Positive vibes coming your way gbJust re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
Thanks Wrigley (and everyone!)Positive vibes coming your way gbJust re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
You really need to stay positive, for the both of you.
Glad they found it early, now be aggressive a beat this ####er
Sorry to hear this GB. Thoughts and prayers to Mrs. Kee.Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
GL, GB. You guys caught it early. You got this.Very small cancerous area (they say the size of half a hang-nail on your pinkie - WTF?)... plus some fibrous areas that are benign, but considered suspicious. Only on one side.
Current plan is to do lumpectomy and reduction plastic surgery. She's still debating on the latter.
Early detection is the key. I lost my wife to breast cancer over 17yrs ago. I gotta believe advances have been made since then. Hang in there & stay positive!Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
Ugh... sorry GBEarly detection is the key. I lost my wife to breast cancer over 17yrs ago. I gotta believe advances have been made since then. Hang in there & stay positive!Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
prayers your way keerockJust re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
Keerock said:Ugh... sorry GBBowieMercs said:Early detection is the key. I lost my wife to breast cancer over 17yrs ago. I gotta believe advances have been made since then. Hang in there & stay positive!Keerock said:Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
Not in the leastKeerock said:Thanks Wrigley (and everyone!)Wrigley said:Positive vibes coming your way gbKeerock said:Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
You really need to stay positive, for the both of you.
Glad they found it early, now be aggressive a beat this ####er
Mind if I PM you?
I highly recommend breastcancer.org. The best info and forum that has helped me tremendously with my stage III plight. Docs don't have all the info nor have time to give you the entire pic. I learned so much from that site. You really need to do your homework well and be your own pt advocate. Feel free to pm me if you like, and best wishes.Keerock said:Very small cancerous area (they say the size of half a hang-nail on your pinkie - WTF?)... plus some fibrous areas that are benign, but considered suspicious. Only on one side.
Current plan is to do lumpectomy and reduction plastic surgery. She's still debating on the latter.
Wish your wife, you and your family the best.Keerock said:Just re-read this thread to stay positive... inspired by your story Wrigley and your wife's triumph.
My wife was diagnosed... stage 1ish, so hopefully caught early enough. Trying to stay positive with/for her. Really just want this over with. She the last person on earth who deserves this...
Thanks Curly... she's been on there, and there's no stronger advocate than my wife. She's been working doctors/nurses up and down while my MIL has been battling cancer for the last 6 years. It's amazing how much she knows and asks all the right questions.I highly recommend breastcancer.org. The best info and forum that has helped me tremendously with my stage III plight. Docs don't have all the info nor have time to give you the entire pic. I learned so much from that site. You really need to do your homework well and be your own pt advocate. Feel free to pm me if you like, and best wishes.Keerock said:Very small cancerous area (they say the size of half a hang-nail on your pinkie - WTF?)... plus some fibrous areas that are benign, but considered suspicious. Only on one side.
Current plan is to do lumpectomy and reduction plastic surgery. She's still debating on the latter.
This is my wifeThanks Curly... she's been on there, and there's no stronger advocate than my wife. She's been working doctors/nurses up and down while my MIL has been battling cancer for the last 6 years. It's amazing how much she knows and asks all the right questions.I highly recommend breastcancer.org. The best info and forum that has helped me tremendously with my stage III plight. Docs don't have all the info nor have time to give you the entire pic. I learned so much from that site. You really need to do your homework well and be your own pt advocate. Feel free to pm me if you like, and best wishes.Keerock said:Very small cancerous area (they say the size of half a hang-nail on your pinkie - WTF?)... plus some fibrous areas that are benign, but considered suspicious. Only on one side.
Current plan is to do lumpectomy and reduction plastic surgery. She's still debating on the latter.
My wife gets that question all the time as well. She absolutely knows more than many nurses she's dealt with.This is my wifeThanks Curly... she's been on there, and there's no stronger advocate than my wife. She's been working doctors/nurses up and down while my MIL has been battling cancer for the last 6 years. It's amazing how much she knows and asks all the right questions.I highly recommend breastcancer.org. The best info and forum that has helped me tremendously with my stage III plight. Docs don't have all the info nor have time to give you the entire pic. I learned so much from that site. You really need to do your homework well and be your own pt advocate. Feel free to pm me if you like, and best wishes.Keerock said:Very small cancerous area (they say the size of half a hang-nail on your pinkie - WTF?)... plus some fibrous areas that are benign, but considered suspicious. Only on one side.
Current plan is to do lumpectomy and reduction plastic surgery. She's still debating on the latter.
I've heard Doctors ask her what hospital she works at.
She teaches 7th grade science
Sorry. Wish I could help with that. Bilat mastectomies with tissue expanders here. Post this question on the surgery forum on bc.org. Lots of nice folks there.Any experience with lumpectomy/reduction recovery in here?
Hoping for good results, Kee. Let me know if/when you're heading back to Portland so I can buy you a burger and a beer at Tilt.Back home and recovering. Surgery was a success, but the first 48 hours afterwards were rough. Pain managed now. Waiting on toxicology reports so we can take a breath.
Thanks all for your (continued) T&P.
Back home and recovering. Surgery was a success, but the first 48 hours afterwards were rough. Pain managed now. Waiting on toxicology reports so we can take a breath.
Thanks all for your (continued) T&P.
Oh man. So sorry to hear. Ts & Ps to her, you,and everyone involved. Can't imagine. :(Cancer sucks. It's great that it was caught early.
About 8 months ago my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer with mets to her liver and stomach. She's very debilitated now. Can't even get out of bed. Unable to eat. It really sucks to watch someone you love die before your eyes and there's literally nothing you can do about it.
Sorry to hear that. I went through this about a year ago. My biggest mistake was being selfish with my grief. I didn't ask my kids how they were feeling nearly enough.Cancer sucks. It's great that it was caught early.
About 8 months ago my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer with mets to her liver and stomach. She's very debilitated now. Can't even get out of bed. Unable to eat. It really sucks to watch someone you love die before your eyes and there's literally nothing you can do about it.
### ####, Gachi. I'm so sorry.Cancer sucks. It's great that it was caught early.
About 8 months ago my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer with mets to her liver and stomach. She's very debilitated now. Can't even get out of bed. Unable to eat. It really sucks to watch someone you love die before your eyes and there's literally nothing you can do about it.
Yep. Dec 14 I found out my dad has prostate cancer. Didn't know how bad. Made a pact with God saying please let it be ok for him. I'll take the bullet for him. 6 months later, I'm diagnosed and my dads psa levels are very low now. I'll take it!### ####, Gachi. I'm so sorry.
This is gonna sound weird, but I'd rather HAVE cancer (& I have) than have a loved one have it. When you have it, you come to terms. It's not bravery or anything, just a kind of pragmatism. For the rest of your support network, it's so ####### frustrating because, as you say, you feel helpless.
There are - or, were, before the Great Purge - of mine when I detailed my thoughts on just ####### quitting. Chemo made me SO sick that I swore I'd never do it again.
Please don't paint all chemo with that brush. The effects do depend on the type and stage of the cancer. Parents of kids who survived thanks to chemo at St Jude's are probably pretty grateful for it.Chemotherapy is just awful.
After seeing what's it's done to my mother, I will never get that stuff. I'd rather die in 1.5 years than be miserable for 3.
My mom is getting to that point, I can tell. It's so bad now, she can't walk and can barely talk simply because she's too weak. Yet my dad takes her to chemo every 2 weeks thinking it's doing her some good. He's in denial big time. I can tell he's gonna take her death very hard. But I will be there for him.
I agree, chemo is awful and very harsh. It certainly can be doing more harm than good when you are stage IV. Does your mom want to continue chemo? It should be her decision to make, to keep trying different chemos/meds to see if anything helps or to stop and go on hospice care. It really is up to her first and foremost. I know this lady on breastcancer.org, the site I live on, who we thought was a gonner before Xmas. Nothing was working. She wanted to go on as long as possible despite the horrid debilitating side effects because of her small kids. Otherwise she says she would have checked out many months ago. She kept plucking on and now has a med that is making her feel better. Maybe your mom wants to keep plucking away? A talk with her is in order and she shouldn't feel pressured either way. Cancer is horrid and if her wish is to go on hospice now, your dad should understand and be there for her.Chemotherapy is just awful.
After seeing what's it's done to my mother, I will never get that stuff. I'd rather die in 1.5 years than be miserable for 3.
My mom is getting to that point, I can tell. It's so bad now, she can't walk and can barely talk simply because she's too weak. Yet my dad takes her to chemo every 2 weeks thinking it's doing her some good. He's in denial big time. I can tell he's gonna take her death very hard. But I will be there for him.
Good to hear Kee. Continued positive thoughts to you and your family.Some positive news... Pathology came back... identified it as stage 1, only a 1/2 cm cancer removed with adequate margins, lymph nodes negative. No chemo likely required, just radiation once she heals up from the surgery.
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Have they said what the hormone status is? ER/PR, Her2 and grade? This will all help decide whether chemo will actually benefit her or not. My cousin was stage 1 with small tumour but was grade 3 and had a high ER %. She could have opted out of chemo but decided to throw the book at it. It's really an individual decision once you have all the #s (if you don't have it all yet). Chemo is highly recommended for grade 3 bc regardless of the stage. Stage really these days doesn't mean much. Many stage I go on to IV a few years later and many in stage III stay there. It's all a crap shoot but if she doesn't have the full path info yet I'd wait to diss chemo until you really look at folks who are like yourself, which I do on breastcancer.org.Some positive news... Pathology came back... identified it as stage 1, only a 1/2 cm cancer removed with adequate margins, lymph nodes negative. No chemo likely required, just radiation once she heals up from the surgery.
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Thanks... I don't know all these answers but the doc indicated chemo was likely not necessary. Pretty sure she said ER+ and positive BRCA is negative. Will know more when we meet with oncologist.Have they said what the hormone status is? ER/PR, Her2 and grade? This will all help decide whether chemo will actually benefit her or not. My cousin was stage 1 with small tumour but was grade 3 and had a high ER %. She could have opted out of chemo but decided to throw the book at it. It's really an individual decision once you have all the #s (if you don't have it all yet). Chemo is highly recommended for grade 3 bc regardless of the stage. Stage really these days doesn't mean much. Many stage I go on to IV a few years later and many in stage III stay there. It's all a crap shoot but if she doesn't have the full path info yet I'd wait to diss chemo until you really look at folks who are like yourself, which I do on breastcancer.org.