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I am taking a shot in the dark here but I am guessing you don't get along well with people in general but especially not your family.
Don't wake my kid up. It's really not that difficult.
I am taking a shot in the dark here but I am guessing you don't get along well with people in general but especially not your family.
Don't wake my kid up. It's really not that difficult.
I am taking a shot in the dark here but I am guessing you don't get along well with people in general but especially not your family.
Have to say, this is pretty odd.So you advocate approaching the bride and saying you are bailing on her party? I would never consider such a thing.
Maybe say goodbye to the mother.
A happy father and mother make a greatA freylekhe tate-mame, un a gringe hodevaniye
There are lots of both regional and religious customs that govern behavior in these events. Take the lead of the other guests, but it's just not something I've observed in the south.Have to say, this is pretty odd.
Saying goodbye to bride and groom is very customary in our family.
so send a snarky text instead of just sending a text goodbye and making the situation worse.
I get along very well with my family. Although I'm basing my responses on the fact that there's a big backstory here too. Acer has already said there's a ton that happened between his parents and his wife. At some point enough is enough and if they are injecting drama into my life I just wouldn't deal with it anymore.
Really? I'd go with a bag of flaming dog poo, myself.If that doesn't suffice tell them to go #### themselves, go in their house, and pour all of their shampoo out onto all of their toilet paper and leave it in the tub with the hot water turned on high because #### them.
smhWhy should he wake his sleeping kids up so the grandparents can say goodbye? They'll see them again in a few days. It's idiotic especially since his parents sound self-centered and have already disrespected his wife.
ThisCommon courtesy - say your goodbyes and nice to see you's. Takes a few minutes at most. Everyone happy.
Common courtesy as an adult - don't create/contribute to drama over goodbye's, giving or receiving.
I think you erred on both, your parents erred on the second.
I couldn't have said it better myself.A freylekhe tate-mame, un a gringe hodevaniye
If your goal is to be estranged from your family members, this is a good mantra.Don't. Let them know that respect is a two way street and if they don't respect how you and your wife want to parent your kids they don't need to be around that much. If you keep up with the appeasement it's only going to get worse.
If your goal is to be estranged from your family members, this is a good mantra.
Yeah, a quick good-bye would have been the right move. But they've overreacted with the above. They should have been helping with the kids at that late hour or at least anticipating you'd be leaving. The better concluding line should have simply been "Sorry we missed you!""Good morning. We came looking for you last night to give the kids something and you left without saying goodbye to mom, me and your grandparents. Really? Very hurtful and disrespectful."
I'm the master of the Irish hello. I just show up unexpectedly and usually uninvitedly. Just saunter over to the bar and act like I've always been there.The passive aggressive stuff kills me and always has the opposite effect of what they're looking for.
Irish goodbyes are the best and Im well known for them.
So everyone at the wedding sneaks out one-by-one without saying goodbye to the bride? Would be hilariously awesome.So you advocate approaching the bride and saying you are bailing on her party? I would never consider such a thing.
Maybe say goodbye to the mother.
Agree with you here, but a quick, "Mom/Dad, have to hop. See you again soon." Would take all of 5 seconds.I'm definitely someone who thinks a lot of "social courtesies" like this are a bit silly (especially when its someone you're going to see again in 3 days). And the long elaborate goodbye while holding a sleeping child would certainly be incredibly annoying. And if the end result was going to be a giant loud ordeal waking up the kid, I'd be pissed
But the escalation with the snarky text reply didnt do anyone any good. I get that there is history here, so its not fair to judge either side.
If the bolded is a common form of communication from them then I can understand how frustrating this relationship can be for you."Good morning. We came looking for you last night to give the kids something and you left without saying goodbye to mom, me and your grandparents. Really? Very hurtful and disrespectful."
Was this a sober reception? everybody seems uptight, and not in the good Stevie Wonder way.Both parties seem uptight. Should have said goodbye, parents should have understood if you didn't.
Have to hop?Agree with you here, but a quick, "Mom/Dad, have to hop. See you again soon." Would take all of 5 seconds.
If you know it is a bugaboo for your folks then I suggest you just try to appease. Keeps things on an even keel.
Probably don't take advice from this guy though.No, do no reward their poor behavior.
Probably don't take advice from this guy though.
You're a monster.Why do people care about "goodbyes"?
"Where are Jim and Kim?"
"They left about 10 minutes ago."
"Oh."
FIN
Probably.You're a monster.
In some cultures wiping your butt with a rag and a stick is good hygiene.In some cultures leaving without saying goodbye is disrespectful.
Look at this guy.In some cultures wiping your butt with a rag and a stick is good hygiene.
Look at this guy.
In some cultures when you say you are leaving....you leave!
https://forums.footballguys.com/forum/topic/761426-im-leaving-too-much-swearing/Look at this guy.
In some cultures when you say you are leaving....you leave!
wowMy moms brother cut off the entire family, including his parents over them leaving his wedding "early" (again, after midnight). Never talked to any of them again or even attended either of his parents funeral.
I don't think they're responding to you leaving; it's more to do with your response.Fair enough
Thx for replies. I have no problems saying I am ever wrong. I guess I just don't see how not saying goodbye matters but apparently it does to most people
They said their stuff first.I don't think they're responding to you leaving; it's more to do with your response.