doctors are willing to do IVF in less-than-ideal situations. Some places will refuse to treat women who are too old or have certain specified problems.

Yes this can be true. However, if the numbers are complete butt you need to be leary that there lab sucks. Believe me all fertility clinics are not the same.

 

[fatguyinalittlecoat]

Make sure you ask fertlity clinics what there IVF success rate is and then measure it against other clinics and the national average.

Actually, these statistics are highly misleading and don't really say anything about the quality of the facility. The rates are heavily influenced by whether the doctors are willing to do IVF in less-than-ideal situations. Some places will refuse to treat women who are too old or have certain specified problems.

Yes this can be true. However, if the numbers are complete butt you need to be leary that there lab sucks. Believe me all fertility clinics are not the same.

I agree that facilities are not all the same. I just think IVF success rate stats are ineffective in distinguishing the good from the bad.

 

[The Noid]

The trick is to do your business first then she does her.

The female orgasm is nature's sperm escalator.