Why I No Longer Want the U.S. to be a Soccer Nation.
Whenever I talk soccer/futbol with my brother-in-law (he spent 18 years as a missionary in Argentina and practically considers himself a native), I always come away from the conversation feeling like a silly little boy because of my interest in the USMNT and American soccer in general, and I always get the impression that whether by accident or intention, he feels superior. On one hand, I have to admit that Argentina has the hardware and hall of fame players to make their fans feel good about themselves; yet on the other hand, my conversations with him this weekend finally unlocked for me not only blind hypocrisy of CONMEBOL countries but also the pound-for-pound impotency that FIFA itself has.
The last time I visited him in Atlanta in 2016, Atlanta United were up and coming; a then unblemished Tata Martino had just been hired to lead a talented and hungry roster to basically overnight success for the new franchise. I promoted the team to him at the time and he just

about it. I thought that since he wouldn't be getting to any FC Barcelona matches any time soon and there was a lot of groundswell for a local team, that he would at least have more than a passing interest, but in his mind, MLS just isn't worth paying attention to, when you can catch La Liga and Champions League matches every so often as opposed to paying regular attention to something interesting right under his nose. Over time, he did at least give them some attention, but I don't see him caring much about them nor the repercussions of anything MLS/young American talent, which is unfortunate for a guy who fell in love with soccer himself while still in the US and at a time when the nation at large couldn't have cared less about it.
Fast forward to this weekend. Being both a glutton for punishment and a fledgling soccer

, I couldn't help myself but to bring up soccer again. I tried to avoid going into detail about the Copa America, though he did say went to the Argentina match played in Atlanta, the one with the awful field conditions. Again, I let that go, but did remind him about my predictions about Atlanta United (COMPLETELY BASED ON CONVERSATIONS IN THIS THREAD AT THE TIME, SO CREDIT WHERE IT'S DUE), and he launched into the "best athletes" narrative, and fortunately, the inspiration to shoot down this false narrative came to me without hesitation. "What position would Lebron James or Aaron Donald play?" I tried to guide the discussion to one of my theories about how to make our players better, and that's to get them in the weight room more often. I talked about Mikhail Antonio and his banger against the US in the last WC qualifying cycle. As an aside, I've noticed that there are several Jamaican players as well as other international players with muscular upper bodies and are just a handful to defend. I'm not asking for Pulisic to put on 15 pounds of muscle, unless it didn't slow him down, but we could use someone with more substance and agility in the attack. I don't recall prime Gareth Bale or even current Christiano Ronaldo getting bodied as much as Pulisic and Aaronson. Weah is closest to the build I'm talking about; he's still fast and substantial enough that he can stay on the ball when defenders are draped on him. But I digress.
He also talked about the "History and tradition" of South American teams, and used it as some sort of justification for the way they play, but I had to let that go; if you look fondly at the flopping bully style of play and don't call out the Luis Suarez and Neymar level of ****housery, we're never going to see eye-to-eye on what 'history and tradition' really mean.
After our little 'skirmish' about the "best athletes", he started a conversation with his son-in-law, a native Argentine his daughter had met "back home," and he brought up the fiasco of the Copa America championship game and how shameful it was for the US to have allowed that. "Back home," he began, "they know to separate the fans in the stadium and keep them separate before they come in, with barbed wire fences, and they designate an area away from the stadium where the ultras can fight one another."
Repeat that quote to yourself a few times.
While it's tough to have a comeback for such a brutish line of thinking, I did my best; first, I suggested having matches strictly in venues where the most spirited US football matches take place, like SEC and Big 10/16/24 teams play, like Tuscaloosa, where local authorities have more experience with unruly crowds. I didn't think of it at the time, but--no offense to these fan bases--places like Oakland and Philadelphia also have seen their share of fans willing to do violence for their team. Then, I ended my comments with "well, no US sport has 'barbed wire' in their bylaws, so yeah, we're not as experienced there."
This is when I realized that while I still enjoy soccer, I don't want the kind of "passion" that comes with the territory of being a "futbol nation" like Argentina and the rest. While "futbol is life' sounds great, the reality is players getting killed because they scored an own goal in the World Cup, ignoring written and unwritten rules of conduct on the field and unchecked and condoned violence and hatred by and of fans based on what team you support.
I know I'm tossing out a big blanket, and I certainly don't mean every nation where soccer is the #1 sport behaves this way; rather, I'm saying that when even more 'civilized' countries like England, Germany, etc, have problems with hooligans that make a brawl between Giants and Dodgers fans look like a slap fight, I believe it's OK for us to strive to be better than that, and if that means we don't go soccer crazy, I'm good with that.
Actually, I think this passion is something we can use against teams like this. I think that no matter how much talent we have on the roster at any given time, the eternal thought our team should have is:
Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.
We need to lean more into the stereotype the rest of the world has for us and act like no matter how 'good' we are, every international match is being played with house money, and when we do well against the 'big' nations, our players need to let them know about it. Relentlessly. Even for the best soccer nations, there is only the pretense of soccer being a 'beautiful' game; the reality is the soccer field is their battleground and they will do everything fair and unfair to win. We need that mentality; we need to be the 'Devil Dogs' that the Germans feared facing in World War I. We need to approach the international stage the way that Jackie Robinson approached Major League Baseball; let the jeering and abuse roll off their back and give them all they can handle in return.
Alright, that's it, I'm done. Soccer is not life, its war. Dempsey knew this, every 'lesser' USMNT knew this, and it's about time that concept gets sewn into the fabric of the USMNT for good.