Why is there no thread on the upside of marriage for the ladies?
No one could think of any upside for women.Why is there no thread on the upside of marriage for the ladies?
Should be obvious -- who wouldn't want to tie up a middle-aged FBG all to themselves?Why is there no thread on the upside of marriage for the ladies?
WetDream alias?Should be obvious -- who wouldn't want to tie up a middle-aged FBG all to themselves?
So how do you suppose we should do it? Just impregnate women and then let them deal with the kids cuz they are too much work for men who wanna do what they wanna do?But why the need to actually get legally married to do any of that? I do get the having kids part of it and wanting to have same last names, commitments, etc. But ultimately the reality is having kids even furthers the demise of a relationship with your spouse and adds more layers of stress and anxiety to men where they feel trapped.
You support them and do anything and everything a good husband and father would do. That is possible without a piece of paper telling you to do that.So how do you suppose we should do it? Just impregnate women and then let them deal with the kids cuz they are too much work for men who wanna do what they wanna do?
You come off sounding pretty selfish, and short sighted....kids and marriage are hard, but also very rewarding.....besides, what are you gonna do when u get old?
Monogamous relationship? No?You support them and do anything and everything a good husband and father would do. That is possible without a piece of paper telling you to do that.
And the I’m gonna get married cuz I’m scared to be old and alone crew is silly. Getting married and having kids guarantees you nothing when you’re 80. Wife could pass before you, kids could move out of state and a thousand other scenarios. If I need someone at 80 then I can move to a retirement community and make friends or flirt around with all the widowed blue hairs for company.
This 100%I think we have had 9 pages of arguments because of a typo.
The OP’s thesis was written as: “There is no upside of marriage for men”.
It should have read: “There is no upside of marriage for me.”
Yes, for sure.Monogamous relationship? No?
Somebody had to say. Thanks, I feel seen.So I've learned I ####ed up and wasn't happy enough in my forties because I didn't bang every gal in sight and that I'm going to be okay with being miserable later in life because I was supposed to be incredibly centered back then.
These two grand daughters of mine are the worst people on the planet. I'm so miserable. Wish I could have a do over.
I don't wanna look thru the whole thread....do u mind me asking, why did it end?Yes, for sure.
I'm not advocating for deadbeat dads or abusive/toxic relationships at all. I was just in a 7 yr relationship with a woman with 3 kids....lived together, completely monogomous, loving, I was a good father figure, etc, etc. We just never got married for various reasons and it unfortunately ended. Now that I'm past that I'm realizing how lucky I was to not have gotten married in that situation but I still did everything just as good as a present husband and father would've been without putting myself at financial risk.
Cliff notes: Quarantine made her a little whacko and we started to unravel as a couple after that. Gave it a valiant effort to reconnect and make it work but couldn't get back. Quarantine just magnified a lot of differences. She ultimately was the one to have the official talk to move on.I don't wanna look thru the whole thread....do u mind me asking, why did it end?
Appreciate that weasel.I do think the original poster has good points. I have internet known offdee for 20 years- our first draft was way back then. I was single when we were drafting- and my future wife was at my Father’s funeral- which was at that time. I also think that he is right: you should think really hard before getting married- and make sure that at least- at that time, you and your partner have the same goals.
I also think that for me, not marrying until my 30’s was a good move. I had a pretty intense earlier life with lots of women, poker, grad school, trying to be an artist, etc. so, I basically had my mid- life crisis (which is often a marriage breaker) before we even were engaged.
Yea that sucks. The last couple years have been extremely hard on people. For my wife and I, it actually brought us closer together.....we've been thru much tougher though. She is a breast C survivor, diagnosed at age 33. My kids were 4 and 1......that really put life into perspective for us.Cliff notes: Quarantine made her a little whacko and we started to unravel as a couple after that. Gave it a valiant effort to reconnect and make it work but couldn't get back. Quarantine just magnified a lot of differences. She ultimately was the one to have the official talk to move on.
If that wasn't staged (not convinced it wasn't) I hope she said no.
"I need to show her that I'm a responsible adult who can provide for my family and build a stable household, but how? Wait a minute, I just came up with the greatest idea . . . "If that wasn't staged (not convinced it wasn't) I hope she said no.
Real cheap shot by security
Defenseless proposerReal cheap shot by security
He had given himself up on one knee
Defenseless proposerReal cheap shot by security
He had given himself up on one knee