Trouble getting pregnant? (3 Viewers)

[One]

We have a ton of people around us pregnant too. My younger sister (and not so stable sister) has a 1 year old and just found out she was pregnant with twins...naturally and both of my step sisters are pregnant (one with her 5th). Holidays will be super fun this year.

This was the hardest part for my wife before we got pregnant. I expect it's going to be that way again with all our friends/family working on #2 or #3. Best of luck. My wife had acupuncture during her IVF cycle and is a big proponent of it.

Same here. My wife had a few visits before and during our successful attempt.

 

[One]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

 

[One]

Nice Bentley, good luck!

Yeah, this didn't work. We're pretty much at the end of fertility treatment. We did manage to get our son out of the first IVF. Still disappointing.

So sorry to hear that, B.Keep it going though. We have some friends who got pregnant twice naturally after having their first one with IVF.

 

[Worm]

Just found out my wife is prego after not being successful naturally for the last 5 years. We had two successful IUIs but one miscarried and the other was a neonatal fatality. Also tried and IVF but it never took. We pretty much gave-up and were looking into adopting or donor eggs. What a rollercoaster.

Missed this... congrats and good luck!

 

[Worm]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

 

[One]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

 

[Worm]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

Yeah, so, I was right. Got to hear two heartbeats this morning. (and )

 

[Corn Man]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

Yeah, so, I was right. Got to hear two heartbeats this morning. (and )

Congratulations.

 

[One]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

Yeah, so, I was right. Got to hear two heartbeats this morning. (and )

Grats Worm!

 

[The Commish]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

Yeah, I have mixed emotions at the moment. Part of me is saying it's happened once, it will happen again. The other part is saying, that's a butt load of money we don't have saved but it's a good possibility that things will work first time.

 

[TobiasFunke]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

Yeah, I have mixed emotions at the moment. Part of me is saying it's happened once, it will happen again. The other part is saying, that's a butt load of money we don't have saved but it's a good possibility that things will work first time.

Out of curiosity- how did that 16k break down, and did your insurance cover any of it? We're getting estimates more in the 10-12k range start to finish and are budgeting for that, I'm just wondering if there's a couple thousand that we don't know about lurking at some point in the process. Thanks.

 

[Tiger Fan]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

Yeah, I have mixed emotions at the moment. Part of me is saying it's happened once, it will happen again. The other part is saying, that's a butt load of money we don't have saved but it's a good possibility that things will work first time.

Out of curiosity- how did that 16k break down, and did your insurance cover any of it? We're getting estimates more in the 10-12k range start to finish and are budgeting for that, I'm just wondering if there's a couple thousand that we don't know about lurking at some point in the process. Thanks.

does that quote include the drugs?

 

[bentley]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck :( We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

I think ours was about $14K. I remember being relieved at one point that we didn't have to refill one med because AngryWife's numbers were good and that refill saved us a few hundred bucks.Personally, we're in a lot better place than we were a couple weeks ago. This whole fertility thing has been like a job for the last 4-5 years. We're committed now to moving on and enjoying the wonderful son that we were blessed with.

 

[Tiger Fan]

also, some doctors encourage patients to mail the unused drugs back to save the cost for future patients. I know we just mailed a few things back to our doctor.

 

[Tiger Fan]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck :( We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

I think ours was about $14K. I remember being relieved at one point that we didn't have to refill one med because AngryWife's numbers were good and that refill saved us a few hundred bucks.Personally, we're in a lot better place than we were a couple weeks ago. This whole fertility thing has been like a job for the last 4-5 years. We're committed now to moving on and enjoying the wonderful son that we were blessed with.

 

[El Floppo]

We're starting our 2nd round of IUI today- probably do 2 or 3 courses.

I think the wife's just doing it to load up on whatever insurance covered medicine they'll cover that might also be used for IVF, which is where this train is heading.

 

[TobiasFunke]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

Hi Commish,Our IVF cycle came to around 16k in the end. We just paid with money we had saved up. I wasn't too excited about it at the time, but the wife insisted. Looking back now, as you know with your son, it's worth every penny.

Yeah, I have mixed emotions at the moment. Part of me is saying it's happened once, it will happen again. The other part is saying, that's a butt load of money we don't have saved but it's a good possibility that things will work first time.

Out of curiosity- how did that 16k break down, and did your insurance cover any of it? We're getting estimates more in the 10-12k range start to finish and are budgeting for that, I'm just wondering if there's a couple thousand that we don't know about lurking at some point in the process. Thanks.

does that quote include the drugs?

The quote was around $10K not including the drugs. I was figuring the drugs would be maybe another grand or something.We've got 50% coverage of everything start to finish, which is great.

 

[Tiger Fan]

The quote was around $10K not including the drugs. I was figuring the drugs would be maybe another grand or something.We've got 50% coverage of everything start to finish, which is great.

IIRC, our drugs cost b/w $2k-$3k. 50% coverage is sweet!

 

[TobiasFunke]

The quote was around $10K not including the drugs. I was figuring the drugs would be maybe another grand or something.We've got 50% coverage of everything start to finish, which is great.

IIRC, our drugs cost b/w $2k-$3k. 50% coverage is sweet!

Thanks. I'll revise the estimate.Yeah, it's unbelievable. It's horrible health coverage for the most part- we chose it entirely because of the IVF coverage.

 

[mr. furley]

We have our first ultrasound next Friday. Blood test numbers indicated there is a strong possibility that there is more than one baby on board...

Yeah, so, I was right. Got to hear two heartbeats this morning. (and )

more bang for your buck congrats

 

[El Floppo]

We're starting our 2nd round of IUI today- probably do 2 or 3 courses. I think the wife's just doing it to load up on whatever insurance covered medicine they'll cover that might also be used for IVF, which is where this train is heading.

goo inserted. IUI officially underway. :fingerscrossed:

 

[bentley]

Yeah, this didn't work. We're pretty much at the end of fertility treatment. We did manage to get our son out of the first IVF. Still disappointing.

Sometimes things change. Went to talk to the fertility doctor on Friday about any possible options and the % chance that anything would work. After a long chat with her, our parents, each other, and a lot of soul searching, we're going to go for one more round of IVF. We felt like we'd regret it if we looked back in five years and hadn't given it a try. As they say, it's only money. Transfer should be in early December. Wish us luck.

 

[mr. furley]

gllllllllllll brentley

 

[Tiger Fan]

Yeah, this didn't work. We're pretty much at the end of fertility treatment. We did manage to get our son out of the first IVF. Still disappointing.

Sometimes things change. Went to talk to the fertility doctor on Friday about any possible options and the % chance that anything would work. After a long chat with her, our parents, each other, and a lot of soul searching, we're going to go for one more round of IVF. We felt like we'd regret it if we looked back in five years and hadn't given it a try. As they say, it's only money. Transfer should be in early December. Wish us luck.

GLLLL

 

[Wooderson]

I haven't told my story yet but I thought what the heck I could use the support.

My wife and I have been trying for over 2 years with no luck. We have tried 3 rounds of IUI that did not work. We are now onto acupuncture "just started today" and my wife has us on a strict diet. No beer, coffee, sugar, salt.... We are going to see if that helps us.

IVF is an option that I think we would start in March if we don't hear good news. At least our insurance will cover it.

My wife is doing well with it all but I can tell it eats at her. She really really wants a baby. She just turned 30 so that may have something to do with it as well. We have worked well together this whole process but I hope we get a surprise before IVF as I would like to avoid that.

Any positive stories from people after using acupuncture?

Congratulations to all that have conceived and good luck to all trying.

 

[El Floppo]

gllllllllllll brentley and floppo

 

[Early_10]

Turns out my first child was apparently the miracle. Been trying a couple years now for #2 with no luck We are beginning down the road of iVF considerations. Question for you guys....how the heck do you pay for something like that? Are there places that will give you loans or is it a lump sum...save the money until ready to go.Worm, You're close to me....where did you guys go? Reach? If you don't want to answer here....I'll take a PM.

My first pregnancy took 3 months. My second took 5 years. When I had something else to worry about (a lump on my neck they thought could be cancerous), I was pregnant in 3 months. I had surgery to remove the lump and on the pre-op registration answered "no" to could I be pregnant. Of course I was 3 weeks along but after 5 years I'd pretty much ruled it out. Third pregnancy was 2 months from the time I stopped nursing #2. It happens when it happens.

 

[Early_10]

Just found out my wife is prego after not being successful naturally for the last 5 years. We had two successful IUIs but one miscarried and the other was a neonatal fatality. Also tried and IVF but it never took. We pretty much gave-up and were looking into adopting or donor eggs. What a rollercoaster.

Positive vibes to your wife, she must be a nervous wreck.

 

[Early_10]

I haven't told my story yet but I thought what the heck I could use the support.My wife and I have been trying for over 2 years with no luck. We have tried 3 rounds of IUI that did not work. We are now onto acupuncture "just started today" and my wife has us on a strict diet. No beer, coffee, sugar, salt.... We are going to see if that helps us. IVF is an option that I think we would start in March if we don't hear good news. At least our insurance will cover it.My wife is doing well with it all but I can tell it eats at her. She really really wants a baby. She just turned 30 so that may have something to do with it as well. We have worked well together this whole process but I hope we get a surprise before IVF as I would like to avoid that.Any positive stories from people after using acupuncture?Congratulations to all that have conceived and good luck to all trying.

The worrying sure can't help. Vacation?

 

[CletiusMaximus]

Good luck to Brently and Floppo, TF and Wooderson and everyone else in here. Every time I read this thread I can't help thinking of the opening sequence of Idiocracy. It is really interesting how our society has changed so much in this area over the past generation or so. I have so many friends going through one form or another of pregnancy efforts with their doctors - many are older or just busy professionals. Meanwhile I think back to all the teenage pregnancies in my high school and how scared I was that if my unwrapped #### even got near a chick she would be having my baby. My wife and I got some good news recently when we learned that we have a successful IVF in the works. The twist with us is our age - I'm 45 and she will be 43 soon. It is a strange, difficult at times, but wonderful process.

 

[tikitime]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-

My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.

My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.

However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).

Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

 

[Early_10]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

Genetic counselor? Sometimes I think technology is failling us.

 

[tikitime]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

Genetic counselor? Sometimes I think technology is failling us.

I don't understand.

 

[Early_10]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

Genetic counselor? Sometimes I think technology is failling us.

I don't understand.

I'm no expert but worrying about "chromosomal translocations" can't be good for your wife. I've never heard of it. She should relax and enjoy being pregnant. Was she past 16 weeks the previous pregnancies?

 

[commisholio]

Chromosomal translocations would be something you worry about for the baby, not the mom. Sometimes one arm of a chromosome swaps with an arm of another.

I don't understand how you could have chromosomal analysis as a pre-cursor to amnio. Amnio is when you do the chromosomal analysis. There is something called CVS (chorionic villi sampling) that is like amnio but done at an earlier stage, but you wouldn't do an amnio after getting CVS as the data you get would be redundant. CVS is also higher risk than amnio so I would think that you would wait for amnio, if anything.

We had two miscarriages after our first son was born without any problems. We had the same recommendation and ended up getting amnio - in our minds, the risk of miscarriage was worth the peace of mind knowing there were no significant chromosomal abnormalities. We had a healthy baby boy for #2 after an uneventful (except for godawful excessive maternal moodiness) pregnancy.

GLLLLL Bently and Flops and anyone else trying to get pregnant. It is quite a rollercoaster, that's for sure.

 

[The Z Machine]

We're holding off for this month (i.e. I need to wrap it) due to bad timing for the delivery and my wife's future employment situation. She'll be finishing up her doctorate in May and will likely start a new position in the summer.

Hopefully it's just one month.

 

[Worm]

My wife is a fountain of yak.

 

[Early_10]

My wife is a fountain of yak.

SHe's so cute.

 

[tikitime]

Chromosomal translocations would be something you worry about for the baby, not the mom. Sometimes one arm of a chromosome swaps with an arm of another. I don't understand how you could have chromosomal analysis as a pre-cursor to amnio. Amnio is when you do the chromosomal analysis. There is something called CVS (chorionic villi sampling) that is like amnio but done at an earlier stage, but you wouldn't do an amnio after getting CVS as the data you get would be redundant. CVS is also higher risk than amnio so I would think that you would wait for amnio, if anything.We had two miscarriages after our first son was born without any problems. We had the same recommendation and ended up getting amnio - in our minds, the risk of miscarriage was worth the peace of mind knowing there were no significant chromosomal abnormalities. We had a healthy baby boy for #2 after an uneventful (except for godawful excessive maternal moodiness) pregnancy.GLLLLL Bently and Flops and anyone else trying to get pregnant. It is quite a rollercoaster, that's for sure.

Basically because of the two miscarriages, we're hesitatnt to do the amnio because of two prior miscarriages. The counselors are saying they could counduct the test in order to determine if there is a translocation, and if there is, then they would recommend performing an amnio.

 

[CletiusMaximus]

Chromosomal translocations would be something you worry about for the baby, not the mom. Sometimes one arm of a chromosome swaps with an arm of another.

I don't understand how you could have chromosomal analysis as a pre-cursor to amnio. Amnio is when you do the chromosomal analysis. There is something called CVS (chorionic villi sampling) that is like amnio but done at an earlier stage, but you wouldn't do an amnio after getting CVS as the data you get would be redundant. CVS is also higher risk than amnio so I would think that you would wait for amnio, if anything.

We had two miscarriages after our first son was born without any problems. We had the same recommendation and ended up getting amnio - in our minds, the risk of miscarriage was worth the peace of mind knowing there were no significant chromosomal abnormalities. We had a healthy baby boy for #2 after an uneventful (except for godawful excessive maternal moodiness) pregnancy.

GLLLLL Bently and Flops and anyone else trying to get pregnant. It is quite a rollercoaster, that's for sure.

We were referred to a geneticist who did the most thorough ultrasound I have ever seen. He took about an hour, describing every single thing he saw as he went, and then gave us a two page report relating solely to genetic traits discernible from the ultrasound. This was at about 15 weeks. Afterward, he told us we had no need for an amnio and that he could very nearly rule out every genetic or chromosomal issue of concern, but that he could do an amnio and close the loop if we wanted. My wife wanted one, and it was a very easy process.this is the guy we used: http://www.genetest.com/aboutglg/drherrmann.htm

 

[tikitime]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

Genetic counselor? Sometimes I think technology is failling us.

I don't understand.

I'm no expert but worrying about "chromosomal translocations" can't be good for your wife. I've never heard of it. She should relax and enjoy being pregnant. Was she past 16 weeks the previous pregnancies?

She was 6 weeks with the prior two losses. I agree, that its terrible for my wife, who is a worrier by nature. The problem however is that it is now in her head, and is causing more worry and strain about what we could be missing when we were already hoping to be past some of our initial fears.Unfortunately this experience now is so different than with our son who was conceived in '06. We had a nickname, we thought about potential names for him very early, we were planning and thinking of the life ahead of us. Now to be honest, its just day after day of unending worry, when to this point, we have never been given anything but good news with this pregnancy. March can't come soon enough.

 

[FUBAR]

I feel for those who have this issue, my BIL/SIL do and it's tough on them.

For us it's been the exact opposite, we don't try, but I seem to be really efficient at this, which is also too bad in some ways.

 

[mr. furley]

gllllllllllll brentley and floppo

 

[commisholio]

[basically because of the two miscarriages, we're hesitatnt to do the amnio because of two prior miscarriages. The counselors are saying they could counduct the test in order to determine if there is a translocation, and if there is, then they would recommend performing an amnio.

So it sounds like they're worried that maybe one of you two have a previously unrecognized chromosomal translocation, and that might be contributing to your miscarriages? If that's the case, it is a pretty simple genetic test for the two of you.

 

[tikitime]

[basically because of the two miscarriages, we're hesitatnt to do the amnio because of two prior miscarriages. The counselors are saying they could counduct the test in order to determine if there is a translocation, and if there is, then they would recommend performing an amnio.

So it sounds like they're worried that maybe one of you two have a previously unrecognized chromosomal translocation, and that might be contributing to your miscarriages? If that's the case, it is a pretty simple genetic test for the two of you.

True, I guess we were thinking that if we get the results back and they are problematic, and then we get an amnio, and get the results back, we are then at 20-21 weeks, pretty far along in the process, and have a very difficult decision to have to make.Perhaps I am being silly, but I'm giving serious consideration to the ostrich approach.

 

[FBGirl79]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

We haven't had multiple miscarriages but am curious about which disease your wife is a carrier of? My cousin was born with Taysachs and since my husband and I are going through fertility treatments right now, we have talked about getting tested. Part of me doesn't want to bc even if we tested positive and had a baby with it, I don't think I could ever end the pregnancy.

 

[tikitime]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

We haven't had multiple miscarriages but am curious about which disease your wife is a carrier of? My cousin was born with Taysachs and since my husband and I are going through fertility treatments right now, we have talked about getting tested. Part of me doesn't want to bc even if we tested positive and had a baby with it, I don't think I could ever end the pregnancy.

My wife tested as a carrier for a disorder known as "Usher Syndrome". Bottom line if the child has this variety of disorder, they will likley be deaf at birth and blind by adolescence.Especially because you aren't pregnant yet I STRONGLY recemmond getting tested for the Jewish panel of diseases (presuming you and your husband are both of Ashkenazi Jewish origin). If you knew you were a carrier, then your husband could take a test to determine if he was a carrier for the same disorder. If you KNEW that you were both a carrier for the same disorder, I believe there are steps (albeit potentially expensive ones) that you could take to test out an embryo prior to implantation in order to determine if the embryo was affacted by the disorder. This is (in my mind) a better result than being afflicted with a child with a serious genetic problem that you could have known about in advance.We're in a bit of a harder spot because of how far along we are in the pregnancy.

 

[FBGirl79]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

We haven't had multiple miscarriages but am curious about which disease your wife is a carrier of? My cousin was born with Taysachs and since my husband and I are going through fertility treatments right now, we have talked about getting tested. Part of me doesn't want to bc even if we tested positive and had a baby with it, I don't think I could ever end the pregnancy.

My wife tested as a carrier for a disorder known as "Usher Syndrome". Bottom line if the child has this variety of disorder, they will likley be deaf at birth and blind by adolescence.Especially because you aren't pregnant yet I STRONGLY recemmond getting tested for the Jewish panel of diseases (presuming you and your husband are both of Ashkenazi Jewish origin). If you knew you were a carrier, then your husband could take a test to determine if he was a carrier for the same disorder. If you KNEW that you were both a carrier for the same disorder, I believe there are steps (albeit potentially expensive ones) that you could take to test out an embryo prior to implantation in order to determine if the embryo was affacted by the disorder. This is (in my mind) a better result than being afflicted with a child with a serious genetic problem that you could have known about in advance.We're in a bit of a harder spot because of how far along we are in the pregnancy.

I wish you guys the best of luck! I know my cousin was born "normal" and it wasn't until she was after 1 that she was diagnosed and passed away at 5. I can't imagine ever having to make that decision but I also can't imagine not having her in our lives even if it was for 5 years. She had a smile and an infectious laugh that would light up any room.

 

[Early_10]

Just wondering if anybody has received similar advice on this point-My wife and I really had no problems getting pregnant at all. But, we lost one pregnancy to a miscarriage last fall, and a second to an ectopic pregnancy earlier this year. We tried again this summer, and luckily conceived on the first try.My wife is now 16 weeks pregnant. We had some Jewish genetic tests performed and my wife came up as a carrier for one, but I was not, so not need for further explanations.However, when speaking with a genetic counselor abot this issue, we were informed that couples that have had multiple miscarriages are at higher risk for having "chromosomal translocations", and that we should chromosomal testing at this stage in order to determine whether there is a reason to have an amnio (which we have been hoping to avoid because of the two lost pregnancies and the inherent risk therein).Anybody else have multiple miscarrages and receive this advice?

Genetic counselor? Sometimes I think technology is failling us.

I don't understand.

I'm no expert but worrying about "chromosomal translocations" can't be good for your wife. I've never heard of it. She should relax and enjoy being pregnant. Was she past 16 weeks the previous pregnancies?

She was 6 weeks with the prior two losses. I agree, that its terrible for my wife, who is a worrier by nature. The problem however is that it is now in her head, and is causing more worry and strain about what we could be missing when we were already hoping to be past some of our initial fears.Unfortunately this experience now is so different than with our son who was conceived in '06. We had a nickname, we thought about potential names for him very early, we were planning and thinking of the life ahead of us. Now to be honest, its just day after day of unending worry, when to this point, we have never been given anything but good news with this pregnancy. March can't come soon enough.

Hence my initial statement. SHe'd have been happier not thinking of these things. I think you two should have a talk, maybe with parents or someone you feel comfortable confiding in, and discuss letting the pregnancy happen. Is this chromosonal thing something you can "fix" during pregnancy? Probably not. So go back to enjoying being pregnant and stop giving a vulnerable woman things to be upset about. It's rollercoaster enough. The saying, "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" probably started with a pregnancy.

 

[commisholio]

The saying, "if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" probably started with a pregnancy.

There are not enough s in the world for this statement.