No. If you can afford a nice restaurant, you can afford a sitter.
We should go back to enforcing norms about certain spaces being reserved for adults. It's completely fine for us to say "I don't want to be around kids here -- I'll leave mine at home, and I expect that you'll do the same." Edit: This is the flip side of the "dog-friendly" restaurant. Restaurants that want to cater to people and their pets should feel free to do so without apology. Likewise, restaurants that want to cater to grown adults should be able to do that too.
If the kid is well behaved they will have no impact on your dining experience.
Sure they do. They're kids. They kill the mood.
There are lots of places that cater to families with kids. Stick to those and let us have our spaces too. (Actually I'm using the term "us" too broadly -- my wife and I cook for ourselves 99% of the time, so what do I care who takes who where.)
Oddly enough, this transpired last night. As a birthday gift, my dad likes to treat me to The Ringside, one of Portland's oldest and best steakhouses. For context, the steak I ordered was $83, servers wear bowties, light is dim, it's about as classy and elegant as you're going to get in Portland. Love it.
We arrive at 6:30, get taken to a table for two and I notice right away, we're going to be parked immediately to the left of a family of 5; mom, dad and three kids ranging of age I'm guessing from 7 to 12. There's about an arm's length between us, so very little in the way of privacy. I was slightly annoyed but also thought it was funny as this very situation was discussed in this thread so I treated it like a social experiment of sorts.
First off, I have 5 kids ranging in age from 20 to 7, so I'm certainly not anti-kid. But I wouldn't dream of bringing any of them to this establishment before they were at least 15/16 and of an age where I could 1) trust them not to be a dink and 2) old enough to appreciate a steak that costs more than my television set. That said, I'm also very used to minor and major annoyances of children as my little ones can be absolute terrors when they break down.
Anyhow, throughout our dinner, the only small bother was their youngest getting up and down several times to use the bathroom, whining about this or that or bugging his mom to use her phone/ipad whatever. I could tell some of the other diners around us were a touch annoyed as there were menacing glances thrown this table's way, but really, it wasn't like they were throwing food or shrieking. I mentioned it to my dad that it would have been nice to be seated elsewhere, but he just grinned and said they didn't bother him at all and thought they were fine.
Would I have rather a well-behaved dog next to us? Maybe, but I can't imagine a dog being docile and not begging with all that delicious meat around him/her. I have my dog with me right now in the office and he's asleep in his chair. But no WAY would he be well behaved with steak on the tables. He'd be pawing my lap, putting his head on my thigh, you name it.
I really don't have a point to any of this, just thought it was funny that I eat a fine restaurant MAYBE 2-3 times a year, would never consider bringing my kids with me until they are older and that we were talking about it just this week in here.
This has been GM for Youtube social experimentation