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Trouble getting pregnant? (1 Viewer)

Several years ago we went through all the mentioned fertility options. Tried IUI once and IVF 3 times unsuccessfully. Very tough times. You really have to be there for your wife no matter what. She obviously is going through a lot physically and mentally. I wish everyone luck having difficulties. 

 
Bucky86 said:
Yeah, she's in pain right now just from the ovulation stuff. She's says she's probably never actually ovulated before.
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Ouch. No beuno. My wife had to give her own shots in her thigh and I gave her what I think was the trigger shot. It was a thicker needle. She had a reaction to I believe the progesterone, but I’m not sure. Been awhile. Good luck and I hope she can find something to comfort her pain. 

 
Bucky86 said:
Tomorrow morning is the day we're supposed to test to see if she's pregnant after our IUI. Wife felt nauseous and tired yesterday. :oldunsure:
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Good luck.  We are doing the second round of IVF right now.  Projected that my wife goes in on Monday for the retrieval.  

 
Bucky86 said:
Uh weird. Her doctor just called (she's been getting blood work to check her progesterone levels) and said they're great. In the 50's when they are looking for 10-20's. They said this could be an indication of pregnancy, or just her follicle levels. They said she can test today if she wanted to.

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congrats/condolences!

 
Totally crazy this discussion has been going on since 2006, and some of the kids born in the early years of this thread are now teenagers.

Good luck to everyone going through this.  It was well worth the effort for us, but every journey through this process is different.  What crazy memories. Daughter is now 8 (IVF).

 
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ffweasel said:
Several years ago we went through all the mentioned fertility options. Tried IUI once and IVF 3 times unsuccessfully. Very tough times. You really have to be there for your wife no matter what. She obviously is going through a lot physically and mentally. I wish everyone luck having difficulties. 
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It's not just the female in the situation that suffers emotionally.  It affects both sides of the couple.  If you're a man going through this, don't suppress your own emotions just to be there for your partner.  You are suffering too.  Acknowledge that and be emotionally available.

Also, good luck to all.

 
Bucky86 said:
She's scheduled for bloodwork tomorrow to verify, but oh ####. When do we know if its actually multiples?  I'm freaking. 
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From my experience, the hormone levels were growing fast, like double the projected rate.  Confirmation of multiples happened at the first ultrasound which was 7 weeks after IVF.

 
Bucky86 said:
She's scheduled for bloodwork tomorrow to verify, but oh ####. When do we know if its actually multiples?  I'm freaking. 
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Shark move is to call A&E, Lifetime, Bravo, whoever will talk to you about the soon to be basketball team setting up shop in your wife's uterus.  

 
Bucky86 said:
:lol:  No. Just one...thank goodness. 
We’ve now had 3 ultrasounds. 2 with our specialist and yesterday our first with the doctor that is going to deliver Bucky Jr.
So far everything looks great. Bucky Jr was kicking like crazy at 12+3! There might’ve been some ninjas cutting onions once I was safely alone in my car...
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That's great!

15 weeks in....or is that 12+3 some kind of new-math?

 
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.

 
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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This is an awesome nugget of goodness in the crazy times we're in.  Thanks for posting it :thumbup:  

 
Just seeing this thread now...  The wife and I tried for 5.5 years to get pregnant. Tried everything possible along with seeing multiple specialists.  Nothing could be found with either of us as to why it never happened (well that’s not 100% accurate, we did get pregnant once but lost it around 15 weeks or so).  Long story (which these typically are) short we went though 2 rounds of IVF and on the last set of eggs we had left it worked! Originally had triplets 😬 but 1 was never likely to make it (this was very early in the pregnancy). The second started to have issues and we eventually lost that one too.  Luckily the 3rd was heathy as can be.  

We then ran into some issue with a rare condition during the pregnancy called vasa previa. This condition is a bit to explain but it’s very dangerous for the child towards the end of the pregnancy (very often fatal).  Luckily it was caught very early for us and we were able to manage the situation.  We ultimately had our Daughter at 32 weeks due to the condition.  She was perfectly heathy and after 21 days in neonatal care our perfect little girl came home (she was 4lbs 5oz at the time).  

In March she turned 5, is perfectly healthy and normal.  Wife and I consider her a miracle considering all that happened.  
 

*on a side note we call her the million dollar baby as our medical bills, with my wife’s 3 month say in the hospital due to the condition and our daughters time in neonatal, were well over 1 mil. Also due to this I will never complain about the cost of medical insurance again.  We’ve gotten our monies worth!!

 
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Moving back into this thread (tried to get a mod to merge the one I unnecessarily started but I guess not), we got some great news this week:

7 successful embryos...FIVE high quality. One not. One too small, so undetermined.

We are two weeks out from transferring one. We have three potential boys and two potential girls. Funny story of how we decide which one, once we got to a doctor saying "not one of these is higher likelihood of success than the others", was prepare for a conversation with a few questions:

1. If we end up unable to have a second, which would we like to have?
2. Knowing we want one of each would we rather have the older brother or the older sister?
3. Which one do we think we're more likely to change our minds and have two of?

So then I get back from work travel, we're getting ready to discuss, and I said "Let's just say what we want on three?"

She agrees.

1...2...3...

"Boy" "Boy"

So no conversation at all and we just laughed and continued on. Obviously we'd like to have any child, but if everything continues to be lucky, we may as well pick what we want!!!
 
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
 
TwinTurbo said:
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
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Absolutely! We used Spring Fertility up in San Francisco (they have a bunch of locations now I believe). You're correct, though, in that reading reviews is liking walking across a mine field given how emotional this journey is. Ultimately we had a bunch of friends recommend them and their underlying data/success metrics were good.

We actually live in Austin now and flew back to use them for round #3 (given the previous successes). We're now on week 8 of a successful transfer and about to get handed off to the general OBGYN. So they fully get my support.

The one caveat is we used Dr Tran at Spring. We love him, but he is a but cut/dry. He's incredibly smart and great at what he does but we can see bed side manor being a tad abrasive given how emotional this journey is.
 
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TwinTurbo said:
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
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Not sure where in Cali you‘re looking but I have someone in the North San Diego area if you want. They were great for us.
 
dkp993 said:
TwinTurbo said:
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
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Not sure where in Cali you‘re looking but I have someone in the North San Diego area if you want. They were great for us.
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Sure San Diego is ok too
 
EZD222 said:
TwinTurbo said:
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
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Absolutely! We used Spring Fertility up in San Francisco (they have a bunch of locations now I believe). You're correct, though, in that reading reviews is liking walking across a mine field given how emotional this journey is. Ultimately we had a bunch of friends recommend them and their underlying data/success metrics were good.

We actually live in Austin now and flew back to use them for round #3 (given the previous successes). We're now on week 8 of a successful transfer and about to get handed off to the general OBGYN. So they fully get my support.

The one caveat is we used Dr Tran at Spring. We love him, but he is a but cut/dry. He's incredibly smart and great at what he does but we can see bed side manor being a tad abrasive given how emotional this journey is.
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This is very helpful. Thanks! I had not looked into Spring yet but will check them out.
 
TwinTurbo said:
dkp993 said:
TwinTurbo said:
EZD222 said:
Bumping this thread because we could all use a little positivity in these trying times.

This thread was a lifesaver/beacon in a dark time for me.

4 years trying to get pregnant. Got one of those fancy tech jobs in SF where fertility was covered (2 full cycles) so jumped at the chance. Ended up with 6 healthy fertilized eggs. The 1st transfer took and we were ecstatic. Told family and friends at 12 weeks. We then ended up with a mid 2nd trimester miscarriage was was utterly devastating. No one to this day can say why it happened or the cause. But that was one hell of a gut punch. Took a while to bounce back from that. (I think I read this thread in one sitting at 3am one night shortly after and it helped immensely). We took two vacations afterwards (Hawaii and Scotland) to mentally reset and tried again half a year later. The 2nd transfer took thankfully. We were super cautious and nervous the entire time. Had a team a doctors the whole way thru because 2nd trimester misscarriages are rare and they recommended high risk specialists (esp because they couldn't pinpoint the cause). Ultrasounds weekly until week 26. Then covid happened and we had to deal with giving birth in that crazy time. I got to be in the delivery room thankfully. Now we have a giggling 3 month old rolling baby boy and the world seems a better place no matter what is happening outside. 4 eggs still on ice for when we need them.

I read more on these forums vs post and there is alot of negativity. But there is also good here and this was one of them. Thank you for that.
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@EZD222 just catching up on this old thread. Could you share the clinic/doctor team that got you the good result? Feel free to DM if you want. Looking in CA, but anywhere is ok. When I read the reviews for any of the top clinics, they all sound terrible. But I imagine a lot of people end up disappointed and emotionally devastated. I just want to find a place where they actually care about the patient, even if the "good result" is the longest of long shots.
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Not sure where in Cali you‘re looking but I have someone in the North San Diego area if you want. They were great for us.
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Sure San Diego is ok too
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San Diego fertility Center. Dr Chuan is who we had. She was great. Was 8 yrs ago so been a bit and not sure if she’s still there.
 
Well after a week delay due to lining thickness (or lack thereof really) we began progesterone in oil shots. Got this auto injector from union medico - seemed to all go pretty smoothly. Set for this coming Thursday!
 
This thread brings back a lot of memories, but the first one that comes to mind every single time is the one of me jabbing myself in the hand with the needle trying to give my wife her first set of shots. I absolutely HATE needles and was trying to help, but my wife took it from then on :lmao: :bag:
 
The Commish said:
This thread brings back a lot of memories, but the first one that comes to mind every single time is the one of me jabbing myself in the hand with the needle trying to give my wife her first set of shots. I absolutely HATE needles and was trying to help, but my wife took it from then on :lmao: :bag:
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I'm surely a disgusting pervert but have to say giving my wife shots in the butt was my favorite part of the whole thing, other than getting a daughter out of it.
 
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