rustycolts
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We went to oncologist today. I sent you a pm maybe you can explain some of this to me. Thanks so much.
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Cancer: Formerly about my wife Let’s help each other out (1 Viewer)
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CurlyNight
Footballguy
I got your message. I'll be back home around 6 pm pt and will respond. If you'd rather talk over the phone, let me know and I'll pm you my number.
rustycolts
Footballguy
rustycolts
Footballguy
I just want to say the FFA is a great place full of caring and wonderful folks. I want to thank all who have reached out to me. Bless you.
Galileo
Footballguy
Not to imply anything good about cancer, but I hope your news/diagnosis was as good as it could possibly be.
rustycolts
Footballguy
Thanks for that. She has stage 1 grade 2(which is not real aggressive)HER2 was negative. CurlyNight said that was a good prognosis as far as cancer goes. She goes next week to see the Surgeon and Radiation doctor. CurlyNight offered to speak with her anytime which I really appreciate. I don't know if Lori will take her up on it though I certainly hope so and so does my wifes sister. I just feel it could be a godsend for her to be able to speak with someone who has lived through this. My wife managed a convenience store for years and never met a person she didn't like. I swear she knows everyone in the town we live in we can't go shopping without her stopping and having a 30 minute conversation with someone. But for some reason she is reserved about talking about it. I hope she changes her mind because I think it will help.
Anyway again I want to say that even though there definitely are some characters that are on this board most everyone is great and I appreciate the folks that have reached out. You and @CurlyNightand @Tom Skerrittalso @bucksohthank you guys.
CurlyNight
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You're welcome. I hope she calls me. Even though I did it alone, I did have support of some who went through it before me. Some was info gathering and other times just to vent/chat. Still in touch with a couple sisters today not talking much about cancer but just keeping our friendships going. It's a bond formed.
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Galileo
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If your wife is that social, I am sure there are plenty of folks she knows in town who have lived through this that she could probably talk to as well. Unfortunately, cancer has become far too common. Everywhere we turn seems to be people who have had to live with this disease. My two immediate neighbors have been battling cancer...one was stage 3 triple negative breast cancer (now 5 yrs in with no evidence of disease) and the other lung cancer (2.5 yrs). Those are the successful stories. On the flip side, my brother-in law is dying of brain cancer. He will literally be gone before Christmas. This has been tough as hell to witness. There are far too many experts around for all the wrong reasons, but at the same time, it is nice to have these experts as resources. I understand your wife's hesitancy to talk. My wife is the same way. She wants to be strong, independent...she wants to show she can handle it. She doesn't want to be the "poster child" as she refers to it as. She wants to keep some privacy and not be the center of attention. But, at the same time, she knows there is plenty of support around when/if she needs.
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CurlyNight
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Sorry to hear about your brother in law.
That's the thing about cancer. Some people with the poorest prognosis, like triple negative bc, go past the 5 years that is generally given. Then you find some stage 0 with no nodes involved progress to stage 4 later on. There was one gal on the boards who was stage 4 bc for 25 years! Her arsenol of treatments worked that long! So there is no guarantee for anyone at any stage. But if you go into it with your mind set that you'll beat this, it makes it easier and actually more likely you will.
No one is an expert in cancer. Many of us just have experience to share and tips that even docs don't always know that gets us through treatments easier. Until a cure is found there is no expert. Anyone is a candidate to get and recur, good profile or not. Cancer can mutate and grow in any environment. It's so complicated and complex. What we really want asap in the meantime are better treatments.
I pray your brother in law will have a painless and peaceful transition.
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Mrs. Rannous
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This might be because she sees these people all the time. Even if she would like to talk, there will be times when she doesn't. At that point, getting others to shut up about it might be challenging. Going over the same info over and over would not be my idea of a good time. Talking to someone she won't run into at the grocery store might work a lot better for her.
CurlyNight
Footballguy
That is a complaint of some women. Plus there may be people you don't want to know in town. Once the word is out, it can spread at some point, intentionally or not.
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AAABatteries
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I don't want to hijack in any way but I know you are onboard with Keto. I'm very interested in the studies they are doing around diet and the possibility of helping reduce the frequency/severity of some cancers.
Keerock
Footballguy
My son's oncologist laughed in my face... literally dismissed me as foolish when I asked about benefits of keto on cancer.
AAABatteries
Footballguy
To be clear - i'm not saying just Keto - I'm talking about our diets in general and the impact on cancer. It's a given that cells (including cancer cells) need sugar to grow - I think right now the science says that limiting sugar doesn't starve cancer cells so that's probably why he laughed it off. But I think lots of studies are being done in that area so who knows what they may find. I think it's foolish in either direction to think that our diets don't have some kind of impact. I'm open to Keto (or any other diet) being good (or even bad) for cancer but in general I just find it interesting how much we are learning around nutrition that we didn't know for years.
Galileo
Footballguy
FWIW, my wife's sister, who is a physician, is advocating for my wife to switch to a vegan diet. My wife told her to GTFO.
bucksoh
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CurlyNight
Footballguy
Also cut down on red meat consumption. When you do eat animal products, eat grass fed low fat dairy and lean meats.
There is no magical prevent cancer diet. Eat healthy foods, more veggies on your plate. There are people who follow vegan or pop all kinds of supps touted to do this and that, and still get cancer or recur. I know some stage 4 former vegan and marathon runners who were healthy as hell. We all know what is good vs bad fats, bad carbs and foods...
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CletiusMaximus
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Condolences Galieleo and good luck going forward.
This may seem odd, but I've been following Jillian Barberie on twitter since she announced she has breast cancer last fall. I've never seen her on television or heard her speak as far as I know, and to this day don't really know why she is famous. I saw several of her tweets forwarded and commented on in my timeline and decided to follow her. She's been very open during her cancer experience and I think quite inspirational. She just announced she is going to start using pot for her cancer anxiety, in place of xanax.
https://twitter.com/askjillian
This may seem odd, but I've been following Jillian Barberie on twitter since she announced she has breast cancer last fall. I've never seen her on television or heard her speak as far as I know, and to this day don't really know why she is famous. I saw several of her tweets forwarded and commented on in my timeline and decided to follow her. She's been very open during her cancer experience and I think quite inspirational. She just announced she is going to start using pot for her cancer anxiety, in place of xanax.
https://twitter.com/askjillian
El Floppo
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dammit. havne't looked in here for a long time- so sorry to hear the news about your wife- and your BIL.
wishing you and your wife the best outcome at each turn- kick it's ###.
jamny
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Galileo
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Mrs. Rannous
Footballguy
My condolences also.
Clown Car
Footballguy
I’m go sorry Galileo.
I haven’t posted this anywhere. I didn’t even know how to start. But 2018 can suck it and cancer can gfitself. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia in 2017 and had a bone marrow transplant in May of 2018. My mom was diagnosed with tongue cancer in May of 18 and died in October. My daughters girlfriend was diagnosed with lymphoma in June and began her chemo treatments in December. My dads transplant didn’t work and he’s on a new chemo plan that isn’t working either and is killing him. I don’t/didn’t have much to do with my parents care. I live four hours away, so I drive down there at least once a month. They were divorced in 1976 and married to other people at this time. My sister is a hospice nurse so she dies all the work and just tells me what’s going on. When I visit I stay with her and make her laugh and cook her food and try to support her the best way I can. We are both drained, sad, angry, tired.
My heart goes out to you all facing it directly or more intimately.
I haven’t posted this anywhere. I didn’t even know how to start. But 2018 can suck it and cancer can gfitself. My dad was diagnosed with leukemia in 2017 and had a bone marrow transplant in May of 2018. My mom was diagnosed with tongue cancer in May of 18 and died in October. My daughters girlfriend was diagnosed with lymphoma in June and began her chemo treatments in December. My dads transplant didn’t work and he’s on a new chemo plan that isn’t working either and is killing him. I don’t/didn’t have much to do with my parents care. I live four hours away, so I drive down there at least once a month. They were divorced in 1976 and married to other people at this time. My sister is a hospice nurse so she dies all the work and just tells me what’s going on. When I visit I stay with her and make her laugh and cook her food and try to support her the best way I can. We are both drained, sad, angry, tired.
My heart goes out to you all facing it directly or more intimately.
Galileo
Footballguy
Wow. Sad. Maybe it is that I have reached a certain age range, or maybe I just have a heightened awareness given my situation, but it just seems cancer is every direction I look...Relatives, friends, neighbors, colleagues, internet acquaintances. Condolences on your mom...what a fast progression that was. It has been an emotionally draining day. My wife has been struggling here sitting in the chemo chair all the while thinking about her sister and family, wanting to be with them. We still have a couple hours to go here.
Clown Car
Footballguy
I agree. It’s everywhere and the younger ones break my heart. My daughters gf is 28.
My mother has been sick a long time. Just never complained about it. Then told my sister in January she had a sore throat. My sister knew immediately. After all the testing she opted for no treatment and had a peaceful final months. My dad is fighting like crazy and is sick and miserable with no hope. The leukemia treatment will kill him or he will get an infection they can’t beat and that will kill him. And two friends died this year. And none of these people are super old. Mom 68, dad will be 70 on February 1. Friends were 51 and 53.
I’m praying for your wife and her sister today. My sister and I are each other’s rock through this. I pray your wife is blessed with a divine comfort and peace that she can share with her sister.
CurlyNight
Footballguy
So sorry for your loss Galileo. Cancer is the suck for patients and families. You just never know no matter how well you take care of yourself if it'll strike. Sending you and yours strength and peace. Xxx
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Clown Car
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My dad passed away this morning. I was able to help care for him this last week. It was an amazing experience and I’m really proud of myself. And the son I was so upset with earlier this month said “I’m really proud of you for taking care of the father that abandoned you.” It really helped me.
CurlyNight
Footballguy
Galileo
Footballguy
My condolences. I wish you and your family the best as you work through these difficult times.
Judge Smails
Footballguy
So sorry for your loss. Take care. Cancer sucks
Mrs. Rannous
Footballguy
I'm sorry, Never easy. Hope you can get some healing and rest and great job for "ending well" here. Lots of folks don't get that opportunity and I'm glad you were able to. Rock on.
sho nuff
Footballguy
Sorry for your loss and kudos to you for taking care of him. I echo the thoughts of the experience there having been there when I could myself. And a
to sin for recognizing what you did.
cheeseypoof
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Da Guru
Fair & Balanced
Lost the best man in my wedding to Glio 2 years ago. The guy was a fitness fanatic 6-0 180 very low body fat..watched his diet, did not smoke and drank very little. Blacked out in May while driving and thought he had a stroke. Found out he had Glioblastoma and they gave him 6 months. died almost 6 months to the day.
Very frightening.
Very frightening.
Wrigley
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jamny
Footballguy
A CURE FOR CANCER? ISRAELI SCIENTISTS SAY THEY THINK THEY FOUND ONE  
A small team of Israeli scientists think they might have found the first complete cure for cancer.
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A small team of Israeli scientists think they might have found the first complete cure for cancer.
“We believe we will offer in a year’s time a complete cure for cancer,” said Dan Aridor, of a new treatment being developed by his company, Accelerated Evolution Biotechnologies Ltd.
AAABatteries
Footballguy
tuffnutt
Footballguy
I'm just popping in here to say I'm sorry for anyone who has lost someone to this horrible disease. Over the past 5 years my family has lost an Aunt, an Uncle both to kidney cancer, a grandfather to lung cancer, and a cousin to breast cancer. My wife just recently found lumps in her breast and we have a mammogram scheduled for Monday morning. Hopefully things will be ok and I want to thank all you for sharing your stories.
AAABatteries
Footballguy
Sending good vibes your way tuffnutt - just went through the same with my wife and thankfully got the all clear.
CurlyNight
Footballguy
Warrior
Footballguy
Sorry to hear about your dad. Mine is going through a similar situation. Diagnosed with leukemia 6 months ago, just finished a transplant but the donor cells # is going down a bit rather than reaching 100% like was hoped. It's hovering around 54% currently after dropping to around 40% initially. I'm not sure what that means other than we're hopeful that it's not a complete failure so far. He's going back on chemo treatments now to try and keep the blasts from recurring.
jamny
Footballguy
Galileo
Footballguy
jamny
Footballguy
Yeah, I didn't think it was valid enough to start a thread on it which a real cure would obviously be. And since it barely got any press, I figured there wasn't much to it. Thanks for confirming.
Sand
Footballguy
Not sure where to put this, but this seems the best thread. Not a cure - but a seemingly awesome advancement in detection: Cancer detected up to 4 years before diagnosis. This obviously would be massive, particularly for those silent cancers (pancreas, etc.)
Oh, and #### cancer.
Oh, and #### cancer.
ProstheticRGK
Footballguy
A little light on details, but this could be a great thing. I wonder how much mortality would change if detection were moved forward several years and early treatment could start.
And, definitely, #### cancer!
Mrs. Rannous
Footballguy
For pancreatic cancer, it would be the gold standard. If detected early, removing the pancreas fixes the problem. Later detection basically guarantees that it has spread.
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