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My Dad And Cancer (1 Viewer)
- Thread starter Joe Bryant
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ignatiusjreilly
Footballguy
So sorry to hear the news, Joe. My prayers are with you and your family.
Also very grateful that you were given the gift of being able to say goodbye to him and tell him what he meant to you
Also very grateful that you were given the gift of being able to say goodbye to him and tell him what he meant to you
GroveDiesel
Footballguy
Joe, this piece you tweeted out is so beautiful and touching. What a wonderful thing to have and to also express to your dad.
“But one of the things I told him was if I could draw up a script for a fantastic story with a father and son, I couldn't do better than the story we actually lived out together.”
“But one of the things I told him was if I could draw up a script for a fantastic story with a father and son, I couldn't do better than the story we actually lived out together.”
coopersdad
Footballguy
Thoughts with you and your family.
Corporation
Angry Bovine
I'm so sorry to hear this Joe, I'll be praying for your family. I'm thankful you got to spend that quality time with him and you have as much closure as you can on this side of life.
BobbyLayne
Footballguy
Sorry for your loss, Joe. We will hold the Bryant family in prayer.
Your dad sounds like a great man. I’m sure he was proud of you. Love how you are honoring his life. Thinking of you, brother man.
Your dad sounds like a great man. I’m sure he was proud of you. Love how you are honoring his life. Thinking of you, brother man.
General Malaise
Footballguy
Just read your beautiful and moving tribute to your dad on Twitter. Definitely choked up reading it as it brought back memories of being able to say the things I wanted to say to my mom before she died. Telling my mom she was my hero one final time was a real gift and I'm glad you had the chance to share your heart with your dad. Peace to you and your family, Joe.
James Bond
Footballguy
So sorry to hear, Joe. It's a reminder to all of us to appreciate our family members and let them know. Peace be with you.
Was able to add some more thoughts here.
Thanks y'all.
https://x.com/Football_Guys/status/1731675801563607046?s=20 - for a pic
Thanks y'all.
https://x.com/Football_Guys/status/1731675801563607046?s=20 - for a pic
Battersbox
Footballguy
I was very sorry to read the news on Twitter. Your post was heartwarming and heartbreaking at the same time.
Your written words often exude quite a bit of grace even when you're writing about frivolous things like fantasy football and other topics of the FFA. I hope it's comforting to know that you likely were gifted that grace from your Dad.
Blessings to you and your family.
Your written words often exude quite a bit of grace even when you're writing about frivolous things like fantasy football and other topics of the FFA. I hope it's comforting to know that you likely were gifted that grace from your Dad.
Blessings to you and your family.
Atomic Punk
Footballguy
What a fantastic picture of you and your Dad … you have the exact same look when you are smiling.
IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
Sorry for your loss, Joe. I'm happy that you got to cherish these last few weeks.
Bob Sacamano
Footballguy
Very sorry for your loss, Joe.
My dad fought bladder cancer for more than 20 years, but liver cancer is another animal. It took about 10 months.
The mental fitness to the end and acceptance of what was happening that you mentioned was huge imo. It's sad to miss them, but I find myself thinking more and more that it was a blessing my dad went before he became completely dependent on other people for everything. He would have hated that. Best wishes to you and your family through all of this.
My dad fought bladder cancer for more than 20 years, but liver cancer is another animal. It took about 10 months.
The mental fitness to the end and acceptance of what was happening that you mentioned was huge imo. It's sad to miss them, but I find myself thinking more and more that it was a blessing my dad went before he became completely dependent on other people for everything. He would have hated that. Best wishes to you and your family through all of this.
ignatiusjreilly
Footballguy
Most doctors, when they themselves near the end of their lives, tend to forego extraordinary measures to prolong their lifespan. There's a lesson in there
Dr_Zaius
Footballguy
Interesting. I had not heard that before, but it doesn't surprise me, as chemo and radiation as understood by the general populace are a lot different than the actual experience of the patients, family members, and medical staff who see such things first hand.
I actually had a friend who recovered from a really bad prognosis after a gruelingly awful hospital stay and treatment. He told us when he was in the process of gaining back the 50 pounds of weight he had lost (and he was not a large man) that he would have stopped his treatment if not for his kids.
Judge Smails
Footballguy
So sorry, Joe. Glad you got to have a heart to heart with your Dad before he passed. Hugs to the Bryant family.
Fantasy Girl
Footballguy
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing, and my deepest condolences to you and your family during this difficult time. I'm glad you were able to spend time with him in his final days.
St. Louis Bob
Footballguy
Much love to you Joe
IvanKaramazov
Footballguy
Good heavens that looks good. Your dad would be proud.
Mrs. Rannous
Footballguy
That looks like a great way to celebrate a life well lived.
rockaction
Footballguy
God bless, Joe. That looks wonderful. I hope the memorial service is all that you envisioned.
Dan Lambskin
Footballguy
Just saw this
So sorry Joe. Cancer is the worst. Lost a friend the other day. Has impacted a lot of family members as well
I’m luckily to have both parents around but I know those days are numbered
So sorry Joe. Cancer is the worst. Lost a friend the other day. Has impacted a lot of family members as well
I’m luckily to have both parents around but I know those days are numbered
Thanks y'all. It was a nice day yesterday. He died on the third so it was almost a month. In some ways that was a good thing as it let people process better. In other ways, I'd sort of been dreading it. I think on balance, it was good to have waited.
Cooking the BBQ was stressful but in the end, it was totally the right thing. It just made too much sense given he'd built the BBQ cooker.
Our normal crew for helping break down and chop the cooked BBQ were from his church and we had a dozen of his friends there a couple hours before the service to help do that. I think that was helpful for them too.
It was so sweet to see his friends.
One of his friends is 90 and still in great shape. Still walks 9 holes of golf almost every day. But at 90, he's no stranger to funerals for his friends.
He could barely talk and held on to my arm saying, "This one. This one is hard".
His church is relatively small with about 300 members but very active and his church community was a big part of his life.
My big worry was how we'd keep the BBQ warm in the couple of hours between getting it ready , then the service and then serving lunch. Turns out the little church kitchen had two brand new really nice ovens that did exactly what was needed. Later learned my Dad had bought those for the church last year.
They brought up a couple of his latest hot rod cars and parked them at the front door of the church.
The service was in the sanctuary of the church and sweet. 3 of his friends sang songs that my dad loved. And I asked 4 of his friends from different parts of his life to speak. They crushed it. One was a tough Special Forces retired Colonel who'd been friends with my dad since the 3rd grade. He told a few stories and fought back tears ending with, "He was my friend for 71 years". And then sat down. We could have ended it right there.
The others talked and then I was able to give a eulogy that kind of tied it all together. It was serious but light. I made a joke about him being a husband 3 times. But not all at the same time.
I was able to recognize a few people too and say thanks. I had a lot of people there tell me later that they knew my dad well but had a better picture of him after the service and learned some things they didn't know. So that's good.
And the BBQ crushed. Small churches in the South often have a multi use area that is a gym but also place to set up tables for a lunch or dinner. They did all that and it was great.
I felt relieved and better after it was over. And I think my Dad would have been happy and proud.
Cooking the BBQ was stressful but in the end, it was totally the right thing. It just made too much sense given he'd built the BBQ cooker.
Our normal crew for helping break down and chop the cooked BBQ were from his church and we had a dozen of his friends there a couple hours before the service to help do that. I think that was helpful for them too.
It was so sweet to see his friends.
One of his friends is 90 and still in great shape. Still walks 9 holes of golf almost every day. But at 90, he's no stranger to funerals for his friends.
He could barely talk and held on to my arm saying, "This one. This one is hard".
His church is relatively small with about 300 members but very active and his church community was a big part of his life.
My big worry was how we'd keep the BBQ warm in the couple of hours between getting it ready , then the service and then serving lunch. Turns out the little church kitchen had two brand new really nice ovens that did exactly what was needed. Later learned my Dad had bought those for the church last year.
They brought up a couple of his latest hot rod cars and parked them at the front door of the church.
The service was in the sanctuary of the church and sweet. 3 of his friends sang songs that my dad loved. And I asked 4 of his friends from different parts of his life to speak. They crushed it. One was a tough Special Forces retired Colonel who'd been friends with my dad since the 3rd grade. He told a few stories and fought back tears ending with, "He was my friend for 71 years". And then sat down. We could have ended it right there.
The others talked and then I was able to give a eulogy that kind of tied it all together. It was serious but light. I made a joke about him being a husband 3 times. But not all at the same time.
I was able to recognize a few people too and say thanks. I had a lot of people there tell me later that they knew my dad well but had a better picture of him after the service and learned some things they didn't know. So that's good.
And the BBQ crushed. Small churches in the South often have a multi use area that is a gym but also place to set up tables for a lunch or dinner. They did all that and it was great.
I felt relieved and better after it was over. And I think my Dad would have been happy and proud.
ZADO
Footballguy
What an amazing man he is and he raised an amazing man.
Thank you for sharing , i know its hard as ive been thru this myself when my dad was diagnosed with Cancer in his bladder . He passed away 2 months after they found the mass in his body . Its heart wrenching watching someone you loved and looked up and depended on suffer so and unable to stop it . All we can do is make it as comfortable as possible .
God bless
Thank you for sharing , i know its hard as ive been thru this myself when my dad was diagnosed with Cancer in his bladder . He passed away 2 months after they found the mass in his body . Its heart wrenching watching someone you loved and looked up and depended on suffer so and unable to stop it . All we can do is make it as comfortable as possible .
God bless
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