Long Ball Larry
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Look on the bright side. Most likely some nut will actually shoot you before these negative consequences come to pass.
You make it sound like it has to be him or me and this is the ultimate ultimatum for your marriage. I think that's a real shame. I'm sure this is tough for you and I wish you the best.Ive been married for 15 years. There have been ups and downs. Trust me. Below is what Im having the most trouble with....
This is exactly my issue here. Ive given my veto and it appears that she may be ignoring me on this.
She appears to not respect me enough to value my feelings.
Your wife is 65? She's gonna be getting the loan.Im not actually worried about this as much as Im worried about:
His age/possibility of death
Fiancee and her kids
Their local housing market losing value
His inability to get the loan re-financed due to his age****
Hurting my/our Income to debt ratio
ETA*** - WTF is going to give a 65 y/o a 30 year loan??????????????????
I resent this #### head's dad. What a POS.As a boomer myself, I resent your attitude here.
/threadLike many baby boomers, your father-in-law has spent decades screwing around and now expects to live well off of the kindness and smart decisions of his children. That's bull####.
The purpose of having your wife sign is to have her be liable if anything happens. If she is liable, your community property regime is liable.
Tell your wife you have no problem with this as long as you can get divorced first so she can make these decisions for herself and not for your marital property and you.
This has nothing to do with baby boomers ...guy is just a POS./thread
I'm 41. X! Boomers are the devil! Haven't spoke to my dad in a year at least. Selfish pricks.This has nothing to do with baby boomers ...guy is just a POS.
Nice try you millennial #### wads.
Don't you have an episode of Murder She Wrote to go watch?This has nothing to do with baby boomers ...guy is just a POS.
Nice try you millennial #### wads.
I was making a point by generalizing there PIK.I'm 41. X! Boomers are the devil! Haven't spoke to my dad in a year at least. Selfish pricks.
Yeah, my FIL has 10 seasons backed up on his DVR.Don't you have an episode of Murder She Wrote to go watch?
You're right. I should just let her do whatever she wants all the time while ignoring my thoughts entirely. What could go wrong?You make it sound like it has to be him or me and this is the ultimate ultimatum for your marriage. I think that's a real shame. I'm sure this is tough for you and I wish you the best.
Sounds like my wife. She doesn't have good credit. Her sister, who also doesn't have good credit, tried to purchase a vehicle last summer. She asked my wife to co-sign. I caught wind of it, said it is a bad idea. I thought that was the end of it. Fast forward 350 or so days later and my wife was in need of an upgrade. We go to a Nissan dealership. When the salesman goes over her credit report he states her credit is okay but not good and she's got some derogatory things showing up such as her having co-signed on another vehicle. Turns out after having Nissan deny selling a car to my sister-in-law and wife last summer, they went somewhere else to get it done.This goes well beyond your feelings if indeed she did this without your ok. This is about risking your financial future without giving a #### what you think about it.
That's worse then the op's issue imo.Yeah, my FIL has 10 seasons backed up on his DVR.
Yeah, thanks. I am no youngster, but living with my 83 year old FIL's place for "vacation" for 6 days has my balls shrinking. I am deep into a handle of his bad bourbon blend and itchy to argue since I can't fight.That's worse then the op's issue imo.
Sorry, must have misread or misunderstood.Go back and check, you are correct and I agree, It's absolutly a factor. Only her father not paying the bills due to laziness is unlikely- EVERYTHING else is of major concern, especially death.
Divorce her. Dead seriousIve been married for 15 years. There have been ups and downs. Trust me. Below is what Im having the most trouble with....
This is exactly my issue here. Ive given my veto and it appears that she may be ignoring me on this.
She appears to not respect me enough to value my feelings.
tommyboy advice is like looking for answers at the free clinic.Divorce her. Dead serious
No. Serious as ball cancer. If your wife chooses her father over you, you have a crappy marriage.tommyboy advice is like looking for answers at the free clinic.
Age has no bearing on qualifying for a mortgage. I have done 30 year mortgage for someone who is 92 and they needed the smallest possible payment and had no issues getting it through the underwriting process.
Also as far as giving a 65yo a 30 year mortgage -- I'm curious about this myself. Do the banks factor in age when approving loans? Is that even legal?
Though it always troubles me to the core when I agree with you, I think you have something here.No. Serious as ball cancer. If your wife chooses her father over you, you have a crappy marriage.
To many men just accept their fate. #### that. You have value
So the guy dies at 94. Explain what happens to the loanAge has no bearing on qualifying for a mortgage. I have done 30 year mortgage for someone who is 92 and they needed the smallest possible payment and had no issues getting it through the underwriting process.
Life insurance pays it off.So the guy dies at 94. Explain what happens to the loan
The estate handles it. Either they continue to pay it, while they settle the estate out, or they pay it when they sell the house to cash out the value left in it, or they refi into one of the heirs names when they split it and one decides to keep it and buys the other heirs out.So the guy dies at 94. Explain what happens to the loan
Seriously?So the guy dies at 94. Explain what happens to the loan
Who is the co-signer? Who is entitled to his estate?So the guy dies at 94. Explain what happens to the loan
As a borderline boomer/Xer myself, tough noogies.As a boomer myself, I resent your attitude here.
I'm no millennial. This isn't an across the board "all boomers" thing, but there are a bunch of these dip####s.This has nothing to do with baby boomers ...guy is just a POS.
Nice try you millennial #### wads.
Yeah, I wouldn't normally generalize like that. I was making a point about generalizations in general ...generally.I'm no millennial. This isn't an across the board "all boomers" thing, but there are a bunch of these dip####s.
Yep. Discriminating based on age is quite illegal in the mortgage process.Age has no bearing on qualifying for a mortgage. I have done 30 year mortgage for someone who is 92 and they needed the smallest possible payment and had no issues getting it through the underwriting process.
I salute you, general.Yeah, I wouldn't normally generalize like that. I was making a point about generalizations in general ...generally.
My dad was a general, you can call me privates.I salute you, general.
Ridiculous and making no sense.1) No.
2) Yes.
3) No. Obama took my guns.
He doesn't have the significant downpayment. If he did, he wouldn't need help buying a house.If this has to happen, I think there are some ways you can insulate yourself.
1. Make the purchase in your wife's name and rent the property to your father in-law.
2. Require a significant downpayment, something like 30%
3. Require your father in-law to pay u for a term life insurance policy, which would cover the loan's outstanding balance, naming her as the beneficiary that you will be in charge of managing.
4. Do not do anything until u have settled your personal housing situation. The additional debt will wreak havoc on your debt to income ratios.
Wife and I do not loan money to the family, much to their dissatisfaction. None of them own property, can keep a job, ever have 2 nickels to rub together...and then they like to lecture us once a year when we come around to visit for an hour or two.Don't do it. Your wife's sister is well off because she doesn't enter into situations like this.
Lecture you about what?Wife and I do not loan money to the family, much to their dissatisfaction. None of them own property, can keep a job, ever have 2 nickels to rub together...and then they like to lecture us once a year when we come around to visit for an hour or two.
My guess is they throw around the term "lucky" a lot. And that MOP should help them out due to said luck. And that he's selfish, etc.Lecture you about what?
Lol, whatever. Different state same issue.I believe Myrtle Beach is in SC not NC. Does that solve the problem?
If he dies and the woman he is living with asserts that they are married, that opens a can of worms that may never go away. Even if she doesn't, and your wife owns the house, the woman may have the right to live there for the remainder of her life. (It's called a "life estate".)The criteria for a common-law marriage are: (1) when two parties have a present intent (usually, but not necessarily, evidenced by a public and unequivocal declaration) to enter into a marriage contract; and (2) "a mutual agreement between the parties to assume toward each other the relation of husband and wife."[35] Common law marriages can dissolve in legal divorce and alimony.
Yeah, was just curious, since I'm not in the mortgage biz. Have never even thought about it until this threadSeriously?
Why we only come around once a year...Lecture you about what?
Arrrrr... Call your privates what, matey?My dad was a general, you can call me privates.